I can't rollerskate backwards.

Regret the college I went to. My parents didn't provide me guidance or support about college, and I didn't feel like I could ask, felt like I just had to know what to do. I also didn't feel like I could ask for what I wanted or that I was worthy of a better school. The college I went to was small and I have great friends and memories from that time but looking back, I wish I had gone to a more well-known school with a football or basketball team I could get behind on college game days and during March Madness.

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Anonymous wrote:I regret what I majored in. I chose a field based on a career path after college. While that part was and is still true, I didn’t factor in that I dislike the entire field.

I also regret the college I chose. I went to a highly regarded big state university and wish I had chosen a smaller school.

I could have written this, every word.

Same, it’s hard because these decisions (university, major, career)led to a path that made me very happy in my personal life.

But I don’t look back fondly on my undergraduate education itself and get zero fulfillment out of my career. If I knew myself better then, I absolutely would have chosen differently. I ocassionally fantasize about pivoting to work I’d excel in and would bring me joy.

Not finishing college. My career and finances are great, but it's still shameful 25 years later. It's all wrapped up in a similar regret that others have expressed about not distancing themselves from a toxic family of origin. Still working on that, and it's complicated.

Leaving a job I left about 15 years ago for what I thought was a better opportunity. It wasn't. I should have stayed and I would be much further in my career.

Not fightiing for a relationship that just became too complicated, even though we loved one another. I dont think I would have ended up with him long-term (and DH is a much better fit) but it would have been a lot of fun while it lasted.

Selling our first home and not trying to rent it out. It would be a cash cow now.

Anonymous wrote:I regret what I majored in. I chose a field based on a career path after college. While that part was and is still true, I didn’t factor in that I dislike the entire field.

I also regret the college I chose. I went to a highly regarded big state university and wish I had chosen a smaller school.

I could have written this, every word.

I did a lot of cocaine in college and the year that followed. It really came close to derailing my entire life. I got back on track but I really regret ever doing that drug.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, there’s a lot of law school regret. But is it regret over attending law school, or not attending?

Hmm. Not one of those PPs, but attending law school is one of the few things I don't regret. I had the time of my life, tbh. Only practiced for 8 years though.

Sometimes I feel so seen on DCUM! This is me, except I practiced a few years longer. Young, surrounded by peers, intellectually challenging, opportunity for great pay starting 2L summer. It was great! I didn't think it through at all, though. Knowing myself much better now, lawyer is a terrible career choice for me. My very ridiculous reasoning at the time was - I don't want to be a doctor and business school will only keep me busy for 2 years. Law school it is....

Right??

Many Americans regret something they said to someone as one of top regrets.

I regret what I majored in. I chose a field based on a career path after college. While that part was and is still true, I didn’t factor in that I dislike the entire field.

I also regret the college I chose. I went to a highly regarded big state university and wish I had chosen a smaller school.

I can't really regret anything because who knows what would've happened?

But...

My car accident.

Not getting therapy in my 20s (would've led to healthier relationships, but then maybe I wouldn't have met my ex husband and had my kids).

Trying to please my parents for decades who I ended up estranged from anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, there’s a lot of law school regret. But is it regret over attending law school, or not attending?

Hmm. Not one of those PPs, but attending law school is one of the few things I don't regret. I had the time of my life, tbh. Only practiced for 8 years though.

Sometimes I feel so seen on DCUM! This is me, except I practiced a few years longer. Young, surrounded by peers, intellectually challenging, opportunity for great pay starting 2L summer. It was great! I didn't think it through at all, though. Knowing myself much better now, lawyer is a terrible career choice for me. My very ridiculous reasoning at the time was - I don't want to be a doctor and business school will only keep me busy for 2 years. Law school it is....

Not buying a beach place for about $250,000 when we had the chance in the 90's. They're over $1 M now.

Giving a beloved elderly relative Covid, which caused their death.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, there’s a lot of law school regret. But is it regret over attending law school, or not attending?

Curious also?

My one regret is not saving earlier. I missed out on a lot of compounding interest.

I bet it’s the student loans and lost three years for LS.