I wah and most of the time I only interact with dh, dcs, their friends if they are over, and the few neighbors I see out and about. I also talk to my parents on the phone. No friends or other social life...And I don't miss it. I like my house, my yard, my pets, and go out about once a week locally.

Anonymous wrote:Your life sounds calm, organized and peaceful.

I'd love to have that. When life isn't boring it seems to be absolutely awful and devastating. Give me the boring life any day.

OP here. Sometimes it IS calm, organized and peaceful. But a lot of times it's boring and lonely. One time I was standing outside my apartment building waiting for a food delivery and noticed a lot of interestingly-dressed people walking by me, clearly on their way to some event at the stadium I live a couple blocks from. The next day I saw there'd been a Lady Gaga concert. That night I was invited to my sibling's house for dinner and mentioned that, and he said "Oh I know - we went to that." I never have plans on Friday or Saturday nights, holiday weekends, holidays, etc. There are no block parties where I live. Sometimes when I'm walking and someone is behind me making me feel unsafe I think about how long it would take anyone to realize something's wrong and try to find me. I was shocked to find out that when my cousin moved out she and my aunt talked every single night. It made me sad that my mom and I didn't do that until realizing there was no need because while my cousin went out with friends, clubbing, to bars, to events and parties, I did that less than once a year. So sometimes I'm very, deeply lonely. And as I get older it gets worse because of adding in the worry of getting injured. Are you too young at 47 to get a Life Alert necklace?

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Anonymous wrote:Ironically, I found your account of your boring life strangely fascinating.

It's very Eleanor Oliphant, isn't it.

Check out that dull women’s group on FB. It’s really quite fascinating and people say they are dull but then have all these little niche hobbies and interests. I find it very inspiring.

Exactly! I came here to say the same but couldn’t remember the name of the fb group. Thanks for the reminder. It’s awesome.

Your life sounds calm, organized and peaceful.

I'd love to have that. When life isn't boring it seems to be absolutely awful and devastating. Give me the boring life any day.

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Anonymous wrote:Ironically, I found your account of your boring life strangely fascinating.

It's very Eleanor Oliphant, isn't it.

Check out that dull women’s group on FB. It’s really quite fascinating and people say they are dull but then have all these little niche hobbies and interests. I find it very inspiring.

This is my goal in life. Currently busy with young kids but when they are less demanding on my time I have a whole list of hobbies and things to learn in mind.
#1 on my list is to earn my master Gardner qualify through university of MD.
I generally prefer a quiet life filled with low stress hobbies and socializing through those hobbies.

Yes, all my life. I like people and socializing however, but on a smaller scale. I do not enjoy traveling- health issue causes too much stress and the idea of being somewhere without known medical care is anxiety producing. Love my house, my neighbors, my animals, my garden, my friends, cooking, painting, decorating.

Loved having kids and all that went with it- but am now an empty nester.

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Anonymous wrote:Ironically, I found your account of your boring life strangely fascinating.

It's very Eleanor Oliphant, isn't it.

Check out that dull women’s group on FB. It’s really quite fascinating and people say they are dull but then have all these little niche hobbies and interests. I find it very inspiring.

Anonymous wrote:I also enjoyed reading your account of your life, OP. Yours is my ideal but I have young kids to entertain and cart around and a family history of Alzheimer’s that scares the heck out of me. Because of those things I fill my no - work time signing my kids up for activities, coordinating those activities and exercising daily to ward off dementia risk. DH is more social and feels more pressure to do more social things- lunches with his friends and organizing travel for all of us with other families with kids.

Socialization and physical activity are believed to reduce the chances of getting Alzheimer's symptoms. Go be social with your husband sometimes. For your safety.

I also enjoyed reading your account of your life, OP. Yours is my ideal but I have young kids to entertain and cart around and a family history of Alzheimer’s that scares the heck out of me. Because of those things I fill my no - work time signing my kids up for activities, coordinating those activities and exercising daily to ward off dementia risk. DH is more social and feels more pressure to do more social things- lunches with his friends and organizing travel for all of us with other families with kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what kind of job do you (and others on here) have? Just curious, as I find it very tiring to be extroverted just for work. I have to be though.

OP here. I work from home 4 days a week, and in office 1. I'm an EA. I love being home - I'm in my nightgown right now. Pre-pandemic when I was in the office every day I didn't even realize how draining it was because I was so used to always being exhausted after work and collapsing on the couch for two hours each day. Funnily enough, now that I'm alone more, I'm more extroverted because I have more energy to spend.

Today is an exciting day - my sister is getting a boob job and I ordered a card off Amazon for the occasion, which I will mail tomorrow from my office. I asked her husband rounded to the nearest ten, how many boob jokes I can make before it's too much. Also, I'm supposed to give myself a shot every 8 weeks and due to changed insurance recently, couldn't get the shot. So my Dr's office said they had samples and I could come pick one up. So this morning I ran there and picked one up, came home and realized it was the wrong needle that I can't administer myself. So now I'm going back on my lunch hour for them to administer it. I'm going to bring my own Bandaid. This second trip will bring me to about 8200 steps today, which makes me very happy. I love getting steps in just by doing errands. So as you can see, my "exciting day" is pretty different than other people's exciting days.

In case you want it, here's a link to the boob card I got (feel free to make suggestions of what to write inside): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TXQGJ5S?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

Anonymous wrote:I am poor and rarely travel - generally once every four years or so and usually for a funeral. Most of the time I'm fine and at peace with it, but I have noticed at work that everyone is either going on a trip or just got back from a trip, and also every time I see anyone they ask what's new and ... nothing is. Nothing is ever new with me. I got a really prettily designed box of Kleenex the other day? I returned a David Sedaris book to the library without finishing it because it seemed boring which was a change from how I felt reading his other books? I deep-cleaned my shower stall and am waiting on a new shower liner? I don't really have anything going on. I almost never do. Maybe once every month or two I get together with relatives, and maybe 3-ish times a year I get together with a friend. I read library books, go for walks, watch Youtube, etc.

I volunteer once a week, and sometimes after I get home from that, I don't talk out loud from Saturday until the following Thursday when I go into my office. Wait, sometimes on a walk I'll ask to pet a cute dog. Is anyone else like me, just quietly humming along not doing much of anything?

Travel does not equate to not being boring, OP. More people are like how you describe yourself, you may simply not have met them, yet.