Anonymous
11/21/2024 00:01
Subject: Re:Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.
This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.
People should mind their own business.
-never cheated
What kind of f/'ed up logic do you follow that blames the cheated on spouse for the family destruction? That's some serious mental gymnastics.
You sound like you can’t see things very clearly. The OP has only one choice: give the information to the AP’s spouse which (1) provided them with information they deserve and (2) makes it very likely that the marriage implodes, or don’t do that. The “blaming the cheated-on” is straightforward: giving the spouse the deserved info can result in breaking up the marriage, and both holding the info can preserve the marriage. I’m not saying to do one or the other, just that what the cheated-on spouse does has both an ethical and a harmful outcome.
Who wants to hold onto a marriage where the wife is banging Randi’s in the family home? Plus- these cheaters are inviting all kinds of dangers to their doorstep. You never know what a jilted lover or spouse of an affair partner will do…or somebody else finds out. Cheating in a marriage is stupid and hurtful and a dangerous activity for a whole hose of reasons- health, safety, trauma, etc
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:58
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I hope the posters calling AP a whore aren’t staying with their disgusting husbands.
OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.
Two cheating whores deserve one another. Scumbags.
The better way to see this: two suffering people, dying emotionally in their marriages to disappointing partners. They see each other across a crowded room and fall in love, liberating each other from unhappiness.
Sometimes the moral choice is to explore the feelings, to have the affair. When the spouse underachieves so much and weighs you down, they have silently given you permission to look around for a better option.
When you find that better option, the moral thing to do is to jump so that your kids can finally see what a loving marriage between two sane, not crazy, successful people looks like.
They type in a disgusting profile with a pathetic username on an affair website looking for sex because they are decrepit and ugly and messed up.
Your Pollyanna Notebook Bridges of Madison County bullsh@t is fantasy. The guy will say whatever he can to get sex for free and then ghost you and go no contact when you start pushing for more.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:40
Subject: Re:Revealing affair
You sound like you can’t see things very clearly. The OP has only one choice: give the information to the AP’s spouse which (1) provided them with information they deserve and (2) makes it very likely that the marriage implodes, or don’t do that. The “blaming the cheated-on” is straightforward: giving the spouse the deserved info can result in breaking up the marriage, and both holding the info can preserve the marriage. I’m not saying to do one or the other, just that what the cheated-on spouse does has both an ethical and a harmful outcome.
When you are in hole, stop digging. Your "logic" gets worse the more you try to justify it.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:38
Subject: Re:Revealing affair
The better way to see this: two suffering people, dying emotionally in their marriages to disappointing partners. They see each other across a crowded room and fall in love, liberating each other from unhappiness.
Sometimes the moral choice is to explore the feelings, to have the affair. When the spouse underachieves so much and weighs you down, they have silently given you permission to look around for a better option.
When you find that better option, the moral thing to do is to jump so that your kids can finally see what a loving marriage between two sane, not crazy, successful people looks like.
Is this satire? Or the ramblings of a cheater looking to rationalize their complete lack of character?
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:33
Subject: Re:Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.
This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.
People should mind their own business.
-never cheated
What kind of f/'ed up logic do you follow that blames the cheated on spouse for the family destruction? That's some serious mental gymnastics.
You sound like you can’t see things very clearly. The OP has only one choice: give the information to the AP’s spouse which (1) provided them with information they deserve and (2) makes it very likely that the marriage implodes, or don’t do that. The “blaming the cheated-on” is straightforward: giving the spouse the deserved info can result in breaking up the marriage, and both holding the info can preserve the marriage. I’m not saying to do one or the other, just that what the cheated-on spouse does has both an ethical and a harmful outcome.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:19
Subject: Revealing affair
I told my ex dh’s ap’s spouse and he didn’t care because he was cheating too.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 23:15
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I hope the posters calling AP a whore aren’t staying with their disgusting husbands.
OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.
Two cheating whores deserve one another. Scumbags.
The better way to see this: two suffering people, dying emotionally in their marriages to disappointing partners. They see each other across a crowded room and fall in love, liberating each other from unhappiness.
Sometimes the moral choice is to explore the feelings, to have the affair. When the spouse underachieves so much and weighs you down, they have silently given you permission to look around for a better option.
When you find that better option, the moral thing to do is to jump so that your kids can finally see what a loving marriage between two sane, not crazy, successful people looks like.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 22:39
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Maybe a murder will eventually come out of it!!
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
Yep. When people go having sex with other people’s spouses- lots of crazy sh@t happens.
They invite crazy into their families, these dumb fkg cheaters. Innocent spouse and kids are now targets thanks to banging an unstable person or a betrayed spouse goes crazy.
Crimes of passion are always the most volatile.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 22:16
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Maybe a murder will eventually come out of it!!
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
Yep. When people go having sex with other people’s spouses- lots of crazy sh@t happens.
They invite crazy into their families, these dumb fkg cheaters. Innocent spouse and kids are now targets thanks to banging an unstable person or a betrayed spouse goes crazy.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 22:14
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Maybe a murder will eventually come out of it!!
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
Yep. When people go having sex with other people’s spouses- lots of crazy sh@t happens.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 22:13
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:I hope the posters calling AP a whore aren’t staying with their disgusting husbands.
OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.
Two cheating whores deserve one another. Scumbags.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 21:08
Subject: Revealing affair
I hope the posters calling AP a whore aren’t staying with their disgusting husbands.
OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.
OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 20:45
Subject: Revealing affair
Anonymous wrote:Maybe a murder will eventually come out of it!!
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
It’s very scary when emotional and crazy stuff creates high intensity drama. It’s best to take time and calmly process when emotions die down.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 20:41
Subject: Revealing affair
Maybe a murder will eventually come out of it!!
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
Actions have unpredictable consequences.
Anonymous
11/20/2024 20:33
Subject: Revealing affair
I’m glad you did! ❤️