I think 40-45 as the start of middle age. And 65 as the start of “old”. 80 as the start of “elderly” which to me seems more old.

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Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Cool, you're the exception rather than the rule. Many women struggle finding themselves after decades of caregiving and feel lost & unseen. It's great that you do not relate, but that doesn't make it true.

Maybe the ones that never worked

Anonymous wrote:In 1929s, 55 was considered old, 65 was very old.

How about now?

Did anyone feel old at 50?

No I had a blast in my 50s (lived in new country, learned new language, acquired advanced degree, made many new friends, and did tons of volunteer work). Even my early 60s are not that bad so far.

I think a lot depends on lifestyle and access to good quality medical care - have great medical team/ eat well/ exercise regularly and have strong social relationships (stable partnership, good friends, faith community or some other sense of belonging to a group and creating a sense of meaning in your life).

That said I am slowing down and pace myself.

Current events are terrifying but so grateful to have family and good friends and faith community to accompany me on the wild ride.

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Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Cool, you're the exception rather than the rule. Many women struggle finding themselves after decades of caregiving and feel lost & unseen. It's great that you do not relate, but that doesn't make it true.

Don’t listen to the lies. Most 50-something women I know are loving life. I don’t know anyone who feels lost or unseen. You must be young.

DP. It seems to me that no one who feels that way would actually confide in you.

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Anonymous wrote:White Lotus--Michelle Monaghan is 50. She certainly doesn't look or act old.

Actually she's 48.

Does it actually matter? 2 years is close enough; we’re not in elementary school.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Cool, you're the exception rather than the rule. Many women struggle finding themselves after decades of caregiving and feel lost & unseen. It's great that you do not relate, but that doesn't make it true.

Don’t listen to the lies. Most 50-something women I know are loving life. I don’t know anyone who feels lost or unseen. You must be young.

You’re both taking your anecdatal experience and attempting to make it universal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Cool, you're the exception rather than the rule. Many women struggle finding themselves after decades of caregiving and feel lost & unseen. It's great that you do not relate, but that doesn't make it true.

Don’t listen to the lies. Most 50-something women I know are loving life. I don’t know anyone who feels lost or unseen. You must be young.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Cool, you're the exception rather than the rule. Many women struggle finding themselves after decades of caregiving and feel lost & unseen. It's great that you do not relate, but that doesn't make it true.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

Invisible. The invisible decade

I love it! I’m 55, kids are college aged, I’m comfortable in my own skin and don’t feel the need to impress anyone. Although I do miss my parents, they are both gone now and the tough caregiving phase is over. I can focus on myself and DH and it’s wonderful.

+1 I have my mojo back. I feel more energetic than I did years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

I want to pull my hair out when I hear this stupid 'invisible decade' crap.

I'm 55 and certainly do not feel invisible. I am top in my career. Christ- I even am top in the gym competitions against 30-somethings and beat all of the 40-50-60 year old men on Peloton

I don't walk around feeling invisible. People talk and chat and say 'hello'. I don't get brushed off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

Invisible. The invisible decade

I love it! I’m 55, kids are college aged, I’m comfortable in my own skin and don’t feel the need to impress anyone. Although I do miss my parents, they are both gone now and the tough caregiving phase is over. I can focus on myself and DH and it’s wonderful.

Old isn’t a perjorative even though many people use it that way. It’s just a descriptor just like young or fat or tall….. There’s nothing more silly than an old person saying they aren’t old when they mean they aren’t the things people associate with old.

30 is old to the 9 year old

Anonymous wrote:In 1929s, 55 was considered old, 65 was very old.

How about now?

Did anyone feel old at 50?

20 years older than my age!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old doesn’t equal unhealthy, it’s just the passing of time.

45-50 middle aged
60+ old
80+ elderly

What's 50-59? Still middle aged?

haha.. that's what I was thinking.. missed an entire decade.

-54 yr old.

It's overlooked, because you are older than middle aged, and yet not quite old. Neither here nor there.

Invisible if you will...

Invisible. The invisible decade