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Anonymous wrote:Shorter thread:

Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

So not the point of this thread. OP is just looking for a partner that won't drag her down financially. That is not golddigging.

Anonymous wrote:Shorter thread:

Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

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I just left a relationship for a variety of reasons but finances were a big one. He is mid 50s and hadn’t saved for retirement. Buys all kinds of toys and goes on trips but can’t manage to sock money away for the future. I don’t need anyone else’s money and won’t actively seek out a monied partner - I’ve saved diligently and will be fine, but his inability to make smart financial decisions was a huge turn off.

It is this right here. I am a professional woman and quite capable of taking care of myself. Not looking for money, just looking for a responsible adult. Have yet to find it. 3 dudes right in a row with no retirement in their 50s. I don't understand.

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I just left a relationship for a variety of reasons but finances were a big one. He is mid 50s and hadn’t saved for retirement. Buys all kinds of toys and goes on trips but can’t manage to sock money away for the future. I don’t need anyone else’s money and won’t actively seek out a monied partner - I’ve saved diligently and will be fine, but his inability to make smart financial decisions was a huge turn off.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Everyone I've dated since my divorce has been able to meet this requirement, so no, I don't think it's too much to ask. Of course, many more people may not be able to do this, and that's fine, but they just aren't the person for me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.