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Anonymous wrote:Team DD. Don't force her into changing her body just because somebody may judge it.

Signed, a 35 year old woman who hasn't shaved her legs in a decade and has never once been impacted by it at work

Just curious. What job do you have? How dark is the hair on your legs?

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

Anonymous wrote:The younger generation does not shave as much, and many do not shave at all. The gendered body hair expectations are seen as old-fashioned.

If you wouldn't ask a man to shave his legs to wear shorts, why would you ask a woman to shave when she has far, far less leg hair than the man?

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.