Anonymous wrote:Actuary if you’re very good at math.

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you were my child, I would say you were comparing your reality to other people’s images. I would tell my child to stop comparing. I would say to assume all work is hard. What, to you, is worth the hard work?

I would tell my child to use internships to help them learn about this. Is pure money all the time worth it? Building things? Discovering things? Helping people? Leading teams?

Even in mid-life, if you did an exercise like this, could you find small changes you can make to test the waters? Tired of dealing with entitled kids: switch to public? Want to only work with bright, motivated kids: switch to that kind of role? Want to work with adults, mostly leaning teams: switch to working in an admin role?

Never do kids ever pick the right, cushy, hybrid job at 22. If you try, that situation will last temporarily and when it disappears, you will find no reason to want that job. Instead find something permanent worth holding onto with all the ups and downs.

This is a really wise post, PP, thanks. Tucking it away in my brain for future parenting needs.

+1 super wise post. The advice to your child of "assume all work is hard, What, to you, is worth the hard work?" is probably one of those dcum nuggets I'll take with me for a long time.

Most work ends up feeling hard and stressful in some ways op, because we are kind of wired that way. that being said, I do think being a federal employee at least in my area of the federal government is a nice balance of interesting, sometimes challenging work, hard working colleagues who believe in the mission, coupled with decent pay and benefits and generally good work life balance unless you get into more supervisory GS-15 roles but even then still more so than a corporate lawyer job.

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you were my child, I would say you were comparing your reality to other people’s images. I would tell my child to stop comparing. I would say to assume all work is hard. What, to you, is worth the hard work?

I would tell my child to use internships to help them learn about this. Is pure money all the time worth it? Building things? Discovering things? Helping people? Leading teams?

Even in mid-life, if you did an exercise like this, could you find small changes you can make to test the waters? Tired of dealing with entitled kids: switch to public? Want to only work with bright, motivated kids: switch to that kind of role? Want to work with adults, mostly leaning teams: switch to working in an admin role?

Never do kids ever pick the right, cushy, hybrid job at 22. If you try, that situation will last temporarily and when it disappears, you will find no reason to want that job. Instead find something permanent worth holding onto with all the ups and downs.

This is a really wise post, PP, thanks. Tucking it away in my brain for future parenting needs.

Anonymous wrote:Actuary if you’re very good at math.

Anonymous wrote:The best job for girls is SAHM.

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Anonymous wrote:Dental hygienist

Repetitive. Boring. Unappreciated. Constant pressure to hurry. Constant pressure to cut corners. Constant pressure to increase production. Often abused by professional supervisors and staff alike. Physically taxing. Repetitive motion disorder. I could go on, but . . ..

Anonymous wrote:Scientist at a large corporation. I make 300k/yr and work 20-40 hrs/wk from home or the office, when im inclined to go in. I can basically do my job in my sleep after 20 years, because I have ZERO interest in climbing the corporate ladder. That would have made me more money but the cost would be my integrity (toxic company) and time (every one that rises sacrifices family time).

Anonymous wrote:Corporate marketing, maybe HR for some companies? Thinking of desk jobs with good perks. IT if they are computer inclined, but I always hear about the midnight software update projects so maybe thats not low stress enough. Data analyst or AI engineering.

Anonymous wrote:It depends on what stress you mean. For me, I can take on a lot of projects and juggle a lot of work. I like that. Others would find that stressful. I also like managing people but others find it very stressful.

I'd say any job where you deal with the public or a lot of clients which will involve emotions will be stressful. I think having to pretty much always please or help others is the hardest thing to do and causes burnout. Sales, especially, but the right person can love it.

People who work with numbers and support their organization internally always seemed to like their jobs. But being a CPA at tax time would be about as stressful as you could get.

During my career, I learned new things and changed my mind about what I liked doing. So you evolve. But there were certain things I knew I'd never want to do, like run my own business or be in sales, that never changed. I would suggest doing something they have a talent for and see what happens. Another thing is that sometimes a job is different than what you thought it would be--both better or worse.

Anonymous wrote:I was abused at work from age 19-30. For that reason, I wanted working to be optional for my kids.
I invested my minimum wage salary and retired early. Now I'm investing for my kids. I do want them to get a job, but also have their 'fuk you' money from the start.
Both are into computers, but I'm unable to give them any career advice.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I’m a teacher and I think it’s a relatively low-stress job. Takes a few years to find your footing but if you’re at a good school with a strong union, the pay is usually good, and you get a LOT of time off. I teach secondary, core subject at a title 1 school.

This was either written by:

1. A troll
2. Someone who is very, very good at dissociating, stopping work at an arbitrary time on the clock, not taking anything home, and not GAF
3. Someone who teaches at the best school ever, with miraculously supportive admin, ready-made curriculum etc.