Anonymous
10/16/2024 20:17
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
This thread is hilarious. Every single person knows women are the yellers.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 19:56
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Anonymous wrote:
My husband occasionally yells at me. How common is this?
No and I don’t yell at him. Also, he knows he’d be in some serious $hit if he yelled at me.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 19:50
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Once or twice a year. I probably do the same for real yelling. Never in front of the kids. But I will occasionally raise my voice a little, like you would if you were surprised by something and he says “don’t yell at me”. I don’t think yelling is ok but I also think a slightly raised voice is different.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 14:48
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Nope, unacceptable
Anonymous
10/16/2024 14:16
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Anonymous wrote:No. when he is disappointed in me he expresses disappointment with my action or inaction in a reprimanding way. But not often.
Like a teacher or father? Gross.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 14:15
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
We are loud people and both yell, me more than my husband.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 14:15
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Mine snaps at me every now and then (especially when he's stressed or tired), and it's hurtful. I then cry and sometimes yell back. He usually apologizes later.
Anonymous
10/16/2024 14:11
Subject: Re:Does your husband yell at you?
Anonymous wrote:No he does not and I would not tolerate it.
I feel like this is easy to say until you're there.
Anonymous
10/15/2024 21:15
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Never. He grew up in a household with a lot of yelling and never wanted to be like that (not always angry yelling, think Italian stereotype).
Anonymous
10/15/2024 21:12
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Anonymous wrote:Not really. Maybe if we are in a bad fight. So maybe 2 times a year, if that? I probably yell at him about twice that.
+1
Anonymous
10/15/2024 21:05
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Yes, all the time. By all the time I would say probably every three months. Then turns around and acts eerily calm if I react in anger. It's been this way forever. I almost don't care anymore.
Anonymous
10/15/2024 20:52
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
No
Anonymous
10/15/2024 20:50
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
No. when he is disappointed in me he expresses disappointment with my action or inaction in a reprimanding way. But not often.
Anonymous
10/15/2024 20:48
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Maybe like once a year, we will have a yelling argument, usually when the kids are asleep or not around. Occasionally he snaps at me but then apologizes pretty quickly. He is a great husband and father overall.
Anonymous
10/15/2024 20:44
Subject: Does your husband yell at you?
Anonymous wrote:yes. and sometimes i yell back bc it gets so mean i feel the need to defend myself.
first round of Gottman style therapy didnt work
we're going for a second round-- and this is the last stop. we have a son. i will leave for my son's sake, he deserves to grow up in a calm environment. i would trade living every day with my son in the family house to a custody schedule if that meant that my son could grow up with less tension at home.
FWIW i was raised in a house where my father routinely yelled at me, berated, etc. its hardwired in me.
been in a lot of personal therapy working on my attachment style.
but i am only one half of the equation.
This is 100% right. I wish I would have insisted on therapy or left.