Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

Lelo.com

which one? Does it feel like THE REAL THING?

I personally don’t believe any electronic aid can simulate actual s*x with a man. However, battery/ plug in toys can certainly bring you to the big O.

That being said, while wands are popular and reliable, they lack the feeling of penetration.

Luckily, Lelo has solutions in the form of “rabbit” type toys, including their models Enigma, Ina, and Soraya.

There are other companies which make toys intended use in the female-superior position (so called cowgirl), such as the Sybian, which have great reviews but are quite a bit larger.

Anonymous wrote:I would also be okay never doing it again. 44, definitely not overweight, with an attentive DH who does his fair share. It honestly feels like a chore, and there have been enough times that it’s gone on too long for it to be enjoyable/feels invasive that my body just kind of freezes up when he initiates. Like another PP, I will usually initiate during ovulation or my period, but that’s pretty much it. I do feel bad and wish things were different.

Hi PP!

Is there any chance the real issue here is: you are a lesbian and are finally coming to terms with that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

Lelo.com

which one? Does it feel like THE REAL THING?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

Lelo.com

+1 I love my siri!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

I have many, and almost always use this:

https://www.rosetoy-official.com/products/1023340-silica-gel-rose-toy-red

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would also be okay never doing it again. 44, definitely not overweight, with an attentive DH who does his fair share. It honestly feels like a chore, and there have been enough times that it’s gone on too long for it to be enjoyable/feels invasive that my body just kind of freezes up when he initiates. Like another PP, I will usually initiate during ovulation or my period, but that’s pretty much it. I do feel bad and wish things were different.

If you love someone, let them go . . .

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

Lelo.com

And I don’t know why there is a smiley

Anonymous wrote:If you're not feeling attractive or loved, that may effect libido. Listening to sex podcast together may get you excited. If he's not giving you orgasms, then he needs to learn how.

We have the opposite situationH has zero interest. Looking into vibrators, any recommendations?

Anonymous wrote:I would also be okay never doing it again. 44, definitely not overweight, with an attentive DH who does his fair share. It honestly feels like a chore, and there have been enough times that it’s gone on too long for it to be enjoyable/feels invasive that my body just kind of freezes up when he initiates. Like another PP, I will usually initiate during ovulation or my period, but that’s pretty much it. I do feel bad and wish things were different.

If you love someone, let them go . . .

I would also be okay never doing it again. 44, definitely not overweight, with an attentive DH who does his fair share. It honestly feels like a chore, and there have been enough times that it’s gone on too long for it to be enjoyable/feels invasive that my body just kind of freezes up when he initiates. Like another PP, I will usually initiate during ovulation or my period, but that’s pretty much it. I do feel bad and wish things were different.

OP, it's on you to "get in the mood"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t wait until you are in the mood. Many times just doing it will lead to a desire to do it.

This and the more you do it generally the more you want to.

This is not true in perimenopause/ menopause. I would be happy never doing it again!

That’s not really the case with self-care, which often leads to more frequent and enjoyable self-care.

I wish there were a way that we could all sort ourselves from the beginning for compatibility here. Menopause has made me so horny and my DH would rather not.

Actually, I wish marriage and sex didn’t have to be so connected. I wish it were ok for OP (or my DH!) to actually tell her husband that she knows he won’t leave her, so go take care of it elsewhere. I think mine would if it were societally acceptable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t wait until you are in the mood. Many times just doing it will lead to a desire to do it.

This and the more you do it generally the more you want to.

This is not true in perimenopause/ menopause. I would be happy never doing it again!