Nope and now no gift.

I would accept a general guideline, such as warm colors, or cold colors. Asking for a specific color is too much of a burden for the guests.

Anonymous wrote:Thoughts on wedding invitation giving instructions on what colors guests can and can't wear to the wedding?

Ridiculous. I would wear what I want

I would RSVP no. They can dictate all they want, but that doesn't mean I'll attend.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so tired of everything needing to look like a magazine photo shoot. Coordinate the wedding party and parents and state the level of formality. Anything beyond that is just ridiculous.

+1 I hate this

Shows me they care more about Instagram than celebrating with friends and family as real people.

Yes, more focus on the photos and projecting the perfect image than your friends and family celebrating with you. Anything beyond telling your bridesmaids and the mothers what colors/dresses to wear is beyond rude. The invite should suggest the type of dress e.g. casual, cocktail, formal and that’s it.

OP if this is your daughter please guide her. Your friends/family IRL aren’t going to want to tell you your daughter is tacky and entitled but they will judge you and be annoyed. It’s RARE that there is this level of consensus on DCUM!!!!

I think it's fine to share what the wedding palette is and invite guests to dress in it if they *choose* to. it should be 100 percent optional. I have colors that I am very uncomfortable in and would not want to buy an unflattering outfit for the sake of a wedding.

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. Just as bad as a designation wedding. I would
send my regrets.

Oh I love designation weddings! I just designate someone to take my place. Easy.

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely a thing now even if the olds don't like it. (I am an old.)

You are right. They’re definitely more narcissistic and self-centered people around now.

I usually try to find out what color the bride’s maids and mothers’ dresses are and avoid those.

Tacky. Just as bad as a designation wedding. I would
send my regrets.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I will wear whatever I want to wear. I’m a grownup.

Or I just won't go.

Dear guest,
Please do not wear your white sequined suit to my wedding.
Thank you.

Yes, she did.

Brides, don’t do this, it’s stupid.

This

Anonymous wrote:I'm so tired of everything needing to look like a magazine photo shoot. Coordinate the wedding party and parents and state the level of formality. Anything beyond that is just ridiculous.

+1 I hate this

Shows me they care more about Instagram than celebrating with friends and family as real people

We had guests visit from across the country and othet parts of the world. I am so grateful they came. They already spent time, money, vacation time, etc. the last thing I would have wanted to do would be to burden them further.

what did the invite say?