Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:02     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.


I don’t know anyone who has kids before 30…and I am 47. That is ridiculous.


Average maternal age in the US is 27.5. You live in a bubble
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 08:37     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.


I don’t know anyone who has kids before 30…and I am 47. That is ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 08:16     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:Married for love, money arrived through hard work later in. Would not have it any other way.


Same. I could have married for money several times but knew I would be miserable.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 08:11     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Married for love, money arrived through hard work later in. Would not have it any other way.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 20:25     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Why not both? My DH lived in a crappy apartment when I met him but we had incredible chemistry and I knew he’d be very successful. 30 years later and it’s all good!
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 20:11     Subject: Re:If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MONEY


+1000


+1001. I married for love and that didn’t last. Now I have neither love nor money.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 20:03     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 17:38     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 16:57     Subject: Re:If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
I married for love but he had potential to be successful and he succeeded beyond whatever one could hope for. I'm still very much in love. FWIW, I also had a very successful career.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 16:34     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Love. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you will be happy.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 16:12     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
I married for both, and so far its worked out. 23 years together, married for 20. I was completely upfront, well before engagement, that I hoped to be a SAHM. I am very grateful that my DH is a good guy, and we still have a spark all these years later.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 15:44     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:100% money. Marrying for love did not work out so now I have neither.



Then it wasn't love, just infatuation.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 14:34     Subject: Re:If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:MONEY


+1000
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 14:17     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
I would not marry for either.
But if someone close to me asked that question, I would say marry someone who respects you, cares, has compatible values, is family oriented, and ideally had a happy childhood.

Chemistry fades over time and you're left with the personality and family baggage, pick wisely, you got only this one life to live, make it count.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 13:49     Subject: If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?
Anonymous wrote:Realistically, neither love and hotness nor money are guaranteed to last but good education, decent personality, compatibility and strong character are forever.


This.