Anonymous wrote:What are the options when a grandparent does not want to include an adopted child in their will?

You tell them to %%$$^^ck the He**&& off.

Anonymous wrote:How about a child that was not legally adopted, but lived in the family like a member of the family?

Then that is not adoption.

This is the shit that destroys families OP

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My adopted child does not stand to inherit from biological grandparents. My child is not legally connected to them. We don't even know them.

For now. What if they make contact later in life?

When you adopt legal tights are severed.

Rights

We're talking about inheritance issues, not legal rights.

If an adopted child (at age 18) makes contact with their biological family and develops a positive and lasting relationship with them, there is a very good chance they may inherit something from the bio side of the family.

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My adopted child does not stand to inherit from biological grandparents. My child is not legally connected to them. We don't even know them.

For now. What if they make contact later in life?

When you adopt legal tights are severed.

Rights

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My adopted child does not stand to inherit from biological grandparents. My child is not legally connected to them. We don't even know them.

For now. What if they make contact later in life?

When you adopt legal tights are severed.

"If there is an adoption where the biological parent is still living chances are the biological grandparents are not involved. This really depends on specifics of the case of course."

It is indeed case-specific. I know of a family who has two bio kids and the third child is adopted, via a very open adoption.

When I say open I mean fully open. The child's bio parents AND grandparents are fully involved in her life.

Bio mom is in almost daily contact with adopted mom, Bio dad (and his family) are also regularly in contact. This has gone on for many years.

All the bio family members visit the home frequently and are known to the other kids as "Larla's mom, dad, grandpa, uncle, etc."

The adopted child's grandparents are middle/upper middle class so they will have to figure out inheritance issues. I don't think it would surprise anyone if the grandparents were to leave a larger amount to Larla with perhaps a good-will stipend for the other 2 kids. Most people would say this is reasonable.

However, if the bio childrens' grandparents were to do the same it would be considered awful and an outrage. As posters here have already stated. All three kids should be treated the same.

I'm an adult adoptee and my only sibling was also adopted. Our parents' will states that inheritance goes only to my sister and me. In turn, my will states that only my children, both bio and adopted, will inherit. I actually have both bio and adopted children myself, so while I resent having to spell out the difference in my will, the lawyers thought it was necessary.

They must be awful people, treating a relative differently because if how they came into the family??

With decent people, the will usually spells out that children include both biological and adopted.

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My adopted child does not stand to inherit from biological grandparents. My child is not legally connected to them. We don't even know them.

For now. What if they make contact later in life?

My uncle and aunt adopted a kid and had a biological kid. When they died it was 50/50 and adopted one ran off with money never saw him again totally disassociated with anyone in his adopted family.

My uncle basically gave away 1/2 his inheritance to his biological kid and his kids.

And this was an adopted kid, not a grandkid.

My adopted child does not stand to inherit from biological grandparents. My child is not legally connected to them. We don't even know them.

So the grandparents excluded all the nonbiological kids from one son’s family? Was the adopted kid adopted from birth? Or the son’s wife’s kid from another marriage? If so these kids all have their own bio grandparents they stand to inherit from. The grandparents made their choice, but everyone may not agree.

People usually do not adopt the children from a spouse's previous marriage unless the biological parent of the children signs off on that or that person is deceased. If there is an adoption where the biological parent is still living chances are the biological grandparents are not involved. This really depends on specifics of the case of course.

So the grandparents excluded all the nonbiological kids from one son’s family? Was the adopted kid adopted from birth? Or the son’s wife’s kid from another marriage? If so these kids all have their own bio grandparents they stand to inherit from. The grandparents made their choice, but everyone may not agree.

OP, what are the circumstances? Are the “adopted kids” adopted because the adult child has a second or third marriage and the new spouse has kids? Seems like circumstances are everything and maybe the grandparents don’t know new spouse so well (and maybe they don’t trust new spouse b/c grifter). So if these are the circumstances, why would they include the kids of new spouse, adopted or not? Maybe the new parent of these kids ought to worry most about how HE earns enough to provide.