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Anonymous wrote:OP if you could see the lives of most of these posters you’d have never asked for their advice. Their funerals will be like 4 people. Host the playdate, be a shoulder, of course you should help when you see someone hurting - I don’t care if this was the first time you’d seen this woman in your life, it’s called being human.

Being human does not condone talking about any one having 4 individuals at their funeral. You are disgusting.

Oh yes, talking like this is precisely how you get the 5th person to your funeral point proven

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB

100%!
I know some think the best thing is to become a part of this, but it is not best for the op. There are some concerning things that she has posted about the mother and it’s best she myob. Go about it as normal interactions in their past history.

All you myob posters are just wrong. This is what community is about. She shouldn’t meddle, but the idea that you wouldn’t offer a playdate or something just makes sound mean.

The mother has shown some alarming and inappropriate behaviors. Even op was surprised that she would divulge private information about her divorce. The children and mom crying at drop off. These things should give one pause and stay away. Be cordial, but cautious with getting involved.
This is an unbalanced woman who it may be justified in her spouse seeking a divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB

100%!
I know some think the best thing is to become a part of this, but it is not best for the op. There are some concerning things that she has posted about the mother and it’s best she myob. Go about it as normal interactions in their past history.

All you myob posters are just wrong. This is what community is about. She shouldn’t meddle, but the idea that you wouldn’t offer a playdate or something just makes sound mean.

No one said not to offer a play date; the pp said to continue on as normal. If you take that wrong, it’s because you take it wrong.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB

100%!
I know some think the best thing is to become a part of this, but it is not best for the op. There are some concerning things that she has posted about the mother and it’s best she myob. Go about it as normal interactions in their past history.

All you myob posters are just wrong. This is what community is about. She shouldn’t meddle, but the idea that you wouldn’t offer a playdate or something just makes sound mean.

Anonymous wrote:MYOB

100%!
I know some think the best thing is to become a part of this, but it is not best for the op. There are some concerning things that she has posted about the mother and it’s best she myob. Go about it as normal interactions in their past history.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with the do-nothing poster. She reached out and they are struggling. I think it’s appropriate to check in with her conversationally or be more generous with invitations for her/the kid. I don’t think you can fix their problems, but I think it would be kind to be a little more available.

I agree. The person telling you not to get involved is a monster. You don't need to take sides. But this mother is in pain. Of course you should be kind.

Where did anyone post anything saying not to be kind? If the op does not get involved and continues to act normally, she is being kind. She does it have to insert herself into this situation any more than what she has already with in previous interactions. Why are some of you guilting her like this is her responsibility or she isn’t kind?

MYOB

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Anonymous wrote:Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

Absolutely not.

^^ Such a weird take. Do not listen to this person.

Not a weird take; it’s the right thing for both sides. Don’t be so pollyannaish.

What are you concerned about, that the divorcee is going to steal OP’s husband?

No, but obviously you thought that.

Nice try.

I didn’t try. You did.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with the do-nothing poster. She reached out and they are struggling. I think it’s appropriate to check in with her conversationally or be more generous with invitations for her/the kid. I don’t think you can fix their problems, but I think it would be kind to be a little more available.

I agree. The person telling you not to get involved is a monster. You don't need to take sides. But this mother is in pain. Of course you should be kind.

A monster? Give us all a break.
The op has always been kind to her. She can be kind and not get involved.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

Absolutely not.

^^ Such a weird take. Do not listen to this person.

Not a weird take; it’s the right thing for both sides. Don’t be so pollyannaish.

What are you concerned about, that the divorcee is going to steal OP’s husband?

No, but obviously you thought that.

Nice try.

Anonymous wrote:OP if you could see the lives of most of these posters you’d have never asked for their advice. Their funerals will be like 4 people. Host the playdate, be a shoulder, of course you should help when you see someone hurting - I don’t care if this was the first time you’d seen this woman in your life, it’s called being human.

Being human does not condone talking about any one having 4 individuals at their funeral. You are disgusting.

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with the do-nothing poster. She reached out and they are struggling. I think it’s appropriate to check in with her conversationally or be more generous with invitations for her/the kid. I don’t think you can fix their problems, but I think it would be kind to be a little more available.

I agree. The person telling you not to get involved is a monster. You don't need to take sides. But this mother is in pain. Of course you should be kind.

Anonymous wrote:OP if you could see the lives of most of these posters you’d have never asked for their advice. Their funerals will be like 4 people. Host the playdate, be a shoulder, of course you should help when you see someone hurting - I don’t care if this was the first time you’d seen this woman in your life, it’s called being human.

You are so hateful.

OP if you could see the lives of most of these posters you’d have never asked for their advice. Their funerals will be like 4 people. Host the playdate, be a shoulder, of course you should help when you see someone hurting - I don’t care if this was the first time you’d seen this woman in your life, it’s called being human.