Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 15:13     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?


Of course some are.

- Locker room talk
- trash talk
- hazing
- cultural history of “jocks” bullying non-athletic kids

I can list many more toxic things that stem from the culture of male athletics.


Most aspects of male athletics are not negative. Some locker talk can be negative but mostly not. Same with “trash talk.”

I don’t know about a cultural history of jocks bullying non-athletes other than what’s in the movies but it’s rarely a thing now.

Hazing? It’s bad when it happens and it’s more rare now.

Taking the 5% of bad and applying it to the 95% of fine penalizes boys for nothing.


Here you go. Way more than 5% participation.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steubenville_High_School_rape_case
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 15:12     Subject: "Boymoms"
“BoyMom” used as an insult means a mom making excuses for her sons’ behavior/lack of achievement/discipline problems because they’re a boy.

“BoyMom” used not as an insult means the trials and tribulations of a parent who must always approach laundry with wariness…
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 15:07     Subject: "Boymoms"
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?


Of course some are.

- Locker room talk
- trash talk
- hazing
- cultural history of “jocks” bullying non-athletic kids

I can list many more toxic things that stem from the culture of male athletics.


Weird. I feel like my boys are avoiding bullies because they are boys. Listening to my friends who have girls can be harrowing! The bullying between girls sounds crazy and painful.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 15:05     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?


Of course some are.

- Locker room talk
- trash talk
- hazing
- cultural history of “jocks” bullying non-athletic kids

I can list many more toxic things that stem from the culture of male athletics.


Most aspects of male athletics are not negative. Some locker talk can be negative but mostly not. Same with “trash talk.”

I don’t know about a cultural history of jocks bullying non-athletes other than what’s in the movies but it’s rarely a thing now.

Hazing? It’s bad when it happens and it’s more rare now.

Taking the 5% of bad and applying it to the 95% of fine penalizes boys for nothing.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 14:56     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?


Not sure, but I’ll see you at the Warhammer store later!
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 14:53     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All it means is that she has only sons. I always wanted a girl, but then had all boys. I realized that it was the perfect thing for me.


Lady, I have two girls and you don't see me walking around telling everyone I'm a #girlmom. I'm just a mom. You are too. We're all just moms.


I don’t know that there is a hashtag for it, but definitely see/hear a “girl dad” sentiment in real life with men who have 3+ girls and no sons. Especially if mom and daughters are really girly girls.


Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 14:03     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:It came about mid 2000s because most women want daughters. They don’t like to admit it but they look down upon or differently at women who have only sons.

Ever notice how women complain about how ugly boys clothes are? They want, wish, and dream about the frilly girls clothing. When it comes to baby names, boy mothers always are asked if the child will be a junior, etc..

I have boys and girls so can’t claim to be solely a #girlmom or #boymom.


+1. It’s something women say to make themselves feel better for not getting to parent a daughter.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 12:14     Subject: "Boymoms"
there is sometimes a tinge of smug girl bashing in it - like glad to be a mom to only boys and not deal with girls drama

I've heard it from a number of moms of only boys over the years and never heard it in the reverse w/ only girls
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 11:36     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?


Of course some are.

- Locker room talk
- trash talk
- hazing
- cultural history of “jocks” bullying non-athletic kids

I can list many more toxic things that stem from the culture of male athletics.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:31     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:29     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.


Yep.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:29     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Boymoms are the awful MILs of the future.

Yes


Truth
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:09     Subject: "Boymoms"
Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 21:39     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because they think boys have unique characteristics that make them both more charming and more difficult. Like “ive got two under 5 and they’re both boys so you know im busy!” Or “i have two teen boys so I’m always at the grocery!”

Heads up, boymoms-kids of both genders have varied temperaments, teenage girls often eat a ton too, and your boys likely wouldn’t make such a mess if you had higher expectations of them. -mom of boys and girls.


Boys and girls are in fact different in many ways. For example, how on Earth can you be the mom of both and still pretend that teen girls eat just as much as teen boys?

Either you’re underfeeding your sons, overfeeding your daughters, or (most likely) you’re the mom of elementary school aged kids.


Or some boys are naturally slim and some girls are naturally muscular. Do you honestly expect that Serena Williams ate less than Michael Jackson at similar ages simply because she was female?

Or that Mia Hamm and Mick Jagger would have the same apatite?

Come on have some common sense!
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 21:34     Subject: "Boymoms"
Anonymous wrote:Boymoms are the awful MILs of the future.


Doubtful. Most of the people who complain about the MILs also seem to have a SIL they have bad issues with too.