Anonymous wrote:OP, my guess is she wears more than the necklace he gave her.

She probably wears that expensive, sexy lingerie he gave her, too. While she's with her new man, no less.

Life goes on. Including hers. Forget about this nonsense, drop it behind you like a leaded bag, and move forward.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you have every right to feel creeped out by this.

+1 Agree. OP has a right to feel whatever she feels about this, especially as she's the betrayed spouse here. And those PPs shrugging off OP's feelings by saying how jewelry from their exes is no big deal, no emotion attached -- those situations are not at all comparable to jewelry given by one cheater to another cheater. In this case, former AP =/= "ex" in the sense those PPs are discussing. They're giving the AP cover by implying she's probably just wearing the necklace because, pretty necklace, but how the AP regards the necklace is not the point here; OP's feelings about it are the point.

OP, I don't think you've been back to say how you came to see this necklace in a photo. For your own mental health, please, do not follow her (or follow anyone who follows/tags her) on social media. If you have mutual friends you feel you "must" follow on social media, well, I'd tell them you're cutting back all social media, it's taking too much time, you're going to just essential uses for your work or kids' school or whatever, and stop following them too. Just hiding their posts in your feeds will not necessarily prevent you from caving in and taking a peek at hidden posts to see if she's on there.

This is all well and good but there's not one thing OP can do about it, except control her own behavior.

Yes. I agree. But do you realize that my post does not say anything about her "doing anything about it" other than getting off social media? The reading comprehension here, and the insistence that somehow OP is the problem, is bizarre.

FFS. So many posts here just trying to dunk on OP's emotions. She can effing feel what she feels without all of you snarking at her that it's no big deal, or wagging your fingers at her and saying, well, nothing you can do about it. I suspect all of you consider negative feelings weak. At least OP owns her feelings rather than choking them down like so many here.

Anonymous wrote:The only way OP would even know this is if she's minding business that isn't hers. This woman is allowed to exist, and can wear whatever she wants.

OP, don't go looking for trouble. Move on, leave this woman alone, and stop inviting misery into your life.

Misery is a slut. She'll always show up!

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you have every right to feel creeped out by this.

+1 Agree. OP has a right to feel whatever she feels about this, especially as she's the betrayed spouse here. And those PPs shrugging off OP's feelings by saying how jewelry from their exes is no big deal, no emotion attached -- those situations are not at all comparable to jewelry given by one cheater to another cheater. In this case, former AP =/= "ex" in the sense those PPs are discussing. They're giving the AP cover by implying she's probably just wearing the necklace because, pretty necklace, but how the AP regards the necklace is not the point here; OP's feelings about it are the point.

OP, I don't think you've been back to say how you came to see this necklace in a photo. For your own mental health, please, do not follow her (or follow anyone who follows/tags her) on social media. If you have mutual friends you feel you "must" follow on social media, well, I'd tell them you're cutting back all social media, it's taking too much time, you're going to just essential uses for your work or kids' school or whatever, and stop following them too. Just hiding their posts in your feeds will not necessarily prevent you from caving in and taking a peek at hidden posts to see if she's on there.

This is all well and good but there's not one thing OP can do about it, except control her own behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you have every right to feel creeped out by this.

+1 Agree. OP has a right to feel whatever she feels about this, especially as she's the betrayed spouse here. And those PPs shrugging off OP's feelings by saying how jewelry from their exes is no big deal, no emotion attached -- those situations are not at all comparable to jewelry given by one cheater to another cheater. In this case, former AP =/= "ex" in the sense those PPs are discussing. They're giving the AP cover by implying she's probably just wearing the necklace because, pretty necklace, but how the AP regards the necklace is not the point here; OP's feelings about it are the point.

OP, I don't think you've been back to say how you came to see this necklace in a photo. For your own mental health, please, do not follow her (or follow anyone who follows/tags her) on social media. If you have mutual friends you feel you "must" follow on social media, well, I'd tell them you're cutting back all social media, it's taking too much time, you're going to just essential uses for your work or kids' school or whatever, and stop following them too. Just hiding their posts in your feeds will not necessarily prevent you from caving in and taking a peek at hidden posts to see if she's on there.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you have every right to feel creeped out by this.

+1 Agree. OP has a right to feel whatever she feels about this, especially as she's the betrayed spouse here. And those PPs shrugging off OP's feelings by saying how jewelry from their exes is no big deal, no emotion attached -- those situations are not at all comparable to jewelry given by one cheater to another cheater. In this case, former AP =/= "ex" in the sense those PPs are discussing. They're giving the AP cover by implying she's probably just wearing the necklace because, pretty necklace, but how the AP regards the necklace is not the point here; OP's feelings about it are the point.

OP, I don't think you've been back to say how you came to see this necklace in a photo. For your own mental health, please, do not follow her (or follow anyone who follows/tags her) on social media. If you have mutual friends you feel you "must" follow on social media, well, I'd tell them you're cutting back all social media, it's taking too much time, you're going to just essential uses for your work or kids' school or whatever, and stop following them too. Just hiding their posts in your feeds will not necessarily prevent you from caving in and taking a peek at hidden posts to see if she's on there.

Op wouldn't know if she wasn't looking for it

Mind the business that pays her.

Or don't stay married to a cheater

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a picture of her recently and she’s wearing an expensive necklace my husband gave her during the affair.

It’s been over for 1.5 years (and yes I’m certain) but why would she wear it? Seems odd to me as he literally dropped her the minute I found out and it was completely clear he was using her and lying to her during the entire relationship -

It is completely clear he lies to and uses you, so why are you still wearing that ring?

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a picture of her recently and she’s wearing an expensive necklace my husband gave her during the affair.

It’s been over for 1.5 years (and yes I’m certain) but why would she wear it? Seems odd to me as he literally dropped her the minute I found out and it was completely clear he was using her and lying to her during the entire relationship -

It is completely clear he lies to and uses you, so why are you still wearing that ring?

Anonymous wrote:Most APs turn outright bitter and nasty when the guy doesn’t leave the wife or starts paying them less attention. They will do and say things to try and hurt the wife to get back at the husband. Story as old as time. I could totally see her wearing it out of spite and to fk with the married couple.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you have every right to feel creeped out by this.

+1 Agree. OP has a right to feel whatever she feels about this, especially as she's the betrayed spouse here. And those PPs shrugging off OP's feelings by saying how jewelry from their exes is no big deal, no emotion attached -- those situations are not at all comparable to jewelry given by one cheater to another cheater. In this case, former AP =/= "ex" in the sense those PPs are discussing. They're giving the AP cover by implying she's probably just wearing the necklace because, pretty necklace, but how the AP regards the necklace is not the point here; OP's feelings about it are the point.

OP, I don't think you've been back to say how you came to see this necklace in a photo. For your own mental health, please, do not follow her (or follow anyone who follows/tags her) on social media. If you have mutual friends you feel you "must" follow on social media, well, I'd tell them you're cutting back all social media, it's taking too much time, you're going to just essential uses for your work or kids' school or whatever, and stop following them too. Just hiding their posts in your feeds will not necessarily prevent you from caving in and taking a peek at hidden posts to see if she's on there.