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Anonymous wrote:Suck it up and deal with it. Seriously. There are kids in much worse situations. If this is the worse thing to happen to you and your kids, you’ve lived a charmed life. I watched my mother die from cancer.

Well aren’t you bitter

Pp here. If your mother died from cancer at age 60 and you also had to watch your father have a mental breakdown because of it, you’d be bitter too.

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up and deal with it. Seriously. There are kids in much worse situations. If this is the worse thing to happen to you and your kids, you’ve lived a charmed life. I watched my mother die from cancer.

Well aren’t you bitter

Suck it up and deal with it. Seriously. There are kids in much worse situations. If this is the worse thing to happen to you and your kids, you’ve lived a charmed life. I watched my mother die from cancer.

Our kids grandparents come every year for this event. They love it. My parents can drive but stay overnight, ILs fly in for a few days. It coincides with DS’s bday. It was a little sad for all of us when my father passed away just 2 months before one year’s event, but sadness is a part of life.

Money talks in these privates

Write to the school and insist it be rebranded as "Special Person's Day"

My kid's local grandparents declined going to grandparent's day because it started to early and the parking is not great around the school. I didn't even bring it up this year. Oh well - they come to other things. She's never really complained about it.

I will echo that when my kids attended catholic school this was a huge thing. Grandparents traveled from out of town to attend. It was partly fund raiser for the school. Many families tuitions were paid by the Grandparents.

One year my ILs chose not to go because they were worried about germs, and I can't say I blame them.

This is not a thing at public schools and I dont miss it.

Anonymous wrote:Send your kids to public school and you won't have this problem, OP.

Not necessarily. I am PP whose school did this up until last year and its public/MCPS.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world is the school doing this? Exclusionary and a waste of time. Not to mention none of these people will be background checked. Ugh.

I don’t love it either. Schools have open houses every year, plus multiple events all year that are open to family/guests. Why is a “grandparent” day necessary? I also don’t think their should be a muffins with mom event or daddy/ daughter dance

I kind of agree with this. Just in my daughter’s grade, there’s at least one kid with no mom and multiple kids with no dad. Plus many who don’t have living/local grandparents. So why not just have “family day” or something more general?

We have 3 kids in my child’s grade who each had one parent die during elementary school. Those families are probably the biggest proponents of grandparents’ day. I don’t think there is a specific day that will make everyone happy. But at our school, grandparents have the most money so that day makes the development office the most happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Just take your kid out of school that day. There is no real learning going on that day.

This. My kid's school (K-8) does this every year and DS never went to school that day, even in 8th. Both sets of grandparents live across the country. You're not missing anything.

Agree. Please keep your kid home. I sent my child without a grandparent (they were out of the country) one year. She was isolated for half the day and not happy as all of her friends had grandparents there. I no longer send her.

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised schools are even doing these. Lots of kids don’t have grandparents, or they aren’t local, or aren’t involved.

Our school doesn’t even call parents parents anymore, let alone have mom/dad events. Everything is “caregivers” in the name of equity.

At non woke schools life goes on

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world is the school doing this? Exclusionary and a waste of time. Not to mention none of these people will be background checked. Ugh.

I don’t love it either. Schools have open houses every year, plus multiple events all year that are open to family/guests. Why is a “grandparent” day necessary? I also don’t think their should be a muffins with mom event or daddy/ daughter dance

Our public school stopped doing Mother's Day Tea, Muffins with Mom, and Donuts with Dad for this reason. While I 100% see why, it was kind of sad on some level. The events didn't turn into more generic family/caregiver events. They just petered out.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world is the school doing this? Exclusionary and a waste of time. Not to mention none of these people will be background checked. Ugh.

I don’t love it either. Schools have open houses every year, plus multiple events all year that are open to family/guests. Why is a “grandparent” day necessary? I also don’t think their should be a muffins with mom event or daddy/ daughter dance

I kind of agree with this. Just in my daughter’s grade, there’s at least one kid with no mom and multiple kids with no dad. Plus many who don’t have living/local grandparents. So why not just have “family day” or something more general?

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world is the school doing this? Exclusionary and a waste of time. Not to mention none of these people will be background checked. Ugh.

This is exactly why they stopped doing it at our school despite it being a tradition for decades prior. My parents and ILs are local so my kids always had too many grandparents there. I wouldn't worry about your child OP--she will not be the only one and some will have more than one grandparent there so they will probably just all work at their same table with whatever grandparents are there. And sometimes the grandparents are just there to observe and don't really get involved.

But yeah, it's a problematic event. I wasn't sad when they stopped it at my kids' school (though the grandparents were).