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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where you live is not his concern. Whether you do your job effectively and are in the office when needed is.

OK,so if this guy likes 4:00 meetings, but then it's two hours home, I'm sunk. He walks home and I'm exhausted from fighting traffic, which obviously affects performance.

Then you say "Jack, would it be possible to reschedule to 3:30 so that I can leave at 4:30? If I leave any later than that, my commute is a nightmare". But OP, make sure you're working a full 8 hour day.

Often bosses schedule meetings at 4 or 430 because they have meetings earlier in the day. They don’t do end of day meetings for fun. At my office leaving at 4pm when you can is fine. Asking people to reschedule so you can regularly leave at 4 most days would not fly. At my office it is easier for people to regularly come in a little late. But it really depends on the office culture.

The people who don’t understand OP probably don’t live in the DMV. Commutes are so bad here that lots of people do 6am-2pm or 11am-7pm schedules.

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Anonymous wrote:He lives in the same town as the company. I commute 1 hr 15 minutes each way. And if I don't get there/leave at certain times, it's 2 hrs each way.

Concerned he is going to expect same hours in office as him. Which cannot happen based on balancing family needs. WWYD?

Move

DCUM loves to assume everybody lives far away so they can have a giant house. In reality people live where they do because that's what they can afford or that's where their spouse's job is or, sometimes, because they need to be close to something like a specialty school or aging parents. Most people can't just relocate their family for a job, especially given how unreliable jobs are these days.

OP, I would start job hunting anyway - not because your boss is going to cause an issue, but because 1:15 each way is no picnic to begin with.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think having 4pm meetings is pretty unusual actually: my work place is across several time zones but there is a mindfulness about not scheduling too late into the day. 3pm is really the last slot we'd have unless there is some sort of emergency.

Obviously you are not in multiple time zones. 4 pm is only 1 pm for co-workers in San Fran.

I am and my point is the PST people are accommodating, as are the EST people: we schedule between 11 and 3 EST.

That’s stoopid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where you live is not his concern. Whether you do your job effectively and are in the office when needed is.

OK,so if this guy likes 4:00 meetings, but then it's two hours home, I'm sunk. He walks home and I'm exhausted from fighting traffic, which obviously affects performance.

Then you say "Jack, would it be possible to reschedule to 3:30 so that I can leave at 4:30? If I leave any later than that, my commute is a nightmare". But OP, make sure you're working a full 8 hour day.

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you are concentrating on this seems to be a big red flag about you

No way. You haven’t had a toxic boss. A good boss won’t care but a bad one will want you on their hours. I would get ahead of it and share your schedule as information and like others say offer what flexibilities you do have.