^ but my mom and sister went premature grey in their 20s--jet black hair. They both have a brown that looks good. But we all have thick hair--doesn't thin or get brittle. My mom has ridiculously thick hair at 80--so much so she always has to get it 'thinned' a bit.

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Anonymous wrote:I transitioned to my 90% grey during the pandemic and after a couple of years, went back to coloring it. I hate the time (and expense) of coloring every 4 weeks, but I found I looked very washed out as a grey headed person so I “needed” to apply makeup each day, and more of it than I am used to/comfortable with, and I found that made me feel less than my usual self - vs coloring myhair its original brown makes me
feel exactly like myself.

This is so funny. Exactly like yourself while covering yourself up. “Yourself” has changed. Accept it or be one of those pathetic people in their 50s with obviously fake hair.

WTF?! I am 54 and have so few greys. Just about 1/16th at crown of head. My hair is still naturally deep brunette. My dad never really went grey--got some late 70s but still a lot of dark brown.

I go every 6-7 weeks for a tiny root touch up and gloss. My hair is not brassy since 98% of it is natural.

I went all grey two years ago and I love it. My face is very unlined and pretty youthful so the Grey hair young face combo is really nice. I’m pretty fit as well and that helps.

I think it's easier at home than at a salon. I would waste so much time and money going. Even Nice and Easy is actually really good and gives a highlight effect. You have to go lighter than you think. Then touching up is no big deal, so cheap and quick at home. Or the henna solution above. Have not done it but it sounds like a good idea!

Anonymous wrote:I use a toning gloss to fix brassiness and to get more time between salon visits. I air dry with a little argan oil and my hair is healthy

But all the toner in the world can’t buy you more than 6 weeks if you have a significant amount of gray roots against brown hair.

I use a toning gloss to fix brassiness and to get more time between salon visits. I air dry with a little argan oil and my hair is healthy

I'm currently out west where women rarely color their hair. I find those with a good cut and women that are not overweight (rare to be overweight out west) look the best and youngest with gray.

Overweight plus raggedy cut is aging.

I say go for it. I’m 35 with lots of silver coming in all the time. I started noticing greys in my 20s. I am not interested in dying my hair for several reasons. I’m pretty low maintenance but I have tried different haircut lengths to find a style that works for my hair and makes me feel confident. I also focus on well fitted clothing in flattering colors. I am in good health, good shape and have great relationships. I think of these things and realize that my grey hair is not a significant part of my identity.

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Anonymous wrote:You try going gray. If it ages you too much, you can always color it again, too. Good luck.

yup, be prepared to be ignored except for the occasional annoying you go girl power age gracefully bitter old lady

What do you mean by "ignored"? Do you mean men don't give you appreciative looks? I'm 58, curvy and stopped coloring my hair during COVID. I don't feel ignored by anyone - but I'm not looking for appreciative looks from anyone.

Anonymous wrote:After years of routine expensive salon coloring and the shortening interval in which the grey roots would reappear, I went natural. Absolutely, unequivocally liberating.

I did, too. 3 hours in a salon chair every 5 weeks at $300 per visit. I just stopped during covid, and I'm thrilled to be done. Do I look older? Somewhat, but I don't care. My hair is still mostly brown with these chunky silver streaks framing my face, and more than one person has asked where I get those done.

It is, as the PP said, liberating.

After years of routine expensive salon coloring and the shortening interval in which the grey roots would reappear, I went natural. Absolutely, unequivocally liberating.

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Anonymous wrote:I transitioned to my 90% grey during the pandemic and after a couple of years, went back to coloring it. I hate the time (and expense) of coloring every 4 weeks, but I found I looked very washed out as a grey headed person so I “needed” to apply makeup each day, and more of it than I am used to/comfortable with, and I found that made me feel less than my usual self - vs coloring myhair its original brown makes me
feel exactly like myself.

This is so funny. Exactly like yourself while covering yourself up. “Yourself” has changed. Accept it or be one of those pathetic people in their 50s with obviously fake hair.

You are always posting this on hair color threads. It's really weird.

OP, it will probably look great.

I'm 45 and 2 years ago I decided to go natural. I had discovered a few bright white hairs when I was about 35 and immediately gone for high and lowlights. Now, 2 years later, my natural hair is grown out and guess what? I have hardly any white hairs, certainly no more than the few I discovered 10 years ago when I panicked and went to the colorist. My natural color is dark blonde, and the few white hairs that are there don't even register as "gray": one of my friends recently said, "You don't have any gray AT ALL", even though...I do. My hair is now so thick and glossy without the regular high and lowlights too. When you stop coloring, you are trading color for having hair in great condition.

I recommend Aveda products. They are ghastly expensive, but my hair has never looked this good in my life.

Anonymous wrote:I transitioned to my 90% grey during the pandemic and after a couple of years, went back to coloring it. I hate the time (and expense) of coloring every 4 weeks, but I found I looked very washed out as a grey headed person so I “needed” to apply makeup each day, and more of it than I am used to/comfortable with, and I found that made me feel less than my usual self - vs coloring myhair its original brown makes me
feel exactly like myself.

This is so funny. Exactly like yourself while covering yourself up. “Yourself” has changed. Accept it or be one of those pathetic people in their 50s with obviously fake hair.

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Anonymous wrote:You try going gray. If it ages you too much, you can always color it again, too. Good luck.

yup, be prepared to be ignored except for the occasional annoying you go girl power age gracefully bitter old lady

Wow. I have gray/white hair at 51. No illusions that it makes me look good, and it certainly makes me look older. I hope the occasional person who says “ hey, I like your hair!” isn’t bitter. But you sure are.