I'm the almost 50yr old guy who posts here all the times about my promiscuous post-divorce life ...and my amazing 35yr old gf both of us are open relationships but seem to practically speaking only have eyes for each other

but I was 101% monogamous in my marriage of almost 20yrs.. even after 2 kids when the sex went down to 2-3 times a month I never felt the need to cheat

guess what? my virgin mary wife who fooled me and her who circle of friends and family into thinking she is the sweetest most innocent woman of impeccable morals was the one screwing around behind my back!

this is not a man or woman thing ...

Anonymous wrote:I think there are a lot of men who are relieved to be married because finding a woman they like that likes them back is very difficult. So maybe in their minds they're not monogamous, but they accept they got lucky with 1 and want to keep the peace.

You've met me? I have the usual characteristics women say they want, but for whatever reason was never really successful dating. Maybe lack of self esteem subconsciously communicated? My wife could find a new guy in ten minutes so no way I am going to risk blowing it up.

Anonymous wrote:I think there are a lot of men who are relieved to be married because finding a woman they like that likes them back is very difficult. So maybe in their minds they're not monogamous, but they accept they got lucky with 1 and want to keep the peace.

Agreed! Also, not every male is some horny, sex crazed for anyone opportunist who gets turned on by batting eyelashes and can actually see through it! DCUM women will hate to admit it but yes, there ARE high IQ men out there where this is an insult to their intelligence! They often take time to choose their partners and when they do, they commit....FOR LIFE!