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Anonymous wrote:What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Not OP. Not relevant to the thread. If you're curious about conditions that require "ankle support", google it or start a new thread.

I'm a NP and think the question is relevant because OP said her DD has "weak ankles" and needs ankle support and that's why she's looking at sneakers.

I'm with the (surprisingly few) posters who think you respect the dress code and don't wear sneakers. There are plenty of non sneaker options with support and that would look appropriate at black tie. Your hosts asked you to respect their dress code; it's polite to do so, and it's not like it is a great hardship or morally offensive to you to do so. Age 13 is old enough to understand this and understand that sometimes you don't get to do what you want in life.

Go buy her a pair of orthotic ballet flats or whatever. Not expensive. https://www.aerosoles.com/collections/sale-flats/products/catalina-2

We all think she should respect the dress code. Wearing a nice dress with sneakers is a totally acceptable adjustment and does not violate the dress code. Especially for a 13 year old who would not be expected to have formal footwear anyway!

She's 13 and not 8. She doesn't need "formal footwear" but she needs something without a white rubber sole and laces. There is no world where sneakers are "a totally acceptable adjustment" that does not violate a black tie dress code. You're stretching to justify this.

If you want to be someone who obviously disregards the dress code, that's fine. People do it all the time. But acknowledge that that's what you're doing.

I think there's a very easy, very obvious, non offensive, and inexpensive way to abide by the dress code (cheap, supportive ballet flats or mary janes). And it's one that could serve as a teaching moment to daughter while you are at it. I can't imagine a kid by age 13 not being able to accept this message from their parent without push back. "We wear different clothes for a wedding than for school". If kid pushes back, you have bigger problems.

Sure there is - lots of them. Look at any red carpet event. Lots of celebs in their fancy outfits are wearing sneakers.

Just because you're stuck in time doesn't mean fashion and culture are. Get with the times.

I only asked about her need for ankle support because there are May Jane flats available at very price point.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Not OP. Not relevant to the thread. If you're curious about conditions that require "ankle support", google it or start a new thread.

I'm a NP and think the question is relevant because OP said her DD has "weak ankles" and needs ankle support and that's why she's looking at sneakers.

I'm with the (surprisingly few) posters who think you respect the dress code and don't wear sneakers. There are plenty of non sneaker options with support and that would look appropriate at black tie. Your hosts asked you to respect their dress code; it's polite to do so, and it's not like it is a great hardship or morally offensive to you to do so. Age 13 is old enough to understand this and understand that sometimes you don't get to do what you want in life.

Go buy her a pair of orthotic ballet flats or whatever. Not expensive. https://www.aerosoles.com/collections/sale-flats/products/catalina-2

We all think she should respect the dress code. Wearing a nice dress with sneakers is a totally acceptable adjustment and does not violate the dress code. Especially for a 13 year old who would not be expected to have formal footwear anyway!

She's 13 and not 8. She doesn't need "formal footwear" but she needs something without a white rubber sole and laces. There is no world where sneakers are "a totally acceptable adjustment" that does not violate a black tie dress code. You're stretching to justify this.

If you want to be someone who obviously disregards the dress code, that's fine. People do it all the time. But acknowledge that that's what you're doing.

I think there's a very easy, very obvious, non offensive, and inexpensive way to abide by the dress code (cheap, supportive ballet flats or mary janes). And it's one that could serve as a teaching moment to daughter while you are at it. I can't imagine a kid by age 13 not being able to accept this message from their parent without push back. "We wear different clothes for a wedding than for school". If kid pushes back, you have bigger problems.

Glue sequins on the new hi tops. She can explain weak ankles when asked, if asked.
I wore black New Balances to Louis XV and explained truthfully, recent knee replacement surgery. They were very sympathetic.

She’s a kid. IMO it is 100% fine.

Glittered Converse, maybe?

https://www.converse.com/shop/glitter-shoes

Mary janes or a very low heeled shoe.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Not OP. Not relevant to the thread. If you're curious about conditions that require "ankle support", google it or start a new thread.

I'm a NP and think the question is relevant because OP said her DD has "weak ankles" and needs ankle support and that's why she's looking at sneakers.

I'm with the (surprisingly few) posters who think you respect the dress code and don't wear sneakers. There are plenty of non sneaker options with support and that would look appropriate at black tie. Your hosts asked you to respect their dress code; it's polite to do so, and it's not like it is a great hardship or morally offensive to you to do so. Age 13 is old enough to understand this and understand that sometimes you don't get to do what you want in life.

Go buy her a pair of orthotic ballet flats or whatever. Not expensive. https://www.aerosoles.com/collections/sale-flats/products/catalina-2

We all think she should respect the dress code. Wearing a nice dress with sneakers is a totally acceptable adjustment and does not violate the dress code. Especially for a 13 year old who would not be expected to have formal footwear anyway!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Not OP. Not relevant to the thread. If you're curious about conditions that require "ankle support", google it or start a new thread.

I'm a NP and think the question is relevant because OP said her DD has "weak ankles" and needs ankle support and that's why she's looking at sneakers.

I'm with the (surprisingly few) posters who think you respect the dress code and don't wear sneakers. There are plenty of non sneaker options with support and that would look appropriate at black tie. Your hosts asked you to respect their dress code; it's polite to do so, and it's not like it is a great hardship or morally offensive to you to do so. Age 13 is old enough to understand this and understand that sometimes you don't get to do what you want in life.

Go buy her a pair of orthotic ballet flats or whatever. Not expensive. https://www.aerosoles.com/collections/sale-flats/products/catalina-2

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can't find her exact dress online, but it's fine for a 13 year old. Sort of like this but a little liver and a little higher cut neckline with more substantial shoulders
https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-off-the-shoulder-tea-length-chiffon-lace-homecoming-dress-with-beading-022170654-g170654

Lovely! I could totally see it paired with the shoes 20:23 posted. I could also see it with some nice low cut canvas shoes.

Anonymous wrote:What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Not OP. Not relevant to the thread. If you're curious about conditions that require "ankle support", google it or start a new thread.

I'd get a new pair of chucks so they're clean but I think it's 100% fine. She's a kid.

Does it have to be a high top? What about a low metallic sneaker and you change out the laces for wide satin or pretty ribbon?

Anonymous wrote:No, not for a black tie wedding, sorry kid.

Good grief. Most photod of your face/bodies not your feet

What medical condition does she have that requires “ankle support?”

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I can't find her exact dress online, but it's fine for a 13 year old. Sort of like this but a little liver and a little higher cut neckline with more substantial shoulders
https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-off-the-shoulder-tea-length-chiffon-lace-homecoming-dress-with-beading-022170654-g170654

That's freaking beautiful!