My husband made all kinds of compromises for years because I was in consulting, traveling to clients, working 60-70 hours a week. The ultimate sacrifice is that after living in 4 different states between us in 3 years, I took a role in the federal division of my company. He probably would have worked at a pharma company and made a lot more money, but he is a fed because my job is in DC.

Do you want to right OP? Or do you want to be married? If you want to be married, go to counseling and find out why your husband is acting like a toddler. If you want to be right, fight fire with fire. Do whatever the heck you want and make unilateral decisions - then tell him to shove it if he doesn’t like it. If he wants a divorce but is to chicken to take action, force his hand and see how far you can push him.

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Anonymous wrote:Threatening divorce is a di$% move and frankly it’s just a bluff you should call him on it. Go to couples therapy. Any therapist will tell him to knock it off. If he refuses couples therapy I would separate.

+1. Repeated threats of divorce to get his way is abusive and controlling. I think you should insist on couples therapy or separate.

+1