Anonymous
Post 04/27/2025 15:06     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:You're wrong. 6th grade and 11/12 years old is a totally normal time to start shaving legs.

Don't make your daughter into Lindsey Newberg, the only girl in my middle school who, in 8th grade, was still wearing undershirts rather than bras and not shaving, and everyone knew it.


Well, we know who one of the mean girls in middle school was.

(You, it was you PP)
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2025 05:25     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
My sister (13) taught me how to shave my legs when I was 10. My mom didn’t want me using a razor, so got me Nair, but soon decided the chemicals were worse.


My 12.5 yr old DD has started growing body hair and I told her it’s her choice if / when / how she removes it. So far she’s not interested. I’ve written about this on here before, but the summer I was 13 I begged my mom to get me a bikini wax because I was self conscious in bathing suits and I couldn’t shave me bikini line (it irritates my skin). She agreed but didn’t know what it was and then found out and booked us back to back appointments!
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 20:30     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
My DD has been shaving since end of third grade! She had hair and wanted to remove it. It’s fine!
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 20:18     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


Umm - there are no more corsets, girdles, slips, stockings, panty hose, and many boys and girls groom however they want. Get tats and piercings. Wear make-up or don’t. Shave or they don’t.

It’s a completely different generation.


Hygiene is still hygiene.


Wait, men don’t shave their pits or legs? So why do woman have to, to be considered clean?

Are all men unhygienic?


Yes more so. Duh.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:47     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


Umm - there are no more corsets, girdles, slips, stockings, panty hose, and many boys and girls groom however they want. Get tats and piercings. Wear make-up or don’t. Shave or they don’t.

It’s a completely different generation.


Hygiene is still hygiene.


Wait, men don’t shave their pits or legs? So why do woman have to, to be considered clean?

Are all men unhygienic?
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:37     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


Umm - there are no more corsets, girdles, slips, stockings, panty hose, and many boys and girls groom however they want. Get tats and piercings. Wear make-up or don’t. Shave or they don’t.

It’s a completely different generation.


Hygiene is still hygiene.


You are confusing this with hygiene. My daughter often doesn’t shave. She’s clean and hygienic but doesn’t care about hair. You can have hairy legs and arm pits and even hair on your lip and by hygienic. I mean, I don’t force my son to shave any of that to be hygienic.

I get it, I struggle with it too. But I support her. When she wanted hair removal products I bought or buy them. I try not to say anything when she lets it go. She knows I will pay for laser or removal if she wants that too (she’s a little older than OP’s daughter).
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:29     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


Umm - there are no more corsets, girdles, slips, stockings, panty hose, and many boys and girls groom however they want. Get tats and piercings. Wear make-up or don’t. Shave or they don’t.

It’s a completely different generation.


Hygiene is still hygiene.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:28     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


DP, but the PP is right. Shaving or not isn’t a big deal anymore. Maybe teen girls are skipping it.


But they aren't. Unless they are wanting to be dateless-wonders, which would be very few girls.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:15     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
My 12 year old son shaves his little mustache and waxes his unibrow so I’m sure why you are forbidding this.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 16:11     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


Umm - there are no more corsets, girdles, slips, stockings, panty hose, and many boys and girls groom however they want. Get tats and piercings. Wear make-up or don’t. Shave or they don’t.

It’s a completely different generation.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 07:57     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.


I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.


This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.


What fantasy world do you live in?


DP, but the PP is right. Shaving or not isn’t a big deal anymore. Maybe teen girls are skipping it.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 06:52     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:Dad here with a young teen daughter.

She does makeup, shaving legs, etc.

I am fine with whatever she wants to do for her own personal hygiene and grooming. But no, I will not be spending a bazillion dollars at Sephora.


This is where I am. There’s another thread about a girl who wants to dye her hair. I would be fine if she went to cvs like we did when we were kids and picked up something - maybe it worked, maybe it didn’t. Maybe it looks bad for a while. But I’m not paying hundreds of dollars for someone with no job to get their hair done.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 00:32     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Dad here with a young teen daughter.

She does makeup, shaving legs, etc.

I am fine with whatever she wants to do for her own personal hygiene and grooming. But no, I will not be spending a bazillion dollars at Sephora.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2025 23:03     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
Anonymous wrote:PP that allows 10 yr old to wear make up- question- would you also allow a 8 yr old to leave house in makeup? What about 6 yr old? I’m sure you can understand that little girls wearing makeup doesn’t have to do with sexuality rather than looking ridiculous and trying to “pretend grownup.” When I see girls wearing makeup prior to middle school/puberty- that’s what they look like to me, playing dress up and silly.


Sure. But let kids be kids.
I just wouldn't spend a lot of money on makeup junk though, not for kids or even myself.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2025 22:54     Subject: Too soon to shave legs?
PP that allows 10 yr old to wear make up- question- would you also allow a 8 yr old to leave house in makeup? What about 6 yr old? I’m sure you can understand that little girls wearing makeup doesn’t have to do with sexuality rather than looking ridiculous and trying to “pretend grownup.” When I see girls wearing makeup prior to middle school/puberty- that’s what they look like to me, playing dress up and silly.