Relationships forum is a truly low and sad place. Horrible.

Anonymous wrote:I think real estate is pretty mean. If your "budget" is $1.5M you are made to feel like a pauper.

Every thread has its constant refrain: you are a bad parent/feel sorry for your children/your children have some deficit and it’s your fault (this one spans many fora); you should divorce; your relationship problems are your fault; you are fat; your clothes are ugly and you must shop at Talbot; you are a terrible pet owner; you are one of the poors, etc etc.

Only a few fora are 99% safe. I’m not naming them so they stay that way

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Anonymous wrote:Entertainment and Politics.

Because people say the nastiest things about public figures, celebrities and politicians who aren't even there to defend themselves.

In the other forums, we just fight each other.

The meanest bothers me the least in Entertainment because it is people who have chosen to be in the public eye with all that entails.

They chose a job to match their talents/ strengths. Those jobs happen to be in the public eye - they don’t have a choice in that respect. They are literally just still people, and so many others forget that. They are people that are good at singing, acting, making art. And art is something that makes humanity better. But so many people feel entitled to comment on everything about them because they have a particular job. That’s pathological.

Being cruel because they’re in the public eye is a very weird sense of entitlement.

I’m going to have to disagree with all on all of this. No one is tearing apart Cate Blanchett on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Entertainment and Politics.

Because people say the nastiest things about public figures, celebrities and politicians who aren't even there to defend themselves.

In the other forums, we just fight each other.

The meanest bothers me the least in Entertainment because it is people who have chosen to be in the public eye with all that entails.

They chose a job to match their talents/ strengths. Those jobs happen to be in the public eye - they don’t have a choice in that respect. They are literally just still people, and so many others forget that. They are people that are good at singing, acting, making art. And art is something that makes humanity better. But so many people feel entitled to comment on everything about them because they have a particular job. That’s pathological.

Being cruel because they’re in the public eye is a very weird sense of entitlement.

I think real estate is pretty mean. If your "budget" is $1.5M you are made to feel like a pauper.

Anonymous wrote:Entertainment and Politics.

Because people say the nastiest things about public figures, celebrities and politicians who aren't even there to defend themselves.

In the other forums, we just fight each other.

The meanest bothers me the least in Entertainment because it is people who have chosen to be in the public eye with all that entails.

Anonymous wrote:Beauty and Fashion.

This poor lady asked if anyone liked these shoes...

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/677275.page

We all different definitions of mean, I guess. That was snarky humor, but not mean.

Entertainment and Politics.

Because people say the nastiest things about public figures, celebrities and politicians who aren't even there to defend themselves.

In the other forums, we just fight each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I have seen mean posts all over. It's the "kick a puppy" reflex of unhappy people all over the internet. If someone does it to me, I don't respond. It's likely just a handful of people behaving that way.

and speaking of - i think the pets forum is the most unhinged one that i ever pay any attention to

i don't know which is meanest. they are all mean and fun/helpful in equal measure, that i've noticed.

Not even mean, there's at least one poster there who posts awful sick fantasies about killing animals, mainly dogs. They're like, gleeful in coming up with different ways to kill, torture, or maim animals. I report them and have them removed.

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Anonymous wrote:Political can get pretty heated but I guess that's the point.

School forums can be pretty nasty too. Specifically Montgomery County as that is the one I check but I would have to imagine the others are similar.

The politics forum is infested with truly extreme LWNJs. Even Jeff has said it’s a disaster.

What’s LWNJ?

LWNJ is the term far-right weirdos use for anyone who doesn't pop an immediate stiffy when looking at an assault rifle, thinking about trickle-down economics, hearing a dog whistle, or crossing a stroad.

It stands for Left Wing Nut Job. There is also RWNJ.

I think it’s always been deliciously snarky here (part of what keeps me coming back), but I do hunk the level of just basic, mean and mean spiritedness has increased lately. Both the Relationship forums are pretty bad, but I feel like it seems to rotate - I often wonder if it’s a few posters who just make the rounds to all the forums every few days or weeks. It’s sad, because there is a lot of really helpful and thoughtful posts and guidance (another reason I keep coming back) and threads get completely derailed and devolve into pedantic arguments and just nastiness that really serves no purpose other than to maybe make the posters feel powerful (about being what, I’m not sure). Also a lot of victim blaming mentality, as though everyone has the option to just divorce, or find a job, or uproot their lives without any thought or consequences.

College by a mile when adults are insulting kids.

Anonymous wrote:The relationships forum is unhinged. Every time there’s a woman with a problem, some man or some pick me comes on to monologue about how it’s all her fault, how it’s her fault it happened in the first place, what did she do to contribute to the problem, blah blah blah. And I also think there are a lot of trolls and fake scenarios and sock-puppeting.

I picture all the massively over the top haters in the Entertainment forum - the people who can get a thread about the damn Kane show/Your Morning Show/whatever it’s called to hundreds of pages! Who even listens to regular radio anymore?! - as all Martha from Baby Reindeer. Not enough going on in their real lives for sure.

I was going to say the exact same thing. Whenever someone has an issue with a family member, one or two posters always turn it around to be OP’s fault.

Anonymous wrote:Meanest is Relationships. Most responses suggest DIVORCE!

I think the divorce poster is The Divorce Poster. Everything is: Divorce. It can be something like: My DH burped. Response: Divorce. Which has led me tp believe it is a troll.

Anonymous wrote:Disabled Kids forum can be really mean too

Special Needs and the predecessor to the Eldercare/Perimenopause (i.e., Midlife) forms were always really lovely. But even they have started to go off the rails.