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Anonymous wrote:Did you get a gift from your DH after giving birth? If so, what? If not, what would you have wanted?

I know people get triggered by the idea of a “push present” - please just think of it as a celebratory gift you deserve for putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth.

You don't deserve anything for that. You're not "putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth" FFS like it's some huge undertaking that is unusual. Women have been getting pregnant and giving birth since the dawn of mankind, and it's far easier now than ever thanks to modern medicine. You're doing it because you want a child/children.

Such a gross way to look at things. The term is as vile as the concept is stupid.

Men have been dying in wars since the dawn of time, why do they need a holiday? See how you sound?

I'm not a push present person but you're pathetic for trying to act like pregnancy and childbirth is nbd.

Anonymous wrote:Ew, these posts come up every so often. It's always trashy folks who do this.

+1

Or entitled narcissists who always think they deserve a present since they're the first person ever to do something.

Anonymous wrote:Did you get a gift from your DH after giving birth? If so, what? If not, what would you have wanted?

I know people get triggered by the idea of a “push present” - please just think of it as a celebratory gift you deserve for putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth.

You don't deserve anything for that. You're not "putting your body through pregnancy and childbirth" FFS like it's some huge undertaking that is unusual. Women have been getting pregnant and giving birth since the dawn of mankind, and it's far easier now than ever thanks to modern medicine. You're doing it because you want a child/children.

Such a gross way to look at things. The term is as vile as the concept is stupid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ew, these posts come up every so often. It's always trashy folks who do this.

I’m sorry you don’t have a family that loves you.

It trivializes one of the very few consequential and life-changing days of your existence.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ew, these posts come up every so often. It's always trashy folks who do this.

I’m sorry you don’t have a family that loves you.

The birth gift doesn’t have to be given on the day of delivery. I personally think all women should get some kind of gift from their spouse. Pregnancy isn’t fun and it’s a good way to acknowledge that. My husband isn’t good with gifts so I plan a gift usually after the delivery. A massage anything. Gifts don’t have to be fancy.

Anonymous wrote:Ew, these posts come up every so often. It's always trashy folks who do this.

I’m sorry you don’t have a family that loves you.

Ew, these posts come up every so often. It's always trashy folks who do this.

Do caesarean birth women get push presents. They shouldn't because they don't push. What a truly stupid gift grab for gift whores!

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the moms who got nothing from their DH after having a baby: do you get presents from DH at Christmas, on your birthday, on Mother’s Day, etc?

Depends. Sometimes I tell him no gifts. I’m just not a huge gift person so there isn’t always something I want. My DH is the same way so this goes both ways. We celebrate in other ways.

Anonymous wrote:My pregnancies are hard and take a toll on my body. I’m in PT for months after. I definitely gift myself something nice. I’m not into jewelry. I prefer some kind of self care package. I was in diapers during my last pregnancy because I couldn’t make it to the bathroom on on time. My hips would get stuck in the middle of the walk to bathroom. I don’t care if you had an easy pregnancy. Gifts for all 😂

I love a girl’s girl!!! 😍😍😍😚

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the moms who got nothing from their DH after having a baby: do you get presents from DH at Christmas, on your birthday, on Mother’s Day, etc?

Me? No. I am usually taken out on Mother’s Day to a restaurant of DH’s vegan/vegetarian choosing. I do not get other gifts

Anonymous wrote:Diamond pendant necklace for my first baby.
2nd baby we just got a new larger car and I didn’t want anything
3rd baby he got me a 3 stone diamond ring (to symbolize 3 babies). It was also our 10th anniversary and my 35th birthday. I wear it instead of my engagement ring.

Absolutely cute. 🥰

Anonymous wrote:I am Indian and there is no concept of push present in my culture. However, ILs and parents both sets of parents gave me and the baby gold jewelry and a bunch of silver baby accessories in a ceremony to welcome the baby and introduce the baby to friends and relatives.

Most of my jewelry has actually come from my parents and ILs. My DH will buy me stuff from Costco jewelry and call it a day.

Ain’t nothing wrong with Costco jewelry. It’s real.

Anonymous wrote:No, I think it's something that only wealthy white people do. At least, I've never heard of it done by none country club types.

If my DH had spent a ton of money on jewelry when the kids were born, I'd have been pissed - especially with so many childcare bills around the corner.

It’s the tradition in my culture for close family members to give substantial jewelry gifts for the new baby. DH snuck in a few pieces for me too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I think it's something that only wealthy white people do. At least, I've never heard of it done by none country club types.

If my DH had spent a ton of money on jewelry when the kids were born, I'd have been pissed - especially with so many childcare bills around the corner.

I feel the same- would rather spend the money on all the diapers, wipes, aquaphor, 5 extra sets of pump parts, etc to care for kid while exclusively pumping than on jewelry.

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It doesn’t have to be diamonds. I wrote earlier that I did laser hair removal on my legs. Get creative.

i mean i did make my husband by a roomba shortly before I delievered... didn't think of it as a push present