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Anonymous wrote:It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.

I’m fine not eating the meal or taking just a couple bites. But it’s the rude comments…

Yeah, I know. And it's a good reminder on here even to the most well-meaning not to "push" food or drink.

If you have food issues, stop eating with people. Do other things together that don't involve food.

I agree it is really annoying. Or people with big restrictions who don't say so beforehand. I hate it because it means I go through a lot of effort cooking and then people don't eat. OP should actually say she's raw vegan or whatever suits her best. It's helpful for me as a hostess to know what people like, way better than seeing someone not eat and feeling like I tried to please and it wasn't even worth it.

+1. I would never be so rude as the host to ask you why you weren’t eating. But you should actually answer honestly and respectfully. “I unfortunately don’t care for green bean casserole but I am enjoying this cranberry spritzer, thank you!” It’s annoying to host and go to the trouble only to discover your guest can’t/won’t eat what I made.

You don't need to be that honest just say you're not that hungry.

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Anonymous wrote:It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.

I’m fine not eating the meal or taking just a couple bites. But it’s the rude comments…

Yeah, I know. And it's a good reminder on here even to the most well-meaning not to "push" food or drink.

If you have food issues, stop eating with people. Do other things together that don't involve food.

I agree it is really annoying. Or people with big restrictions who don't say so beforehand. I hate it because it means I go through a lot of effort cooking and then people don't eat. OP should actually say she's raw vegan or whatever suits her best. It's helpful for me as a hostess to know what people like, way better than seeing someone not eat and feeling like I tried to please and it wasn't even worth it.

+1. I would never be so rude as the host to ask you why you weren’t eating. But you should actually answer honestly and respectfully. “I unfortunately don’t care for green bean casserole but I am enjoying this cranberry spritzer, thank you!” It’s annoying to host and go to the trouble only to discover your guest can’t/won’t eat what I made.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what I do ...

Eat before you attend
Simply say no thank you
Don't eat anything
Bring something you prepared or purchased that you like

This is weird. Don't do this.

I don't think ..
What is weird ?? Feeling pressured to eat foods you don't like want or need.

You are either 13 or raised in another country/culture where this flies.

We don't do this in the US. WTF? Just stay home. Clearly, you knew what the menu was because you had the presence of mind to buy a bag of Takis or takeout sushi to your host's house. Since you knew what the menu would be, and the entire thing is unpalatable to your 13 yr old palate, then politely decline before you arrive.

Declining the hospitality after you have arrived at the voluntary event is stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound judgy OP. Who doesn’t like heavy cream unless they non dairy.

Having said that, is there no bread, salad sides? If not, take some with you. Have very small helpings.

Heavy cream is unhealthy and some may have issues with dairy.

There is a lot of research that full fat dairy is better for you.

Simply say “that casserole will give me diarrhea” and see their response.

You don't have to take or eat anything you don't want, but are you saying there's seriously nothing you can get down?

Even if I don't want most of what's being served, there's always a vegetable or bread that I can stand. I put something on my plate and eat it.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what I do ...

Eat before you attend
Simply say no thank you
Don't eat anything
Bring something you prepared or purchased that you like

This is weird. Don't do this.

DP. I agree, other than the no thank you, put a little on your plate and try to eat that. Definitely bring food that you made, I don't see why anyone would dislike that?

Do not bring food that the host didn’t ask for/you didn’t ask the host if you could bring. It’s rude. The host is hosting, it’s their event, they may have a curated menu in mind — you don’t know, and that’s the point. You want control over the food — you host.