Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If kids are checked out of their discipline and commitment to their team in March when the season ends in June, its not the fault of early tryouts.

I don't think people are saying the kids lose their discipline and commitment to playing soccer for the team. But the social dynamic is a mess. Kids (and their parents) who view themselves as moving up can develop toxic egos. Kids who are being cut are either mad as hell or dejected. The kids are less committed to their social relationships with teammates who won't be on the same team next year. It is ridiculous and unnecessary (except for the club's interests). Also, at young ages, kids are developing rapidly. A borderline U11 kid could decisively move up or down in the depth chart over a Spring season and summer.

The Toxicity is the Parents fault

Kids raised right would make the new team and still show up at the current team as if nothing happened to finish out the season at 100%

THIS! We have one offer we want already and know we are leaving. We missed a tryout recently because my child committed to his current team and a tournament. I have a little bit of anxiety because I don't think our current club knows we are leaving but it was recommended by more experienced parents that we wait until we are even offered a spot for next year on our own team to let our current club know which I think is a fair approach. Our commitment to our current club and my child's commitment have not changed. This is leadership/parenting problem, not a club problem. If a kid has an ego because they are leaving, that is a teachable moment to my kid on how "not to act."

Anonymous wrote:More annoying than the early tryouts is the fact that players keep randomly dropping into practice or scrimmaging with current team members before the official tryout date. Why don’t people just go through the proper tryout process? This disrupts our team dynamic since current players end up practicing with five or six different newcomers, all while knowing that roster spots won’t increase. That means someone will have to lose their spot next season, which creates unnecessary stress and uncertainty.

If an occasional drop-in to your kids training session derails their focus on their own development, it's not the visitors fault

Sounds like a bad team desperate for players. I woild wonder why kids quit the team mid season.

Anonymous wrote:More annoying than the early tryouts is the fact that players keep randomly dropping into practice or scrimmaging with current team members before the official tryout date. Why don’t people just go through the proper tryout process? This disrupts our team dynamic since current players end up practicing with five or six different newcomers, all while knowing that roster spots won’t increase. That means someone will have to lose their spot next season, which creates unnecessary stress and uncertainty.

I’m new to travel soccer. Previously we’ve done rec. I reached out to a club that a kid on my kids basketball team is on and the coach asked us to come to a regular practice and they’d assess her. It wasn’t my choice. I don’t know if the team even has official tryouts.
They offered her a spot on the team and said she could start now. Not sure we will because of other commitments. I was thinking we’d start in the fall.
We’re in the NCSL league, I have no idea what that means though.

Anonymous wrote:More annoying than the early tryouts is the fact that players keep randomly dropping into practice or scrimmaging with current team members before the official tryout date. Why don’t people just go through the proper tryout process? This disrupts our team dynamic since current players end up practicing with five or six different newcomers, all while knowing that roster spots won’t increase. That means someone will have to lose their spot next season, which creates unnecessary stress and uncertainty.

That's how the game is played.

Anonymous wrote:More annoying than the early tryouts is the fact that players keep randomly dropping into practice or scrimmaging with current team members before the official tryout date. Why don’t people just go through the proper tryout process? This disrupts our team dynamic since current players end up practicing with five or six different newcomers, all while knowing that roster spots won’t increase. That means someone will have to lose their spot next season, which creates unnecessary stress and uncertainty.

Your coach invited them

More annoying than the early tryouts is the fact that players keep randomly dropping into practice or scrimmaging with current team members before the official tryout date. Why don’t people just go through the proper tryout process? This disrupts our team dynamic since current players end up practicing with five or six different newcomers, all while knowing that roster spots won’t increase. That means someone will have to lose their spot next season, which creates unnecessary stress and uncertainty.

Anonymous wrote:Related to this, when clubs are moving kids up or down between first and second teams within the club, why don't they just go ahead and do it for the Spring season? They are willing to open the door to this awkwardness with early tryouts, but not simply move the kids as soon as the decision is made? It would alleviate some of the mess to just move the kids right away.

some clubs do this during a winter evaluation with player and parent. So there are movements of players

Related to this, when clubs are moving kids up or down between first and second teams within the club, why don't they just go ahead and do it for the Spring season? They are willing to open the door to this awkwardness with early tryouts, but not simply move the kids as soon as the decision is made? It would alleviate some of the mess to just move the kids right away.

Only one triggerred here is you bub. Time to face the wo/man in the mirror

Who gets offended by someone calling out toxic parents?

A. Toxic Parent
B. Toxic Parent
C. Toxic Parent
D. All the above

Your feelings don't matter in this case worry about your own kid