Anonymous
11/18/2024 14:47
Subject: Asian Parents Broke Me
Anonymous wrote:
Nothing dramatic about it. You don't seem to realize how people live in the rest of the world. I do.
I am also Eastern European and pushing your child to the point of mental breakdown is hardly a measure of success or a way out of poverty. I wonder if they eased up a bit if he wouldn't have finished college. Either way, pushing so hard that your child becomes suicidal and physically sick is not the way to go not matter how much you want it for them.
Sure, I said you cannot abuse someone to achieve. The kid in the video is not smart enough for a physics degree and he didn't realize it (if I understood correctly, he had cut off his parents by then). He could easily finish something else. I didn't look for other videos and don't know if he did.
Anonymous
11/18/2024 14:42
Subject: Asian Parents Broke Me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Again - LOL, no.
My daughter takes piano lessons. 1) It was at her request and 2) her teacher has her spend half of each lesson and her practice time working out of lesson books but spends the *other* half teaching her to play tunes that *she wants to play*. Music that would be years down the road if she was sticking to her formal level. And of course that would probably make her lose interest entirely.
She is happy to do the not so fun work part because she knows that she also gets to do the interesting fun part, too.
Balance.
Lol indeed. Wait until your DD is adult to see what she really thinks of this.
I can’t imagine what ominous future you are trying to warn me of… do tell!
You're too dramatic. My parents also thought I liked piano lessons. In the long run I didn't. I played for 15 years. I don't blame my parents for this though. Usually people who have kids learn that at some point what their kids wanted before they don't want any more. Like you don't want now what you wanted in your 20s. Which is why we usually push our kids to try this and that and see if something sticks. And like a PP said, you never know until they're adults -- some will be mad they didn't get pushed enough and some will be mad they did. If you haven't had an experience where your kid doesn't want to do something and you convince them and after the event they're so happy they did it -- you've got a long way to go.
Umm… what? You’re accusing me of being too dramatic while your point (being generous in characterizing it as such) is that my daughter tells me she likes piano, but she’s actually lying and secretly hates it?
Again, I actually am aware that my kids are real people and I talk to them about their lives, thoughts, feelings, etc. I have kids in high school, middle school, and elementary school, so forgive me if I don’t put too much stock in the advice of a bunch of toddler moms.
(Or the advice of moms who have adult children who resent them!)
Anonymous
11/18/2024 14:42
Subject: Asian Parents Broke Me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Push kids to get out of poverty? GTFOH. You are all umc
We're not UMC, but comfortable, but as I said, there's no generational wealth. How do you think people normally get out of poverty if they have no connections and come from a poor country?
So dramatic. Spare us bootstrapper
Nothing dramatic about it. You don't seem to realize how people live in the rest of the world. I do.
I am also Eastern European and pushing your child to the point of mental breakdown is hardly a measure of success or a way out of poverty. I wonder if they eased up a bit if he wouldn't have finished college. Either way, pushing so hard that your child becomes suicidal and physically sick is not the way to go not matter how much you want it for them.
Anonymous
11/18/2024 14:38
Subject: Asian Parents Broke Me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Push kids to get out of poverty? GTFOH. You are all umc
We're not UMC, but comfortable, but as I said, there's no generational wealth. How do you think people normally get out of poverty if they have no connections and come from a poor country?
So dramatic. Spare us bootstrapper
Nothing dramatic about it. You don't seem to realize how people live in the rest of the world. I do.
Anonymous
11/18/2024 14:35
Subject: Asian Parents Broke Me
Anonymous wrote:
Again - LOL, no.
My daughter takes piano lessons. 1) It was at her request and 2) her teacher has her spend half of each lesson and her practice time working out of lesson books but spends the *other* half teaching her to play tunes that *she wants to play*. Music that would be years down the road if she was sticking to her formal level. And of course that would probably make her lose interest entirely.
She is happy to do the not so fun work part because she knows that she also gets to do the interesting fun part, too.
Balance.
Lol indeed. Wait until your DD is adult to see what she really thinks of this.
I can’t imagine what ominous future you are trying to warn me of… do tell!
You're too dramatic. My parents also thought I liked piano lessons. In the long run I didn't. I played for 15 years. I don't blame my parents for this though. Usually people who have kids learn that at some point what their kids wanted before they don't want any more. Like you don't want now what you wanted in your 20s. Which is why we usually push our kids to try this and that and see if something sticks. And like a PP said, you never know until they're adults -- some will be mad they didn't get pushed enough and some will be mad they did. If you haven't had an experience where your kid doesn't want to do something and you convince them and after the event they're so happy they did it -- you've got a long way to go.
He did it for a few years and now can do basic drawings for school, which he sure could not before without help. Yes, piano is not fun for most -- I also did it as a kid and never played after. There is no balance in piano learning: you either know how to play or bang the keys aimlessly (which is not pleasant to listen to). Therefore I didn't force and instrument on my kids at all -- will probably hear about it later.