So, DC has been invited to a birthday party where they will be watching a PG 13 movie. It’s a teen movie, with teen themes. If DC were 2 years older, I would be fine with movie. But they’re not.

Is this a case of I need to relax? Or is it worthwhile to censor DC’s movies a few more years?

You don't need to relax, but you also can't expect them to change the movie to accommodate one guest. So you have to accept that this party may not happen for your kid, which is fine.

You can absolutely say he cannot see the movie if you are not comfortable with it. However, he's then going to be left out of the activity, so you will have to accept that, and accept that he will be disappointed. That's just life.

PG-13 doesn’t mean no kids under 13 should watch it. It just means parental guidance. So watch the movies with your kids if you’re frightened about what they might see.

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Anonymous wrote:On the flip side (and slightly off-topic), but parents, please do just a little bit of research on a movie before you let your kids go see it.

I know the general theme here is that its weird for some parents to be so restrictive since the kids talk about this stuff/see it on social media/etc.

But DS has a group of kids that are trying to go see Terrifier and the parents have no idea what the movie is. Its nuts and he's pissed at us bc we're not letting him go

I mean, the title kind of gives you the huge hint it'll be scary.

Yeah, except it doesnt. I would let me freshman watch Scream or The Halloween movies.

But def not those Terrifier movies. Its' unrated, FFS bc they knew if they submitted it for ratings it would be NC-17

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Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

My then 8th grader was allowed to watch Back to the Future in History class before break. She said most of the girls were disturbed by the scene where Marty's mother (Lorraine) is being assaulted by Biff? at the dance. I had forgotten that scene. She just didn't care about the movie any more after that.

Not sure what Commonsense media says though.

US culture was much more casual about sexual assault in the 1980s.

PG-13 was named 13 for a reason.

I was very cautious about my kids' media exposure in about the same way you are. But I let things go when it came to parties-- I didn't want my kid to be left out, and certainly didn't want other kids to have to change their viewing because of my kid.

Also, I agree with some of the above posters that it was sort of a lost cause. In fifth, my kid got a cell phone and was on a group chat with many kids from the grade, and WOW. I blushed when I read the stuff that came across the screen (in word form, not pics). (And no, I didn't censor the phone because I figured that stuff was reflecting whatever was being said on the playground, anyway, so I'd rather know about it then bury my head.)

In sum, I was careful at home, but they got a world of exposure outside of home, anyway.

I'm not saying you should give up, entirely, but I'd probably let things go for a party.

Anonymous wrote:On the flip side (and slightly off-topic), but parents, please do just a little bit of research on a movie before you let your kids go see it.

I know the general theme here is that its weird for some parents to be so restrictive since the kids talk about this stuff/see it on social media/etc.

But DS has a group of kids that are trying to go see Terrifier and the parents have no idea what the movie is. Its nuts and he's pissed at us bc we're not letting him go

I mean, the title kind of gives you the huge hint it'll be scary.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess it’s Mean Girls. It seems to be the rage with tweens now. I would not be comfortable with this movie for my 11 year old. I think my 11 year old saw it at a friend’s house recently without me knowing and I have now caught her a few times using the word “Bee otch” which is directly from the movie. My child is not mature enough to understand we don’t go around quoting inappropriate lines from movies; therefore, we don’t allow anything but PG and under when we can.

If the worst thing you 11 year old does is say “bee otch,” I think you’re good 😂

+1
PP, your ELEVEN year old isn't mature enough to not quote inappropriate things? My kids started learning this at three with potty words. They are really good at code switching tweens and I can only guess how they talk with friends when there are no parents or teachers around.

Anonymous wrote:They are all watching porn on their phones and tablets. Pg 13 is mild

Sigh - this old trope. No they aren’t.

They are all watching porn on their phones and tablets. Pg 13 is mild

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Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

The sexual assault scenes are not at all graphic but very uncomfortable when I saw this movie as an adult.

NP. I agree. But I don’t think the movie is Back the Future - that was an example someone said earlier and then people latched onto it. OP hasn’t confirmed.

11 is where I would be ok with PG-13. I would understand your concern more if it was about rated R content.

Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

The sexual assault scenes are not at all graphic but very uncomfortable when I saw this movie as an adult.

On the flip side (and slightly off-topic), but parents, please do just a little bit of research on a movie before you let your kids go see it.

I know the general theme here is that its weird for some parents to be so restrictive since the kids talk about this stuff/see it on social media/etc.

But DS has a group of kids that are trying to go see Terrifier and the parents have no idea what the movie is. Its nuts and he's pissed at us bc we're not letting him go