Anonymous
04/09/2025 07:35
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
In the same way donations greed the wheels of politics (ask Elon musk), donations in schools are done to achieve a wide array of benefits including prestige, influence school budget and priorities, and the recruitment of your favorite HOS candidates. Does anyone really think this is something honest at all?
Anonymous
04/08/2025 21:33
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
...thousand?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What are the cutoffs for the top tierAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently.
Probably $200
Anonymous
04/08/2025 21:06
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:What are the cutoffs for the top tierAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently.
Probably $200
Anonymous
04/08/2025 21:03
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
What are the cutoffs for the top tierAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 21:00
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently. There have been multiple times when the school didn’t handle things they way I would have liked. Of course, I’ve never gone running to the HOS. I also don’t spend mental energy on stupid topics like this. Even people with a lot of money, like me, have way more important things to worry about in life than this nonsense. I envy OP if this is her biggest worry.
I think you are also consistently in the highest level of obnoxiousness. If you don’t like what I write , just don’t read it. Easy.
NP - FFIW, the PP seems a lot higher quality than the OP.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 20:49
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently. There have been multiple times when the school didn’t handle things they way I would have liked. Of course, I’ve never gone running to the HOS. I also don’t spend mental energy on stupid topics like this. Even people with a lot of money, like me, have way more important things to worry about in life than this nonsense. I envy OP if this is her biggest worry.
I think you are also consistently in the highest level of obnoxiousness. If you don’t like what I write , just don’t read it. Easy.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 20:36
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:When a wealthy parent donates a large amount of money to a private school, the family may benefit in a number of indirect but meaningful ways. These aren’t usually part of any formal agreement, but they tend to happen in subtle, informal ways that are well understood within school communities.
One area where this can happen is in how the donor's child is treated. Families who give large donations may see advantages during the admissions process, with their children receiving a closer look or more favorable consideration. Once enrolled, these students might get placed in preferred classrooms or receive more leniency when disciplinary issues come up. While this isn’t guaranteed, it’s often perceived to be the case.
Wealthy donors also tend to gain influence and access. They may have a direct line to school leadership, such as the head of school or board members, and their concerns are often addressed more quickly. In some cases, they’re even invited to sit on advisory boards or committees, giving them a voice in how the school is run.
There’s also the social side of things. Major donors tend to gain prestige and visibility in the school community. Their names might appear on buildings, in programs, or be announced at school events. This visibility can translate into social capital among other parents, and sometimes into valuable networking opportunities.
Finally, large donations can create longer-term benefits. Some believe that influential families receive stronger letters of recommendation when it comes time for college applications. Others view these donations as part of a broader strategy to build a reputation in philanthropic or elite circles.
Don't forget sports - donor kids get put on the varsity teams whether they are good or not.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 20:34
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
let's be real, of course it drives favors and there is nothing wrong with that. If a family gives a six figure donation (or seven!) of course they want some special treatment and they are going to get it.
the families who are benefitting from that, especially the ones who are attending the school for free, should be grateful and not complain about "special treatment," whether real or perceived. sheesh.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 20:30
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently. There have been multiple times when the school didn’t handle things they way I would have liked. Of course, I’ve never gone running to the HOS. I also don’t spend mental energy on stupid topics like this. Even people with a lot of money, like me, have way more important things to worry about in life than this nonsense. I envy OP if this is her biggest worry.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 20:02
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
cant you drop off a money order and keep the stub as proof?Anonymous wrote:
If you REALLY want to be truly anonymous, send cash without a return address on the envelope. But you won't be able to claim it on your taxes, because you won't be able to provide a written acknowledgement as proof.
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Anonymous
04/08/2025 19:49
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
Not true at all. When you donate, even if you check the "anonymous" box, those of us working behind the scenes know who the gift is from. We have to! Otherwise, we can't properly record the gift, nor can we generate the IRS-required acknowledgements.
If you want to "hide" your information from a charity, you need to donate through another giving vehicle, be it a donor advised fund or third party platform and specify that your information is not to be passed on. But, again, whoever you give that money to to facilitate the gift to a nonprofit will know it came from you because they have to properly account for it and provide an acknowledgement.
If you REALLY want to be truly anonymous, send cash without a return address on the envelope. But you won't be able to claim it on your taxes, because you won't be able to provide a written acknowledgement as proof.
If you check the "this is an anonymous donation " box we will absolutely honor that by not publishing your name in our annual report or putting it on a donor wall.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 19:39
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Donation are public to elicit more donations. Donors don’t want anything else …… except large donor treatment.
No wonder the large donor culture in America has resulted in widespread corrruption.
No wonder the large donor culture in America has resulted in widespread corrruption.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 19:29
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
When a wealthy parent donates a large amount of money to a private school, the family may benefit in a number of indirect but meaningful ways. These aren’t usually part of any formal agreement, but they tend to happen in subtle, informal ways that are well understood within school communities.
One area where this can happen is in how the donor's child is treated. Families who give large donations may see advantages during the admissions process, with their children receiving a closer look or more favorable consideration. Once enrolled, these students might get placed in preferred classrooms or receive more leniency when disciplinary issues come up. While this isn’t guaranteed, it’s often perceived to be the case.
Wealthy donors also tend to gain influence and access. They may have a direct line to school leadership, such as the head of school or board members, and their concerns are often addressed more quickly. In some cases, they’re even invited to sit on advisory boards or committees, giving them a voice in how the school is run.
There’s also the social side of things. Major donors tend to gain prestige and visibility in the school community. Their names might appear on buildings, in programs, or be announced at school events. This visibility can translate into social capital among other parents, and sometimes into valuable networking opportunities.
Finally, large donations can create longer-term benefits. Some believe that influential families receive stronger letters of recommendation when it comes time for college applications. Others view these donations as part of a broader strategy to build a reputation in philanthropic or elite circles.
One area where this can happen is in how the donor's child is treated. Families who give large donations may see advantages during the admissions process, with their children receiving a closer look or more favorable consideration. Once enrolled, these students might get placed in preferred classrooms or receive more leniency when disciplinary issues come up. While this isn’t guaranteed, it’s often perceived to be the case.
Wealthy donors also tend to gain influence and access. They may have a direct line to school leadership, such as the head of school or board members, and their concerns are often addressed more quickly. In some cases, they’re even invited to sit on advisory boards or committees, giving them a voice in how the school is run.
There’s also the social side of things. Major donors tend to gain prestige and visibility in the school community. Their names might appear on buildings, in programs, or be announced at school events. This visibility can translate into social capital among other parents, and sometimes into valuable networking opportunities.
Finally, large donations can create longer-term benefits. Some believe that influential families receive stronger letters of recommendation when it comes time for college applications. Others view these donations as part of a broader strategy to build a reputation in philanthropic or elite circles.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 17:53
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:the best is when private prep schools sell naming rights on a classroom or science labAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
This is stupid logic. I’d love to donate $250K to my school but I can’t. If another parent can afford to make that donation, and the school makes her a board member or gives her special plaque, that’s fine with me. It’s not corruption because the alternative is we get nothing.
That’s more transparent at least. You know what the donor is paying for. Helping the school and recognition.
Especially if the alternative is no new classrooms or labs at all.
Anonymous
04/08/2025 17:36
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:the best is when private prep schools sell naming rights on a classroom or science labAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
This is stupid logic. I’d love to donate $250K to my school but I can’t. If another parent can afford to make that donation, and the school makes her a board member or gives her special plaque, that’s fine with me. It’s not corruption because the alternative is we get nothing.
That’s more transparent at least. You know what the donor is paying for. Helping the school and recognition.