I like good and moral guys - and usually these guys are balanced and decent.

I was never attracted to bad boys and I married my DH 35 years ago and I saw my wonderful life unfold with him. Everything worked out well - family, kids, friends, finance, peace of mind. And we have been able to overcome the good and bad together - death, disease, uncertainty.

Anonymous wrote:I like shy/reserved, but they have to be able to talk, and when they do, they must be smart, funny and kind. Very hot that they are confident and don't need to be loud/brassy/annoying to try to get attention.

Well said!

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Anonymous wrote:Sure. Lots of women do. They call it the strong silent type.

(When women are attracted to men, they don’t call them shy.)

So not true. DH is shy. I married him. It takes all types. I have 2 shy girls and there is a very high possibility they will marry shy smart men with a good sense of humor. Why? Because their dad, uncles, and gradnpas are like that. Their model of men is smart, funny, kind, and .....shy.

This is great, as long as they are also self confident and decisive as well.

I would be fine with it but I’ve never actually dated a shy guy because I’m shy myself. I need a guy who can pull me out of my shell a bit otherwise we’d just be two shy people sitting in silence.

I have dated fellow introverts though. When I date extroverts I am forced to be less antisocial, though lol

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Anonymous wrote:I like shy/reserved, but they have to be able to talk, and when they do, they must be smart, funny and kind. Very hot that they are confident and don't need to be loud/brassy/annoying to try to get attention.

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All of this! I actually cannot stand the many men who take up so much space when and walk like they've rides a horse for a week. Give me a smart silent controlled guy any day.

“ I actually cannot stand the many men who take up so much space when and walk like they've rides a horse for a week. “

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I like shy, awkward guys. Can’t stand smooth men. Smooth tells me you’ve said it all before….probably to dozens of other women.

Yes and no. I avoided the smooth talkers for the smart quieter good looking type. Turns out he’s on the spectrum so our talking and sharing has kind of trailed off.

Anonymous wrote:People often confuse shy and introverted. There are social introverts. I am married to one.

I don't want to be with a guy who can't deal with himself at a party and who I have to babysit or is a stage 10 clinger or who just avoids normal social situations. Had one of these boyfriends in my 20s. It's easy to get caught up in the idea oh this person is shy and quiet but I am special and have broken through and he talks to me. Nope. It's exhausting.

Stage 10 Clinger
= Absolute NO-GO!

My is not an introvert. He likes to read a room first. There are some obnoxious, loud mouth jerks he prefer not to engage with.

He’s perfect just the way he is.

Anonymous wrote:I like shy/reserved, but they have to be able to talk, and when they do, they must be smart, funny and kind. Very hot that they are confident and don't need to be loud/brassy/annoying to try to get attention.

×1000

All of this! I actually cannot stand the many men who take up so much space when and walk like they've rides a horse for a week. Give me a smart silent controlled guy any day.

Anonymous wrote:People often confuse shy and introverted. There are social introverts. I am married to one.

I don't want to be with a guy who can't deal with himself at a party and who I have to babysit or is a stage 10 clinger or who just avoids normal social situations. Had one of these boyfriends in my 20s. It's easy to get caught up in the idea oh this person is shy and quiet but I am special and have broken through and he talks to me. Nope. It's exhausting.

This is all true. And a shy introverted guy who is confident can handle himself just fine at a party. My husband is shy AND introverted. He is also a social chameleon. He's confident so socially he's fine on his own. On the flip side - he finds parties exhausting and needs time to recover - the definition of an introvert. The shy part rarely becomes a hindrance at parties because we know so many people. Once critical mass is reached its so easy to float around at parties and never leave your comfort zone. I only notice his shy behavior in crowds of people we don't know, like a Christmas market in Germany. He has a hard time fighting to the front of the queue or getting the vendor's attention.

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Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't have thought that so many women like extroverted, loud, maga rapists. Shows you why the orange man won.

White women preferred him.

Please drop this tired narrative. Most of the change in the election is attributable to swings in minority voting demographics.

Tired narrative? More white women voted for Trump than voted for Harris. It's a simple fact. The white women who bothered to vote preferred Trump. Nobody should care about the people who didn't bother to vote.

How many of those white woman voted that way to keep the peace at home in true rural America?

Anonymous wrote:I'm a shy man and women like me once they get to know me - but getting to that point can be difficult.

This.

I'm a woman and prefer shy men who don't think they have to be aggressive. Aggression is a huge turnoff for me.

PP here. I wonder if introverted guys are less likely to cheat as well.

Anonymous wrote:Sure. Lots of women do. They call it the strong silent type.

(When women are attracted to men, they don’t call them shy.)

So not true. DH is shy. I married him. It takes all types. I have 2 shy girls and there is a very high possibility they will marry shy smart men with a good sense of humor. Why? Because their dad, uncles, and gradnpas are like that. Their model of men is smart, funny, kind, and .....shy.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard pass on the extroverted men. The loud ones are interesting at first sight but can become annoying after a while.

DH is introverted. I can see how he can be glossed over by women as he naturally doesn't care to engage with strangers.

That said, he runs a business with 200+ people.
Is assertive and confident, and can mingle and be charming like anyone else. It just takes more energy for him to socialize with others who he doesn't know well, and h'de much rather spend time with family and close friends than hit happy hours. I am ore than happy with this!

Gold-digger?

We do have gold to dig now, but I married him when he had not even fool's gold.