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Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

Your explanation makes no sense. They are grown adults who have had birthday parties themselves and gone to many. Nothing happens when children eat a piece of cake. And if they have a problem with sugar or whatever the latest scary ingredient then make something else that everyone can eat. That’s just some rude hostessing.

And why were there so many adults there?

Huh? My kid is in first grade. Every single birthday party they've attended has had one or both parents of each child stay for the entire party.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

It was a couple weeks ago when it was oddly warm for the time of year-there was a back up plan of it was too cold. But yes-it is a weird time of year to even plan for an outside party. My husband and I were just talking about it this morning which is why I posted today. It just seems so odd to me.

They sound incredibly cheap. Outdoor party in December + no food + not eating cake = Cheap AF

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Anonymous wrote:I bet they found out that one of the children has a severe allergy, and they didn’t bring anything for that child, so they panicked and decided the best thing to do was to serve cake to no one. But they also didn’t want to mention it because then it singles the allergy kid out. But their kid still wants to have everyone sing happy birthday, so they told their kid they would do the singing and then he could have cake at home. And it was a poor solution but the best they could think of in the moment.

Assume the best of people, OP.

This is the only thing I can think of that makes sense. It’s really, really weird.

Anonymous wrote:My bet is they forgot the knife and/or plates and figured it would be worse to announce it.

Anonymous wrote:I bet they found out that one of the children has a severe allergy, and they didn’t bring anything for that child, so they panicked and decided the best thing to do was to serve cake to no one. But they also didn’t want to mention it because then it singles the allergy kid out. But their kid still wants to have everyone sing happy birthday, so they told their kid they would do the singing and then he could have cake at home. And it was a poor solution but the best they could think of in the moment.

Assume the best of people, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

It was a couple weeks ago when it was oddly warm for the time of year-there was a back up plan of it was too cold. But yes-it is a weird time of year to even plan for an outside party. My husband and I were just talking about it this morning which is why I posted today. It just seems so odd to me.

Anonymous wrote:I would’ve asked the parents. Because it’s weird and confusing. And no I don’t think it would’ve been rude to quietly ask—“hey the kids are wondering about cake—do you need help cutting it?”

Anonymous wrote:Maybe one of the kids has an allergy and they didn’t want the kids getting the cake on the playground equipment even if the allergy kid did not eat any.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.