Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents married really young but built a fantastic life, uncles and aunts on both sides, married in late 30's or early 40's, no one did well, two divorced. Just anecdotes but formed my opinion that, being mature and being of mature age aren't the same.

Kind of irrelevant since OP specifically said they ate NOT mature and also marrying due to family pressure and religious expectations.

Not any different than not postponing due to societal pressure and secular expectations.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding if this is how you feel, they do not need your negative vibes at the wedding.

I don't know why people attend just to judge if couple is too young or too old, same race or interracial, same faith or interfaith, spending too little on caterer or too much, wearing too conservative or too revealing, invited too many people or too few, is of same gender or different, etc etc.

Just be happy for them and eat your chicken or stay home and send best wishes with a check. When you married, did you ask their opinion?

Yes! Please send your regrets and a nice gift.

Anonymous wrote:OP

Please do not attend the wedding if you are not happy for the couple.

I agree…but neither the parents or couple can ask why OP isn’t coming.

People are weird and maybe OP is local, so the inviting party may find it strange that OP doesn’t attend.

This works two ways.

OP

Please do not attend the wedding if you are not happy for the couple.

Anonymous wrote:My parents married really young but built a fantastic life, uncles and aunts on both sides, married in late 30's or early 40's, no one did well, two divorced. Just anecdotes but formed my opinion that, being mature and being of mature age aren't the same.

Kind of irrelevant since OP specifically said they ate NOT mature and also marrying due to family pressure and religious expectations.

*24-28 is ideal

My parents married really young but built a fantastic life, uncles and aunts on both sides, married in late 30's or early 40's, no one did well, two divorced. Just anecdotes but formed my opinion that, being mature and being of mature age aren't the same.

Are they doing it just so they can bang?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my DH at 21, got engaged at 23, married at 24. Just celebrated our 32nd anniversary. It has not been a train wreck.

This is actually quite different than getting married right at the end of college.

Those three years might as well be a lifetime of maturing.

Some people are mature young. I was a mature teen, mature college student, still mature.

Anonymous wrote:Met my DH at 21, got engaged at 23, married at 24. Just celebrated our 32nd anniversary. It has not been a train wreck.

This is actually quite different than getting married right at the end of college.

Those three years might as well be a lifetime of maturing.

Met my DH at 21, got engaged at 23, married at 24. Just celebrated our 32nd anniversary. It has not been a train wreck.

Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding if this is how you feel, they do not need your negative vibes at the wedding.

AMEN

You actually haven’t provided any valid reasons why anything here is a train wreck.

If anything you seem very narrow-minded and rigid.

You should get out more Op, have a more diverse set of friends and experiences.

Anonymous wrote:We will be attending a wedding of a 22 year old couple and it feels like a train wreck. They just graduated from college a couple months ago. They are immature and the parents are religious so they were probably pressured. I feel bad that they won’t have a chance to grow up before making this commitment.

Sounds like you aren’t close to the couple or their parents. You don’t seem to know anything about them or their relationship.

Just pass on attending. Please. For everyone’s benefit.

We got married at 25, had dated since we were 19. I think waiting until college is done for both is optimal, but after that? Anything is fine. My friends who didn't want to settle with their college boyfriends struggled dating a LOT of losers into their 30s and the college boyfriends were objectively fantastic guys with nothing wrong with them. They were just scared to marry young. I would not tell my kids that staying single longer is better as long as you found a good partner.