Anonymous
01/12/2026 06:19
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just finished this. I think it is on lists and getting buzz because she called attention to female midlife and perimenopause. However, the narrator is un-self aware, frivolous and completely selfish. So, it ultimately does nothing to help cast introspection on my own midlife because she is not relatable whatsoever.
I do think we all are vulnerable to a mid-life WTF moment. But I think it’s shallow to imply that a sexual renaissance is the fix. Sex is not going to answer your existential questions and make your life make sense.
I don’t think I’d recommend this book because it didn’t meet two of my most important criteria: it didn’t leave me wanting to spend more time with the character(s) — it did the opposite — and it didn’t change the way I think or feel about anything.
That said I’m happy for the PPs who found it impactful because it does touch on an underserved topic. I just don’t think this should be the definitive tome for peri women
+1
What's better that talks about the peri experience?
As somone in peri, this feels like a pretty far outlier of the peri experience to me. But mostly I just found the main character insufferable.
Agree with this PP. I could not stand the main character and I had to force myself to finish the book. I do not understand the hype around this book. Went in the immediate donate pile.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 12:32
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:I got not get into it, either.
Goodness. I meant to say I could not get into it!
Anonymous
01/07/2026 12:32
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
I got not get into it, either.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 04:34
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:For those who read it and whether you liked it or not, any theories on whether the protagonist had experienced sexual abuse as a child. Some of her daddy fantasies had me wondering and maybe the author was too subtle for me on this point.
Genuinely didn’t occur to me and I don’t think Miranda July wants us to approach the character as a victim of traumas we should try to identify.
Anonymous
01/06/2026 18:27
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
For those who read it and whether you liked it or not, any theories on whether the protagonist had experienced sexual abuse as a child. Some of her daddy fantasies had me wondering and maybe the author was too subtle for me on this point.
Anonymous
10/16/2025 15:02
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:I quit about a chapter or two in. Life is too short for this navel gazing crap from a superficial narcissist.
+1
Anonymous
10/08/2025 16:27
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
she was trying to be x-rated but it feels false. Like the way she described lesbian sex. I've had plenty and that did not ring true. And what mid-centry-modern women send nudes to their besties?
Anonymous
10/08/2025 16:20
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
I quit about a chapter or two in. Life is too short for this navel gazing crap from a superficial narcissist.
Anonymous
09/23/2025 09:38
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m curious if the people who disliked this book had seen her previous work. I thought the book was wonderfully in keeping with the other quirky, high-concept work she does. But it is a very specific style.
Bumping this comment. Miranda July is not neatly packaged chick lit - not for all tastes! I quite like her work but I remember going to one of her movies that I loved and my date was like wtf was that??!
I read very little "chick lit" and still didn't like it (echoing many of the comments above). The amount of self-absorbtion of the main character got boring for me after a while.
Anonymous
09/23/2025 09:33
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just finished this. I think it is on lists and getting buzz because she called attention to female midlife and perimenopause. However, the narrator is un-self aware, frivolous and completely selfish. So, it ultimately does nothing to help cast introspection on my own midlife because she is not relatable whatsoever.
I do think we all are vulnerable to a mid-life WTF moment. But I think it’s shallow to imply that a sexual renaissance is the fix. Sex is not going to answer your existential questions and make your life make sense.
I don’t think I’d recommend this book because it didn’t meet two of my most important criteria: it didn’t leave me wanting to spend more time with the character(s) — it did the opposite — and it didn’t change the way I think or feel about anything.
That said I’m happy for the PPs who found it impactful because it does touch on an underserved topic. I just don’t think this should be the definitive tome for peri women
+1
What's better that talks about the peri experience?
As somone in peri, this feels like a pretty far outlier of the peri experience to me. But mostly I just found the main character insufferable.
Anonymous
09/22/2025 16:51
Subject: Re:Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
I had not read/ seen any of the author's previous work. But friends and algorithms kept throwing it at me, so I gave it a try. I'm right in the target demographic, or so I thought.
I quit halfway through. I kept expecting it to get good-- sexy, or insightful, or funny, or something. But no, just more bafflingly insecure, self-centered rambling.
I quit halfway through. I kept expecting it to get good-- sexy, or insightful, or funny, or something. But no, just more bafflingly insecure, self-centered rambling.
Anonymous
09/22/2025 16:48
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:I’m curious if the people who disliked this book had seen her previous work. I thought the book was wonderfully in keeping with the other quirky, high-concept work she does. But it is a very specific style.
Bumping this comment. Miranda July is not neatly packaged chick lit - not for all tastes! I quite like her work but I remember going to one of her movies that I loved and my date was like wtf was that??!
Anonymous
09/22/2025 16:42
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just finished this. I think it is on lists and getting buzz because she called attention to female midlife and perimenopause. However, the narrator is un-self aware, frivolous and completely selfish. So, it ultimately does nothing to help cast introspection on my own midlife because she is not relatable whatsoever.
I do think we all are vulnerable to a mid-life WTF moment. But I think it’s shallow to imply that a sexual renaissance is the fix. Sex is not going to answer your existential questions and make your life make sense.
I don’t think I’d recommend this book because it didn’t meet two of my most important criteria: it didn’t leave me wanting to spend more time with the character(s) — it did the opposite — and it didn’t change the way I think or feel about anything.
That said I’m happy for the PPs who found it impactful because it does touch on an underserved topic. I just don’t think this should be the definitive tome for peri women
+1
What's better that talks about the peri experience?
Anonymous
09/22/2025 16:27
Subject: Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:I just finished this. I think it is on lists and getting buzz because she called attention to female midlife and perimenopause. However, the narrator is un-self aware, frivolous and completely selfish. So, it ultimately does nothing to help cast introspection on my own midlife because she is not relatable whatsoever.
I do think we all are vulnerable to a mid-life WTF moment. But I think it’s shallow to imply that a sexual renaissance is the fix. Sex is not going to answer your existential questions and make your life make sense.
I don’t think I’d recommend this book because it didn’t meet two of my most important criteria: it didn’t leave me wanting to spend more time with the character(s) — it did the opposite — and it didn’t change the way I think or feel about anything.
That said I’m happy for the PPs who found it impactful because it does touch on an underserved topic. I just don’t think this should be the definitive tome for peri women
+1
Anonymous
09/22/2025 14:18
Subject: Re:Can we please talk about All Fours, by Miranda July?
Anonymous wrote:I expected something much different, after reading all the hype about this book.
I too couldn't relate, nor did I find it it a compelling story. And as a 52 yr old lady in peri, I think I'm the audience.
I guess the parts I couldn't relate to made me thankful that I couldn't!
Definitely could have done without the extremely cringe scenes.