Anonymous wrote:The player cards, are they only for within the same league? Say OP kid was MLSNext, if they leave mid season, can't they just go to ECNL? How does that work....

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

I'm sure its different for every child. I have a U11 and a U14 both playing on top teams in top leagues. One thinks he's better than he actually is and the other thinks he sucks but he's the best player on the pitch every match. It's my job as a parent to view them critically and be honest with them (and myself) so they can get better. Too many parents are completely detached from reality and think their kid will be playing on TV soon...so they make bad choices for their kid because of it. That was part of my point above.

It is never your job to view your kid critically. It is your job to view your child realistically.

If your kid[s] have anything even remotely special, trust me, the good coaches will nuture and encourage it, even if it means going to another club to play at the next level. Youth soccer coaches don't make a ton of money. Finding and elevating a gem of a player can be their life's work.

Its always my job to view them critically but thank you for the opinion. I'm not sure if you quite realize that viewing your child critically is viewing them realistically. But thank you for the advice?

Touche and I'll take that nick. I fully acknowledge that I've spent too much time on the sidelines with parents who put the critic in critical.

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

I'm sure its different for every child. I have a U11 and a U14 both playing on top teams in top leagues. One thinks he's better than he actually is and the other thinks he sucks but he's the best player on the pitch every match. It's my job as a parent to view them critically and be honest with them (and myself) so they can get better. Too many parents are completely detached from reality and think their kid will be playing on TV soon...so they make bad choices for their kid because of it. That was part of my point above.

It is never your job to view your kid critically. It is your job to view your child realistically.

If your kid[s] have anything even remotely special, trust me, the good coaches will nuture and encourage it, even if it means going to another club to play at the next level. Youth soccer coaches don't make a ton of money. Finding and elevating a gem of a player can be their life's work.

Its always my job to view them critically but thank you for the opinion. I'm not sure if you quite realize that viewing your child critically is viewing them realistically. But thank you for the advice?

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

I'm sure its different for every child. I have a U11 and a U14 both playing on top teams in top leagues. One thinks he's better than he actually is and the other thinks he sucks but he's the best player on the pitch every match. It's my job as a parent to view them critically and be honest with them (and myself) so they can get better. Too many parents are completely detached from reality and think their kid will be playing on TV soon...so they make bad choices for their kid because of it. That was part of my point above.

It is never your job to view your kid critically. It is your job to view your child realistically.

If your kid[s] have anything even remotely special, trust me, the good coaches will nuture and encourage it, even if it means going to another club to play at the next level. Youth soccer coaches don't make a ton of money. Finding and elevating a gem of a player can be their life's work.

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

I'm sure its different for every child. I have a U11 and a U14 both playing on top teams in top leagues. One thinks he's better than he actually is and the other thinks he sucks but he's the best player on the pitch every match. It's my job as a parent to view them critically and be honest with them (and myself) so they can get better. Too many parents are completely detached from reality and think their kid will be playing on TV soon...so they make bad choices for their kid because of it. That was part of my point above.

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

Anonymous wrote:Here is the specific VYSA policy. You can read it for yourself:

"Transfer between Clubs or Teams during Seasonal Year: It is the policy of VYSA that all travel players registered with VYSA are responsible for making payments required in writing by their clubs and/or teams. Accordingly, VYSA will not process a transfer of a player from one club/team to another during the seasonal year if that player is not current on his or her financial obligations, provided that (1) the financial obligation is set forth in writing and acknowledged by the player’s family, and (2) the obligation is for the current seasonal year. For purposes of this policy, any written financial obligation signed by the player’s family will be sufficient, including a financial obligation set forth in an electronic registration document and acknowledged electronically at the time of registration. This policy does not apply to a player who changes clubs or teams between seasonal years. In the event that a club or team objects to a transfer by a player during or between seasons due to failure to make required payments, the club or team must, within three business days of the transfer request, submit to the VYSA office an email to registrar@vysa.com objecting to the transfer. Documentation of the financial agreement supporting the request must be submitted with the email. Failure to notify VYSA, could result in VYSA approving the release of the player. VYSA will notify the family that the transfer is being held until payment is made. A club or team must notify VYSA immediately upon payment (within two business days) to release the transfer request. In the event that VYSA determines a club or team has placed a hold on a transfer in bad faith, the club or team may be sanctioned."

Source: https://www.vysa.com/policies-and-procedures/

Anonymous wrote:The player cards, are they only for within the same league? Say OP kid was MLSNext, if they leave mid season, can't they just go to ECNL? How does that work....

Anonymous wrote:Terrible advice ^. First, club can hold your player card. You can leave but if they hold the card kid is not playing anywhere this year.
Second teach your kid integrity. Your kid needs to suck it up and honor their commitment. They can try out in spring and leave then.

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Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

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Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?

Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Anonymous wrote:The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower? If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport. If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place. And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...

Anonymous wrote:Smells like Alexandria to me.