Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 19:44     Subject: Height height height
I am 5'2" and XH is 5'7".

My best friend is 5'7" and was the same height or taller (at least in heels) as her XH.

My other best friend is 5'4" and her DH is 5'7".

We are all college grads and the men are at least college educated and one has advanced degrees.

A former friend is 5'3" and her DH is 6'7" and they look weird, imho. She had difficult labors because the babies were so big.

Are we outliers? I don't understand the obsession with height
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:45     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think women in all cultures prioritize tall men but lately it’s become more of a thing for women to obsess about. With the rise of dating apps and hookup culture young women care mostly about how hot a guy is as opposed to long term partner material, and height is something you can easily filter in one of these apps. I think it’s become harder for short men to compensate with income too because women want the full package. A short guy with a high status career is still undesirable. I’m a 5’5 man and married now but dating was brutal even though I was earning in the top 1-2% and hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. I’ve had better luck with foreign women in general but still plenty of women in other countries who want a tall guy so it’s not a slam dunk. My wife is American.


Dating was brutal because you were looking for a very attractive woman, when your height kicks you out of that status for men.

My family has very tall and very shirt men. None of them struggles to date. I would even argue that some of the shorter men got the best partners. But they had to work harder on their personalities. Same story goes for women. The less attractive you are, the more impressive you have to be. Big deal!


It was mostly brutal because I relied on the apps as I didn’t have a very good way to meet women in person once I left school. My standards weren’t crazy. I’ve never tried to go for model tier women. The hardest part was getting matches, once I could secure an in person date I had decent success in getting her to show interest and had 2 relationships. But when single I literally would sometimes go weeks without matching with a real person even using the app every day. My pics were as good as they could be. This was hinge, tinder, bumble in the mid 2010’s up through 2021 when I met my wife on Hinge. Dating apps are terrible for men and the only guy I know who does well on them is literally a male model.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:38     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:I was watching a show on YouTube and this guy was going around asking short men about their insecurities around their height. 99% of them wished they were taller at least 6 feet, they expressed that women don't pay attention to them and a few of the guys said that they think their height holds them back. It's kind of sad because these are young men and their confidence is ready shattered due to their height. I am 5'11 and even at my height I don't come across a lot of men taller than me yet we are acting like tall men are all over the place.

I don't think fat women have the level of lack of self esteem that short men have. Just by judging the way fat women dress it's clear that they are confident in their look. And they may not be wrong because clearly men are approaching them.

Personally I think the issue is that young men have to have a certain way, look a certain way to be attractive to women. I think all men should just focus on themselves. Superficial criteria such a height are just an ego boost for women when they reject men.


Op, why are you concerned with who women choose to date or reject?

Men should build their self esteem around matters other than who they can date. Plenty of single women live happy lives. Men who can't find a date should try that.


Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:37     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think women in all cultures prioritize tall men but lately it’s become more of a thing for women to obsess about. With the rise of dating apps and hookup culture young women care mostly about how hot a guy is as opposed to long term partner material, and height is something you can easily filter in one of these apps. I think it’s become harder for short men to compensate with income too because women want the full package. A short guy with a high status career is still undesirable. I’m a 5’5 man and married now but dating was brutal even though I was earning in the top 1-2% and hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. I’ve had better luck with foreign women in general but still plenty of women in other countries who want a tall guy so it’s not a slam dunk. My wife is American.


Dating was brutal because you were looking for a very attractive woman, when your height kicks you out of that status for men.

My family has very tall and very shirt men. None of them struggles to date. I would even argue that some of the shorter men got the best partners. But they had to work harder on their personalities. Same story goes for women. The less attractive you are, the more impressive you have to be. Big deal!

+1 not so attractive women with not so attractive bodies have a hard time dating, too.


What is attractive in this area anyway? Maybe I've seen five attractive women a month around this area. Same for men. I rarely if ever see attractive men tall or short. I have also seen more fat men and fat woman in this area.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:22     Subject: Re:Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’8” and I’ve had relationships with guys from 5’6” to maybe 6’6”. First, tallness doesn’t necessarily translate into “male size” which was a surprise to me. But a great, loving personality is far more important. My husband is 5’10” so he’s not much taller than me but we fit together very well. Our children are growing like weeds so I’m sure they will be our height or taller.


It does translate so you would be wrong.


Apparently you’ve never heard of the Irish curse
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:21     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:I am 5’2 and I don’t like tall men towering over me. Much prefer shorter ones.


Ditto. Tall men feel weird to me. A little taller is ok, but hulking over me by a foot?? No.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:21     Subject: Re:Height height height
Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’8” and I’ve had relationships with guys from 5’6” to maybe 6’6”. First, tallness doesn’t necessarily translate into “male size” which was a surprise to me. But a great, loving personality is far more important. My husband is 5’10” so he’s not much taller than me but we fit together very well. Our children are growing like weeds so I’m sure they will be our height or taller.


It does translate so you would be wrong.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:19     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think women in all cultures prioritize tall men but lately it’s become more of a thing for women to obsess about. With the rise of dating apps and hookup culture young women care mostly about how hot a guy is as opposed to long term partner material, and height is something you can easily filter in one of these apps. I think it’s become harder for short men to compensate with income too because women want the full package. A short guy with a high status career is still undesirable. I’m a 5’5 man and married now but dating was brutal even though I was earning in the top 1-2% and hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. I’ve had better luck with foreign women in general but still plenty of women in other countries who want a tall guy so it’s not a slam dunk. My wife is American.


