Anonymous
08/29/2024 23:36
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
Does it matter if it's normal?
It's what you have.
Didn’t Hannibal lector say that line?
Anonymous
08/29/2024 23:34
Subject: Re:Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Saving the money for what?
Good question.
If she's single and childless at 36 -- probably the ability to retire at a reasonable age and enjoy her retirement. Say she saves 20k per year from age 30 to age 55 (assuming she is contributing financially to the household via food and utilities plus buying her own clothes and electronics and taking occasional vacations which she should reasonably be able to do while still saving 20k because she has no housing costs). She could then retire at 60 with $2.5m. If she inherits her parents' house then she would be okay.
Single and childless people don't have to worry about paying for college but retirement and healthcare costs can be scary. I absolutely think there is value in finding a way to avoid paying rant past age 35 if you can help it at all. The preferred method is to buy a home and build wealth by building equity. But without a partner and with a middle class salary this is going to be hard. You also have no buffer on your income -- if you buy a house solo and then lose your job there is no safety net in a two-income household.
Living with parents provided they are okay with it and you contribute and take care of them as they age is a reasonable compromise. If the parents don't want it that's a different situation and she would need to come up with another plan. But 36 is around the age many people start looking ahead and trying to figure out how to make sure they don't have to work for the rest of their lives.
So you’re pick is she’s antisocial and a dependent for a few more decades in order to freeload from her old parents from age 18-50 in order to save $10000s and then go live the high life of leisure, travel, experiences and friends once they die?
Ok….
Anonymous
08/29/2024 23:31
Subject: Re:Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:At that age you can probably just reframe it as she's taking care of the parents.
Reframe it for whom? If that’s not true it’s misleading.
Anonymous
08/29/2024 23:30
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
She's not "normal" to regular standards but I'm sure her parents know that already.
I have a co-worker who is 30 and lives "at home". He's a pretty weird introvert character and not good looking so I'm sure he'll live at his parents home forever.
However, If I was his parents, I would still encourage him/her to move out, experience the world on their own and not be a burden on their aging parents...
Note: I am from a Culture where the children usually stay home until marriage, specially girls and I still find an over 30 living at home unhealthy and weird.
Why did you bring this up?
DP. “Not good looking” can mean bad hygiene, poor posture, don’t care style, unaware of society or norms, etc. Can also mean handicaps or physical deformities.
Anonymous
08/29/2024 23:28
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
Save for...what? Die old and lonely and wealthy?
Cats
Anonymous
08/28/2024 15:46
Subject: Re:Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Where are you from, OP?
In some cultures, this is quite normal. In others, it’s not.
In some cultures, this is quite normal. In others, it’s not.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 15:45
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
She's not "normal" to regular standards but I'm sure her parents know that already.
I have a co-worker who is 30 and lives "at home". He's a pretty weird introvert character and not good looking so I'm sure he'll live at his parents home forever.
However, If I was his parents, I would still encourage him/her to move out, experience the world on their own and not be a burden on their aging parents...
Note: I am from a Culture where the children usually stay home until marriage, specially girls and I still find an over 30 living at home unhealthy and weird.
Why did you bring this up?
Anonymous
08/28/2024 15:45
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
Are you talking about yourself? Or someone else? If it is someone else and you don't pay their bills than MYOB
Anonymous
08/28/2024 15:43
Subject: Re:Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Saving the money for what?
Good question.
Girl is probably sitting on millions in crypto and uses $60k job for health insurnce. Waiting to cash out
OP nevers says no friends,
or whether rich or how they know the young lady's plans. I mean the girl could meet someone today, have two kids by 40
Anonymous
08/27/2024 17:01
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
It depends if it’s son or daughter. If it’s your son, he’s a loser.
If it’s your daughter, that’s ok.
If it’s your daughter, that’s ok.
Anonymous
08/27/2024 08:50
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Not normal and you are clearly an enabler.
Anonymous
08/26/2024 10:55
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
She's not "normal" to regular standards but I'm sure her parents know that already.
I have a co-worker who is 30 and lives "at home". He's a pretty weird introvert character and not good looking so I'm sure he'll live at his parents home forever.
However, If I was his parents, I would still encourage him/her to move out, experience the world on their own and not be a burden on their aging parents...
Note: I am from a Culture where the children usually stay home until marriage, specially girls and I still find an over 30 living at home unhealthy and weird.
Anonymous
08/26/2024 10:25
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
It's fine if she had a vibrant social life. But she doesn't, and living with parents is not helping that front.
I recently read about a man who lived with his parents until his mid 30s and saved a lot of money, but it also severely limited his social skills and connections, and he really regretted it.
I recently read about a man who lived with his parents until his mid 30s and saved a lot of money, but it also severely limited his social skills and connections, and he really regretted it.
Anonymous
08/26/2024 10:19
Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?
Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...
Save for...what? Die old and lonely and wealthy?
Anonymous
08/26/2024 08:43
Subject: Re:Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
I hope she has hobbies beyond work/eat/sleep and plans for this money she's saving? It sounds like depression or high-functioning ASD.
This. Living with one's parents at that age would be highly unusual in the US for an adult without serious mental or physical problems. If she has hobbies and interests and other things going on in her life beyond work, then she is probably fine, but, if not, I would be concerned. Is she at least successful in her career, and does she find it interesting and enjoyable?
As others have noted, I hope that the parents are charging rent.