Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 21:41     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to do a tree from a reputable charity. Ours was legos, hats/gloves, science kits and dinosaur stuff. Reputable charities will review requests and specifically state how much you should spend on a child. Ours was $75-100


$75-100 that a lot and you know they're signed up through multiple agencies.


Hadn't thought of the multiple agency angle.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 21:29     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:The angel tree I picked up had "Wegmans gift cards" on it. Not Safeway. Not Giant. Wegmans. I was annoyed.


Maybe the live walking distance from Wegmans
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 21:19     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:Go to a mall and look for an Angel Tree.


The mall Angel Trees are exactly like this unless you go the first weekend, when all the angels for actually reasonable asks like clothes and affordable toys are taken. It’s ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 21:18     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to do a tree from a reputable charity. Ours was legos, hats/gloves, science kits and dinosaur stuff. Reputable charities will review requests and specifically state how much you should spend on a child. Ours was $75-100


NP. The one I do is reputable, it’s a major county based organization. Still, the wants are very expensive. I do think kids just want those special dream gifts that their peers have. Also, often even poor kids have technology and video games.


I participated in one for foster kids this year. The wish lists were all very reasonable but clearly the kids had tech and video games. Lots of requests for Roblox cards, V-bucks, gaming headsets, etc.


I'd love to participate in something like this. What is the program name?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 19:13     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:“Give asks?”

You should ask [verb] somebody to give [verb] you a grammar book [noun].


Op here, obviously I meant to write gift. I’m sure you have never made a mistake typing though 🙂.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 17:44     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who cares if they resell something? They own it, right? Anyone who needs money that badly is desperate. Why not help them? Who are you to judge?


I used to do these all the time & then I heard my SIL signed up for one. At the time, she and her husband were perfectly capable of working but were choosing to live off the system. That alone was infuriating. Some kind soul bought them Christmas dinner and a slew of gifts for her 5 children including a new bike for her oldest who was around 11 at the time. Guess who got his bike stolen within a week because he left it out front without locking it up or putting it away? They signed up again the following year and guess what nephew got again and proceeded to get stolen AGAIN??? She had no shame is signing up and it was infuriating. It soured me on participating in these.

I now do my research in the charities I participate with. There's just too much grift these days.


Christmas victim blaming is the best!

Consider yourself lucky you don't live in a neighborhood where kids bikes are stolen, grinch.


Unlocked kids bikes are stolen in every neighborhood of every socio-demographic. This family was careless with the generosity of others.


+1. I lived in a neighborhood of $1.5 homes and bike theft was the norm.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 17:11     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who cares if they resell something? They own it, right? Anyone who needs money that badly is desperate. Why not help them? Who are you to judge?


I used to do these all the time & then I heard my SIL signed up for one. At the time, she and her husband were perfectly capable of working but were choosing to live off the system. That alone was infuriating. Some kind soul bought them Christmas dinner and a slew of gifts for her 5 children including a new bike for her oldest who was around 11 at the time. Guess who got his bike stolen within a week because he left it out front without locking it up or putting it away? They signed up again the following year and guess what nephew got again and proceeded to get stolen AGAIN??? She had no shame is signing up and it was infuriating. It soured me on participating in these.

I now do my research in the charities I participate with. There's just too much grift these days.


Christmas victim blaming is the best!

Consider yourself lucky you don't live in a neighborhood where kids bikes are stolen, grinch.


Unlocked kids bikes are stolen in every neighborhood of every socio-demographic. This family was careless with the generosity of others.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 16:49     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who cares if they resell something? They own it, right? Anyone who needs money that badly is desperate. Why not help them? Who are you to judge?


I used to do these all the time & then I heard my SIL signed up for one. At the time, she and her husband were perfectly capable of working but were choosing to live off the system. That alone was infuriating. Some kind soul bought them Christmas dinner and a slew of gifts for her 5 children including a new bike for her oldest who was around 11 at the time. Guess who got his bike stolen within a week because he left it out front without locking it up or putting it away? They signed up again the following year and guess what nephew got again and proceeded to get stolen AGAIN??? She had no shame is signing up and it was infuriating. It soured me on participating in these.

I now do my research in the charities I participate with. There's just too much grift these days.


Christmas victim blaming is the best!

Consider yourself lucky you don't live in a neighborhood where kids bikes are stolen, grinch.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 16:47     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
“Give asks?”

You should ask [verb] somebody to give [verb] you a grammar book [noun].
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 16:46     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
We already had this troll thread recently.

Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 16:44     Subject: Re:Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:I live in NYC and looked into an organization that administers these requests this year. The requests were literally all for gift cards “so that XYZ can pick out something for themselves.” I totally understand the sentiment, especially for older kids, but I wanted to actually buy gifts. I did Toys for Tots instead.


So it was more important to you that you got to do what you wanted than that the child got something they would enjoy?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 16:41     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:The angel tree I picked up had "Wegmans gift cards" on it. Not Safeway. Not Giant. Wegmans. I was annoyed.


Gross, PP. Why on earth are you shopping for a charity if you are going to nit pick the *grocery store* someone has requested.

Maybe it's closest. Maybe it's cheaper (their store brands are cheap and delicious). Maybe they have the specific type of infant formula the mom needs, or they have the best selection of gluten free for someone with Celiac's. Or, maybe, they just like it, and if someone is being kind enough to give them a gift, that is what they would enjoy.

What is wrong with you?

Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 15:36     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:The angel tree I picked up had "Wegmans gift cards" on it. Not Safeway. Not Giant. Wegmans. I was annoyed.


Giant and Safeway are pricy. Maybe wrgma s is closest.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 15:33     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People receive so much in this area that we always donate to other areas. We generally call the social service agency in an area with a high poverty level. They refer us to local organizations and schools. We get an idea of what children need and ages. This year we sent winter coats for 12 children and 12 dozen socks in various sizes. I know it is not exciting but the groups say the items are appreciated. We order items on line and have them shipped directly to the organization.

We only wish we could do more.


If you’re worried about resellers, sending new coats to soome other area isn’t the way to go.


We never gave a thought to resellers. We just saw so many people receive so much in this area that we began to look at other areas where fewer people donated. The school principal gave us actual coat sizes for kids so we think they will go to specific kids. If they are re-sold, there is nothing we can do. The principal asked for socks in small, medium, and large sizes because kids often wear no socks or need socks. We got generic white socks so I suppose they could be re-sold too.

Although. Christmas is not a time for cynicism, I suppose you have a right to be cynical.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 14:19     Subject: Incredibly expensive give asks in charity drives this year.
Anonymous wrote:I just don’t give to charity the government already takes and wastes enough of my earnings


Well you're not wrong here. Those are facts.