Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:20     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:I think we’re all missing the much more important point that a school is asking all of the families to host a large gathering at home??? That’s insane to me! I assume it’s fake, right?


Right? Or a south asian being a member of a country club. As if!
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:19     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Yes, super weird. It’s one thing when it’s close friends or family, but this is a very diverse group of people. Just don’t host OP.

We are also a no shoe house. The kids’ friends, our close friends and family who come often, just remove their shoes on their own now. But when we have a party, I usually wet wipe the common areas / kitchen after guests leave. It’s not that tough unless you have wall to wall carpet.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:18     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I think we’re all missing the much more important point that a school is asking all of the families to host a large gathering at home??? That’s insane to me! I assume it’s fake, right?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:15     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Just get a dog. Your views will change. Your kids will be healthier too.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:15     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I wear house shoes at home. If you gave me a heads-up I would bring my house shoes to your home. That would be ok right?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:14     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Also, let people know in the invite. You could also provide shoe covers like realtors use, as a compromise? Or maybe that’s weird?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:13     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
We are a no-shoe household but for big parties we don’t make people take off their shoes. As a PP said, DCUM is hotly divided on this issue!
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:11     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.


Thank you for doing this! I wear orthotics but I’m youngish for that and I don’t always carry slippers to other peoples homes. Once I had a friend request that I take off my shoes and my knees were killing me. I get it but at least offer an alternative. I told her I have foot issues.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:08     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.


Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).


Removing shoes is a little more personal and is related to hygiene.

For a lot of Asians it's cultural. Yes, the origin of the cultural tradition is hygiene, but that doesn't mean it isn't cultural. The origin of a lot of religious food restrictions is health and hygiene, but you wouldn't tell a Jewish person they should eat shellfish because it's more sanitary nowadays, would you?



It’s not only Asian. Muslims too and they come from some many continents. I’ve met Russians who don’t wear schools inside.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 12:06     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
This has been the norm for me but I’m Muslim American. We have a large rug in the living room and the upstairs and stairs are carpeted. I don’t want to shampoo my rugs after a party. We also have one child who is crawling. Be respectful of other peoples house rules.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 11:57     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.


Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).


Asking for religious reasons, and giving a heads-up is extremely different than these anxiety-ridden "hostesses" who can't bear to have shoes in their house. I have respect for the former and absolutely none for the latter.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 11:55     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.


You expect your guests to wear slippers worn by other people? Gross. Maybe you grew up renting bowling shoes but I didn't.


Agreed. How gross. I can promise the PP, your stress over shoes in the household is a much bigger problem and says much more about you. No need to worry, nobody wh would wear shoes into your house will ever be invited because they already avoid you like the plague.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 11:53     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.


Not anal. And we don’t literally track fecal matter into our home.


Be clear. This is not normal behavior. There is zero--zero--evidence that guests wearing shoes into someone's house has ever caused an illness. It just doesn't happen. For goodness sake, just mop your floor when they're gone. It is truly a diagnosable condition if you can't host people with shoes on their feet. I can't even believe this is where we are in society. What happened to people?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 11:49     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I don’t care but it’s good to be prepared.

I went to a holiday party once at a shoe less house. I was barefoot and so uncomfortable!
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 11:18     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.


Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).


Removing shoes is a little more personal and is related to hygiene.

For a lot of Asians it's cultural. Yes, the origin of the cultural tradition is hygiene, but that doesn't mean it isn't cultural. The origin of a lot of religious food restrictions is health and hygiene, but you wouldn't tell a Jewish person they should eat shellfish because it's more sanitary nowadays, would you?