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Anonymous wrote:I’m on a family trip to Disney + universal. This is a trip I saved for so that me and my son could go along with his cousins - my sister and brother in law. Financially speaking / we hover around the same income. But I find whenever my son wants something - his cousins soon come following and the budget i have for my son now gets extended by 3. It started with a pretzel, then a holiday cookie, then a transformers toy and after it became too much- I told my niece/nephew thru need to ask their own parents to buy : insert whatever.

We have 1 more park to go. How do I avoid this without making the children feel bad or making my child miss out on something we agreed to allow him to get? The parents won’t step in and surely aren’t offering to buy my son a snack or a toy.

So you hover around the same income, but they are paying for three kids and you are paying for one - except for there treats? You definitely have the income edge here.

Just talk with your sister about expectations.

It's not her responsibility to buy shit for her sister's kids just because they decided to have more than her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of why I don't enjoy traveling with other families. We don't buy a zillion treats and souvenirs (nor particularly want our kids to have them even if somebody else is treating, or the obligation to reciprocate).

+1. I don’t understand why parents can’t cut that crappy unnecessary indulgence. Same goes for random screentime during the day when the kids can easily entertain each other.

OP, your kid is at DISNEY. Why can’t he enjoy *that* experience, and running around with his cousins, instead of demanding (and being given) giant cookies and toys every day? If he likes cookies and toys, he can have them at home over the holidays.

Have we been on vacation together and then never again? I buy my kids whatever I want. I assume the other parents do the same. I tell kids different families have different rules and they need to follow their parents’ rules.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of why I don't enjoy traveling with other families. We don't buy a zillion treats and souvenirs (nor particularly want our kids to have them even if somebody else is treating, or the obligation to reciprocate).

+1. I don’t understand why parents can’t cut that crappy unnecessary indulgence. Same goes for random screentime during the day when the kids can easily entertain each other.

OP, your kid is at DISNEY. Why can’t he enjoy *that* experience, and running around with his cousins, instead of demanding (and being given) giant cookies and toys every day? If he likes cookies and toys, he can have them at home over the holidays.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of why I don't enjoy traveling with other families. We don't buy a zillion treats and souvenirs (nor particularly want our kids to have them even if somebody else is treating, or the obligation to reciprocate).

+1. I don’t understand why parents can’t cut that crappy unnecessary indulgence. Same goes for random screentime during the day when the kids can easily entertain each other.

OP, your kid is at DISNEY. Why can’t he enjoy *that* experience, and running around with his cousins, instead of demanding (and being given) giant cookies and toys every day? If he likes cookies and toys, he can have them at home over the holidays.

I dunno. I haven’t been to Disney, but I have been to local amusement parks. And every time, I assume that I will be buying my kids some sort of snack that we wouldn’t normally have at home. Maybe you choose the giant cookie and my kid chooses the snow cone or similar. But I can’t imagine getting through a place like Disney on only the granola bars I packed for the day.