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Anonymous wrote:My kid took the entrance exam and has a good chance of getting in based on comparing notes with the other kids from his school who took the test (few took the test and several who did were either stumped by the math problem or did not finish the essays). But he does not want to go and I am not going to push him to go if he does get in. I wish the school was more like Harvard where the hardest thing is getting in. I don't think a cut throat, super competitive high school environment is actually that helpful for long term success.

DD is a junior. Her experience has not been “cut throat”. But the school has also intentionally tried to tone down the hyper competitiveness vibe that it seemed to have acquired in recent years.

While I much prefer Mr. Mukai as TJ’s principal, I can appreciate Dr. Bonitatibus’ intense focus on TJ students’ social and emotional well-being.

TJ is not easy. It is most definitely not the right fit for the vast majority of learners in FCPS.

But it need not be cut throat, and Dr. Bonitatibus sought out ways to increase a sense of collaboration and teamwork amongst the student body at TJ.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely wouldn't force them. TJ isn't for everyone and if the kid isn't fully in you are setting yourself up for failure. Most kids will still excel at their local school.

Some posters here will say things like Don't go but it's not because they believe this, but to create waitlist movement. I'd try to understand the students reasons for reluctance to better evaluate this.

And some of us legitimately have experience, but enjoy your conspiracy theory.

Yes, some of us have experience with pushy parents who will do anything to get their kid in like make up BS to create waitlist movement.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely wouldn't force them. TJ isn't for everyone and if the kid isn't fully in you are setting yourself up for failure. Most kids will still excel at their local school.

Some posters here will say things like Don't go but it's not because they believe this, but to create waitlist movement. I'd try to understand the students reasons for reluctance to better evaluate this.

And some of us legitimately have experience, but enjoy your conspiracy theory.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely wouldn't force them. TJ isn't for everyone and if the kid isn't fully in you are setting yourself up for failure. Most kids will still excel at their local school.

Some posters here will say things like Don't go but it's not because they believe this, but to create waitlist movement. I'd try to understand the students reasons for reluctance to better evaluate this.

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely wouldn't force them. TJ isn't for everyone and if the kid isn't fully in you are setting yourself up for failure. Most kids will still excel at their local school.

Anonymous wrote:Hypothetically, if your child does NOT want to go to TJ but ends up admitted to the class of 2029, should you, as the parent, force them into going anyway?

Yes / no. Why / why not?

Anonymous wrote:I didn't want to go, my parents first tried bribing me and then told me that's where I was going regardless of what I wanted. Once I found my group I loved it and I am glad I went. I am still very close to a lot of my TJ friends 20+ years later. BUT I would not push my children to go. Why? Because my kids don't love STEM. I really enjoyed math and logic so it was a better fit for me, also it's much more competitive seeming now than when I went. If my children want to go we will consider it, but not planning on forcing them.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you strongly encourage- not force- your child if the students says “I don’t know” to TJ attendance? The student has strong math/science grades (99% IAAT, all As without retakes); the student is very reserved so he won’t decide on anything if he isn’t 100% sure he likes it/can do it; the student lacks confidence because there are “smarter” (child’s own words) kids in his base school whom he thinks should definitely go to TJ; the students is likely to pursue a STEM career because he is very “practical” in terms of finding jobs or income prospects in the future.

The bolded is pretty important to me, as someone who lived through TJ in what most would say was a less-competitive time. I would say TJ is a pretty rough environment for kids who lack academic confidence. Kids like your child who easily get As will suddenly be surrounded by everyone else who has also easily gotten As all their lives, and the competition was fierce even when I was there. It's wasn't competitive in a "I will take you out to get my own advantage" way either, but there was just a lot of academic one-up-manship.

Go to TJ because you want the post-AP classes they offer. Go to TJ for the peer group. Go to TJ because you are passionate about tech labs and mentorship. Go to TJ because you do math for fun. Go to TJ because you think science is amazing.

But I wouldn't say going to TJ is great because your kid will probably go into STEM because you can usually make a living that way. That's not passion, that's settling.

A place like TJ is not good for your academic confidence. It is a good place to get humbled.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you strongly encourage- not force- your child if the students says “I don’t know” to TJ attendance? The student has strong math/science grades (99% IAAT, all As without retakes); the student is very reserved so he won’t decide on anything if he isn’t 100% sure he likes it/can do it; the student lacks confidence because there are “smarter” (child’s own words) kids in his base school whom he thinks should definitely go to TJ; the students is likely to pursue a STEM career because he is very “practical” in terms of finding jobs or income prospects in the future.

The bolded is pretty important to me, as someone who lived through TJ in what most would say was a less-competitive time. I would say TJ is a pretty rough environment for kids who lack academic confidence. Kids like your child who easily get As will suddenly be surrounded by everyone else who has also easily gotten As all their lives, and the competition was fierce even when I was there. It's wasn't competitive in a "I will take you out to get my own advantage" way either, but there was just a lot of academic one-up-manship.

Go to TJ because you want the post-AP classes they offer. Go to TJ for the peer group. Go to TJ because you are passionate about tech labs and mentorship. Go to TJ because you do math for fun. Go to TJ because you think science is amazing.

But I wouldn't say going to TJ is great because your kid will probably go into STEM because you can usually make a living that way. That's not passion, that's settling.

Anonymous wrote:I am in the opposite situation. My kid really wants to go to TJ and I think his base school would be a better fit. I want him to get in and decide he doesn't want to go, so he doesn't feel rejected, but I think if he gets in he will not turn it down. Just a few more days to wait...

Anonymous wrote:You have to know you're kid, not who you think your kid is. For one of my kids, they got in and there was zero hesitation that it was the right choice. The other, not so much and they stayed at base HS. Both were the correct choice for each individual kid.