Dating was brutal because you were looking for a very attractive woman, when your height kicks you out of that status for men.

My family has very tall and very shirt men. None of them struggles to date. I would even argue that some of the shorter men got the best partners. But they had to work harder on their personalities. Same story goes for women. The less attractive you are, the more impressive you have to be. Big deal!

+1 not so attractive women with not so attractive bodies have a hard time dating, too.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 18:18     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:I think women in all cultures prioritize tall men but lately it’s become more of a thing for women to obsess about. With the rise of dating apps and hookup culture young women care mostly about how hot a guy is as opposed to long term partner material, and height is something you can easily filter in one of these apps. I think it’s become harder for short men to compensate with income too because women want the full package. A short guy with a high status career is still undesirable. I’m a 5’5 man and married now but dating was brutal even though I was earning in the top 1-2% and hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. I’ve had better luck with foreign women in general but still plenty of women in other countries who want a tall guy so it’s not a slam dunk. My wife is American.


Dating was brutal because you were looking for a very attractive woman, when your height kicks you out of that status for men.

My family has very tall and very shirt men. None of them struggles to date. I would even argue that some of the shorter men got the best partners. But they had to work harder on their personalities. Same story goes for women. The less attractive you are, the more impressive you have to be. Big deal!
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 17:41     Subject: Height height height
I think women in all cultures prioritize tall men but lately it’s become more of a thing for women to obsess about. With the rise of dating apps and hookup culture young women care mostly about how hot a guy is as opposed to long term partner material, and height is something you can easily filter in one of these apps. I think it’s become harder for short men to compensate with income too because women want the full package. A short guy with a high status career is still undesirable. I’m a 5’5 man and married now but dating was brutal even though I was earning in the top 1-2% and hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. I’ve had better luck with foreign women in general but still plenty of women in other countries who want a tall guy so it’s not a slam dunk. My wife is American.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 17:24     Subject: Re:Height height height
I am 5'7" and definitely have a thing for big guys. In my 20s I did try to override my type with a guy who was about an inch shorter than me and I just.could.not.do.it. They don't have to be overly muscular or any other thing but yes the height matters.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 17:16     Subject: Re:Height height height
I’m 5’8” and I’ve had relationships with guys from 5’6” to maybe 6’6”. First, tallness doesn’t necessarily translate into “male size” which was a surprise to me. But a great, loving personality is far more important. My husband is 5’10” so he’s not much taller than me but we fit together very well. Our children are growing like weeds so I’m sure they will be our height or taller.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 17:06     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'4 female and prefer taller men. I have more of an athletic build and find shorter men (or at least the shorter men who have been interested in me) to have a smaller frame. It makes me fell HUGE around them so it's more of a me issue. I don't need a guy to be 6 feet but I do like them a bit taller than me so hopefullly they are stronger than me and have a bigger frame than me.
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My best friend is like this. She rejects guys under a certain height because she -- with a BMI of 20 or so -- doesn't want to feel "big." She actually phrased it as, "when I'm with taller men it makes me fell smaller, and I like that."

She's 5'7" and fine boned and objectively skinny. She's also stuck in middle school, despite being middle aged.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 16:49     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The problem with a thread like this is that you will end up with outliers. You will see an endless stream of women who will say no my DH is short or my sister is married to a short man or my best friends bf is short.

Women aren't going to come here and tell you that they will smile at a taller man and give a mean face to a short dude. They just won't. Women will not admit and confess their shallowness like we men do. Most of us men have no issues saying there is no way in hell we will date or marry a fat woman for example. But a woman will dance around the issue lol


+1

You can go on YT and see this for yourself. There is a content creator on YT called "the desirable truth" and 99.999% of the women he interviewed wanted a guy who was at least 6 ft tall. Don't listen to what a woman says, watch what she does. An overwhelming majority of women want a 667, they want a guy who is at least 6 feet tall, at least 6 inches in the pants, and makes at least 7 figure.


Who are these women that he’s interviewing? The only women I know who say stuff like that are women who know they can get it.

Most normal women are looking for normal men. There are millions of happily married men out there who are having regular sex and are less than 6 feet tall.

Anonymous
Post 09/27/2024 16:26     Subject: Height height height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The problem with a thread like this is that you will end up with outliers. You will see an endless stream of women who will say no my DH is short or my sister is married to a short man or my best friends bf is short.

Women aren't going to come here and tell you that they will smile at a taller man and give a mean face to a short dude. They just won't. Women will not admit and confess their shallowness like we men do. Most of us men have no issues saying there is no way in hell we will date or marry a fat woman for example. But a woman will dance around the issue lol


+1

You can go on YT and see this for yourself. There is a content creator on YT called "the desirable truth" and 99.999% of the women he interviewed wanted a guy who was at least 6 ft tall. Don't listen to what a woman says, watch what she does. An overwhelming majority of women want a 667, they want a guy who is at least 6 feet tall, at least 6 inches in the pants, and makes at least 7 figure.


To be honest they know they can't have that. All of us (men and women) most often wish for what we can't have. Women are not exceptional. Just because they want a guy over 6' who has a great job/salary doesn't mean she will get such a guy. Regardless of how she looks the odds are against her. And if she knows she will happily remain single or be forced to remain single simply because such men are actually rare. Men like to say that women are delusional. I don't think they are. They are simply staying what they want. Perhaps they are not telling us that they are fully aware that they will not get what they want but I don't think they think that they can snap their fingers and these guys will come flocking to them in big groups.