Too young by today's standards, but of age biologically.

Anonymous wrote:Peak fertility is in a womans 20s and is also linked to lower risk of genetic disorders. Older fathers is linked to autism. It’s also said that having a baby in your 20s is “easier” on your body / easier to “bounce back from”. These are all the points my daughter who is 26 and wants to have a child by 28 makes. We are financially very secure and she is engaged /
will be married by then to a great partner for her. My question is- do you think socially / in this area that having your first kid by 28 is too young to have your first these days? I feel like I just got through parenthood myself!

Congratulations on your parenting. You raised a brilliant young woman. Count your blessings.

50 year old mom here with kids 17 and 14. Now that they are teenagers, it is awesome. But, I wished I had them earlier when they were younger. I was exhausted more compared to younger parents.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why the potential grandmother is brought into a pregnancy discussion. Not your concern.

Nothing good can come from you saying anything other than “whatever you decide, I’m happy for you and here to help!”

Be happy your kid wants children.

My (one) child does not.

Anonymous wrote:I think if DD is
- educated,
- has a stable and sane career,
- has a good stable partner in a committed marriage who is on the same page as her
- financially able
- have a support system
- and will not have FOMO of single life and want to be parents --- then they should have the kid.

Anyone after 25, I do not consider too young if they meet the above criteria.

+1. I think OP's DD seems very sensible. I would be delighted if my DD had plans to have kids earlier rather than later. I had my kids at 32, 34, and 40. I have been a working mom for all but 1 year. I work as a lawyer. I think lawyer moms wait too long to have kids. I think it's ideal to at least start having kids in your 20's, rather than waiting until 30 or later to start.

Sorry, what is the issue? And why are you involved?

If you think this will not impact her career, then 28 is great!

I had mine in DC at 29, 31 and 34. I was very young in my first kids’ private school circle. Other moms called me a “ baby” and many thought I was the nanny. With my third this never happened and I was closer to the average parents’ age (still younger than most, but not noticeably so).

For me having kids youngish was good for all the reasons you mentioned. I got pregnant first try with all 3, easy pregnancies, was back to my pre pregnancy body in 1-3 months.

But… I was the first in my friends’ group (by 4 years) and that was hard… I still hold some grudges for the way I was treated back then. Also, my career never took off. I work and happy with what I do and my work-life balance, but I have a PhD and will probably never make a lot of money.

Overall, I am so happy with my kids and where we are in life, but I wish I had waited until I had a stable position and a good career.

Anonymous wrote:You are actually crowdsourcing when your child should have her child???

That is none of your business, let alone ours.

I doubt OP wants an answer or doing a poll, often these posts are just for sharing thoughts.

Yes, it’s early. But your daughter can make her own decision.

You are actually crowdsourcing when your child should have her child???

That is none of your business, let alone ours.

This is so weird. I would never discuss this with my mom, and would die if I knew she was discussing my fertility plans with strangers on. Message board.

I don’t understand why the potential grandmother is brought into a pregnancy discussion. Not your concern.

I had my first kid in 2008 when I was just 24 year old. I had a few miscarriage's afrer that but had a surprise in 2022. So I had 2 kids one will be leaving soon, but stating over with my baby boy. I also have 4 step kids (bonus) they are all adults and have a few of them have kid