Anonymous wrote:Just tell them most adults don't like to hear kids talk like that and think people with trashy mouths are trashy people. Then move on. The more they see that it gets a reaction, the more they'll probably keep doing it.

Guess what a smart kid would say to you if you spewed this nonsense…that’s f**king stupid mom.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s low class.

+1 Sign of a limited vocabulary.

*sigh*

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-swearing-a-sign-of-a-limited-vocabulary/

https://bpb-us-w2.wpmucdn.com/campuspress.yale.edu/dist/a/1215/files/2016/05/Giordano-rg5y5r.pdf

Interesting reads but read the conclusions in both as may not want to use these to prove what think is your point. The conclusions go against you.

I think people who see these words as just words don’t really care. It’s more about uptight people making statements like “poorly educated!” and throwing out false claims that had people link to some studies done on the subject.

My teens don't at home. Sometimes I'll be in the office and I hear one of their friends say it, but they'd NEVER say it if they knew I could hear.

Our rule is that if it used in proper context, it is fine. But it shouldn't be used habitually, in general public, in an office setting, or in a derogatory manner to strangers.

We aren't bothered by "bad" language in our house. Words are just words. That said, I would be livid if my kids told me to F-off or something like that. Disrespect is not tolerated.

Swearing among friends, over texts or in private conversations, does not bother me in the least. Swearing loudly in public, around small children, or around people you just don’t know very well, is low class.

Anonymous wrote:I see it as low class behavior. Neither parent swears. Occasionally, it will slip for DC (all HS ages now). I still let them how I feel about it.

Did you bother to read what’s posted on research? At least you could argue why you think the experts are wrong instead of just spouting about how it’s low class behavior. What is your source, your experience to make your judgement?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s low class.

+1 Sign of a limited vocabulary.

*sigh*

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-swearing-a-sign-of-a-limited-vocabulary/

https://bpb-us-w2.wpmucdn.com/campuspress.yale.edu/dist/a/1215/files/2016/05/Giordano-rg5y5r.pdf

Interesting reads but read the conclusions in both as may not want to use these to prove what think is your point. The conclusions go against you.

Just tell them most adults don't like to hear kids talk like that and think people with trashy mouths are trashy people. Then move on. The more they see that it gets a reaction, the more they'll probably keep doing it.

7 because she was repeating it from a kid at school. A rich, white kid, by the way.

I see it as low class behavior. Neither parent swears. Occasionally, it will slip for DC (all HS ages now). I still let them how I feel about it.

I use the f word more than it seems many of you do. Sometimes it’s just the word that feels the best in the moment. My older son (15) doesn’t curse around his family but must curse around his friends. My middle son (13) is a definite potty mouth. I’ve acknowledged with him that sometimes those words just feel better than lots of other words but that you have to be thinking about context…who is going to hear you, is it too big of a reaction relative to the stimulus, will someone be offended or make trouble if they hear it. I’ve also told him that using it too much is lazy and make you look like you don’t have a good vocabulary. So, it’s about balance for me and definitely isn’t a battle I choose to fight.

Anonymous wrote:It has nothing to do with class, income or how you raise them. It’s innate personality. I have two teens. One never swears, ever, and is vocal about being the grammar police sometimes.

One uses it quite a bit in casual conversation with friends or even us at home. He never does in front of grandparents, at work or school, at us or in situations where strangers or the general public may hear.

We always hear from others how polite and mature our kids are. Knowing your audience is most important, not if you occasionally swear with friends in a private setting.

Swearing is low SES.

My 14 year old uses it. My 12 year old says "frick."

It's all about context. We don't use icky language like gendered or racist slurs. We don't throw the F word around. But if you drop a brick on your foot? Go for it. I think teaching context is a much better approach than just pretending your kid doesn't do things or know things. At some point over the last few years, I stopped using Mom language and just started speaking like myself around them, which means I use curse words to show that I'm really passionate about something.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s low class.

It didn’t happen in elementary because we live in a high SES neighborhood with its own local ES.

But the middle school has 10 feeder elementary schools, and some of those 10 are in low SES areas.

Once my kids were exposed to low SES kids, they started using the F word all the time.

They were also exposed to kids vaping in the bathroom for the first time in 7th grade.

Please. It’s not a low-SES/high-SES thing. It’s part of going to middle school and starting to learn what kind of things shock and frighten the old people.

Agree 100% with this.