Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Great people don’t cheat on their spouse.
Yeah, they do. If you found out your DH cheated, would he be forever a bad person?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Great people don’t cheat on their spouse.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
*lose
Anonymous wrote:80% time, my AP's took off their ring.
The rest of time, they forgot in the heat of things.
There's no deeper meaning behind it, one way or the other.
The one who never wore the ring still has not divorced despite kids out of the house and being miserable.
The one who made a big deal over not taking off the ring is the one is legally separated and on way to divorce.
You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Or do you take it off? Does your mistress care if you keep it on?
Seriously? Doesn't she know you are a cheat, fraud, adulterer? Taking ring off wouldn't make your legal spouse nonexistent. That being said, if you don't care about your integrity or respect for other humans, why bother worrying about a piece of jewelry? It doesn't matter.
Anonymous wrote:Or do you take it off? Does your mistress care if you keep it on?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?
I think men can do this much more easily- compartmentalize their affair partner and family, in order to maintain an image.
Lots of people in happy marriages cheat. There is something missing that someone else gives you.