Anonymous wrote:People can change overnight and there is no way of telling which one you believed to be very nice will, once married, turn into something else. It's always taking a chance.

I guess it's possible, but pretty unlikely unless there's a brain tumor or something of that sort. Best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

People can change overnight and there is no way of telling which one you believed to be very nice will, once married, turn into something else. It's always taking a chance.

ITA with most of the PPs.

Important points for me:
1) Treated restaurant servers/delivery people well; tipped well. People who treats service people badly are a**holes.

2) Clean home. If a man can take care of himself, he is much more likely to be able to take care of you.

3) Does not talk about money - how much he has; how much he spends; etc etc. People who are obsessed with money are bad news.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea if my husband sits or stands when he pees. We go to the bathroom in private.

That's just weird -- you've never seen your husband go to the bathroom?? Really?

Why is that weird?

What reason would I have to have seen him using the bathroom? We do have doors.

I meant to ask him if he sits or stands last night but I forgot.

A man who has grown up with a lot of olders sisters is used to being bossed around by women!

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Anonymous wrote:Itty bitty advice here in terms of how a guy relates to his family (and it should be somewhat similar to how you relate to your family-two dysfuntional people can stay together forever off and on), but look for a guy who grew up with sisters not too much older or younger than him-he's more likely to think of women as fellow human beings as opposed to visitors from Venus. He should also be musical and like shoe shopping.

What ?!

You had to throw those last two requirements in didn't you? But quite true I must say.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. ITA with what kind of car he drives (money as/not as a priority) and how he fights (does he respect your opinion/choices). I might add - does he know when to back you up? I agree also with his relationship with his family - but be sure to witness the dynamics first hand.

Very good one. Does he side with you or his family? (Unless of course you are being completely unreasonable).

NP here. ITA with what kind of car he drives (money as/not as a priority) and how he fights (does he respect your opinion/choices). I might add - does he know when to back you up? I agree also with his relationship with his family - but be sure to witness the dynamics first hand.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't sit down. Every time do that-it-drops in the water.

Mr. Ed, is that you? Get back in the stable and off the laptop.

Some women claim my problem is an asset.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea if my husband sits or stands when he pees. We go to the bathroom in private.

That's just weird -- you've never seen your husband go to the bathroom?? Really?

Anonymous wrote:I can't sit down. Every time do that-it-drops in the water.

Mr. Ed, is that you? Get back in the stable and off the laptop.

I can't sit down. Every time do that-it-drops in the water.

Can someone explain how sitting to pee is cleaner? I have never heard of men sitting to pee. I'm not following how it is cleaner.

Anonymous wrote:Itty bitty advice here in terms of how a guy relates to his family (and it should be somewhat similar to how you relate to your family-two dysfuntional people can stay together forever off and on), but look for a guy who grew up with sisters not too much older or younger than him-he's more likely to think of women as fellow human beings as opposed to visitors from Venus. He should also be musical and like shoe shopping.

What ?!

Itty bitty advice here in terms of how a guy relates to his family (and it should be somewhat similar to how you relate to your family-two dysfuntional people can stay together forever off and on), but look for a guy who grew up with sisters not too much older or younger than him-he's more likely to think of women as fellow human beings as opposed to visitors from Venus. He should also be musical and like shoe shopping.