Anonymous
Post 11/02/2024 09:11     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I was in disbelief how many kids came to my door tonight and had the audacity to ask “how many can I take?” when I’m holding a basket of FULL size candy bars!!! One kid in particular took one of each full size (4 total full size candy bars)— while his mother stood there and said nothing. This was AFTER I said just one. This kid is 8.
My neighbor told me kids shoved their hands into her basket rather than waiting to be given candy by her. When she told one boy to wait until she gives it to him he said “no I want to pick out the ones I want.” This kid is 10.
What the freaking F is wrong with these kids and why aren’t they being taught common sense etiquette, manners, how to be polite?
I was honestly so disgusted.


There is so much variation in how many treats houses give out it is just fine to ask. And while one is the obvious answer for big bars, I think you're expecting too much from kids in a trick or treating scenario - it is a fine question to ask in the context of trick or treating, plus they are excited, in crowds, some may be shy, wearing masks that make it hard to see the bowl, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2024 09:03     Subject: Re:Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I’ll give out whatever I damn well please. And I expect kids to say THANK YOU regardless of the size or type or amount of the candy.
I spent less than $50 on candy. No, we are not wealthy but it’s a big deal we give out full size bars and it makes my kids very proud they are “that house.”
-OP


What a charmer. Give out things no one particularly values and expect foreheads to be knocking the floor. Get over yourself, Lady Bountiful.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2024 08:11     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
My spouse is a man external people please. He cannot stop himself from saying, “take what you want.” And smiling and being so proud of himself and well-liked.

$100 of candy and only one hour later we’re out of candy. He acts all distraught, asks for $1 bills (none of those around!), opens up all the cabinets and then stops. He did all he could do. And pats himself on the back while watching tv again.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2024 08:08     Subject: Re:Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:Don’t give out full size candy bars, there’s no reason to. I do agree that children are entitlement monsters these days.


This.

It’s contagious too so watch who your kids are friends with
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 14:22     Subject: Re:Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I’ll give out whatever I damn well please. And I expect kids to say THANK YOU regardless of the size or type or amount of the candy.
I spent less than $50 on candy. No, we are not wealthy but it’s a big deal we give out full size bars and it makes my kids very proud they are “that house.”
-OP


Weird.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 14:21     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:We let our 3 year old go up to doors himself — reminded him to say trick or treat and thank you for each house we went to but no clue if he did. Hope so!!!


lol we sent our 4 year old up by herself a lot (with reminders of what to say) and had one crotchety guy snap, “I didn’t hear a ‘thank you!’ A little manners goes far in life!” I guess she forgot to say “thank you” one time? Like come on dude, chill out. There’s like 100 people on the block and the kids are crazy with excitement. Don’t take this so personally. (Same goes for OP)
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 14:19     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Just hand out one bar.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 14:16     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:GIVE THEM THE CANDY. Instead of asking them what they want or handing them the bucket to take some. It's not hard, OP. You were part of the problem.


Agreed.

Every house has different candy “rule”; some people urge kids to pick out their “favorites,” others hand the candy to you, others urge to take more! It’s a crazy night, kids are hopped up on adrenaline and sugar, and they’re told to do a different thing at every house. You’re an adult, set the rules, and give a little grace.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 13:15     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
That's not rude. Agreed with other posters that people take different approaches. At some houses, if the kid just takes one, the person will say, TAKE TWO, TAKE THREE, GO AHEAD. So I think it's smart for the kids to say up front, how many? It's not reasonable to expect a kid to intuit full size candy bar ---> of course I should only take one. Calm down, be happier.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 12:49     Subject: Re:Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:This was our first year trick or treating (almost 2 year old) and I loved how many houses had non-food options- pokemon cards, glow sticks... He didnt know what any of it was but loved collecting all his "presents". He did not say thank you (just seemed overwhealmed/scared) and tried to go inside numerous houses... we'll have to practice more next year.

That is absolutely adorable!! I loved seeing the tiny trick or treaters who seemed in awe of it all. I could tell they were just soaking it all in, what a cool community learning experience.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 12:03     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Where do you live that the kids are so rude? We’re in East Bethesda and the kids were so polite - they not only thanked me, but complimented me on the decorations! They were so sweet!
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 11:51     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I feel like them asking how many IS them being polite - many people either have a sign or state openly "take 1/2/handful, whatever." Them *asking* is them being polite.


Agree. Many kids asked how many they could take and were fine when I said 1 (we had close to 200 kids so needed to conserve, next year I will buy more). No kids tried to take handfuls. And most said thank you or happy halloween. DH and I commented on how polite all the kids were.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 11:31     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I feel like them asking how many IS them being polite - many people either have a sign or state openly "take 1/2/handful, whatever." Them *asking* is them being polite.



Agree. I think that child was being polite The other stuff was rude, but that's the culture now at least in DCUM land expecting anything from kids at any time is taboo, Expecting kids to wear costumes, say please, thank you, or trick or treat, happy Halloween is al taboo and means you are an ogre.

I guess next year hand the candy to them and ignore the rest.

Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 11:13     Subject: Re:Man, kids are effing RUDE!
Anonymous wrote:I’ll give out whatever I damn well please. And I expect kids to say THANK YOU regardless of the size or type or amount of the candy.
I spent less than $50 on candy. No, we are not wealthy but it’s a big deal we give out full size bars and it makes my kids very proud they are “that house.”
-OP


So you like to impress and show off. Get a life!
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2024 11:07     Subject: Man, kids are effing RUDE!
I feel like them asking how many IS them being polite - many people either have a sign or state openly "take 1/2/handful, whatever." Them *asking* is them being polite.