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Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

DP. I think what you say is reasonable, but I don't think this is about "basic grooming" but about what you find attractive, and what you find attractive is somewhat determined by when you grew up and what you saw around you. I also find it unattractive to have underarm hair so I shave. But norms change and the kids today see different standards. Heck, women used to find bare, unstockinged legs gross and inappropriate in the 1950s. Standards change.

So when these 15-year olds get office jobs will they care about hairy legs? How would the boardroom look like in 10-15 years?

Perhaps they’ll all be in pants. (No one wants to see men’s hairy legs in the boardroom, either, but they figured that one out.) Or perhaps board meetings will all be virtual and we’ll never know what anyone’s legs look like, not whether they’re wearing skirts or pants or anything at all.

Regardless, the boardroom is not a reason for anyone to shave as a teenager.

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Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

DP. I think what you say is reasonable, but I don't think this is about "basic grooming" but about what you find attractive, and what you find attractive is somewhat determined by when you grew up and what you saw around you. I also find it unattractive to have underarm hair so I shave. But norms change and the kids today see different standards. Heck, women used to find bare, unstockinged legs gross and inappropriate in the 1950s. Standards change.

So when these 15-year olds get office jobs will they care about hairy legs? How would the boardroom look like in 10-15 years?

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Anonymous wrote:My 15yr old is blonde and only shaved her armpits and bikini area. Never the legs. She said today on the beach “you can really see my leg hair now that I am so tan” and then shrugged and went back to reading her book. She’s had a boyfriend for 7 months and it pretty girly girl.

It just doesn’t seem to be a thing she cares about and I love it

Curious - if she doesn't care about the leg hair, why does she care so much about the bikini line? That's the worst place to shave.

Thos is a creepy question.

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Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

DP. I think what you say is reasonable, but I don't think this is about "basic grooming" but about what you find attractive, and what you find attractive is somewhat determined by when you grew up and what you saw around you. I also find it unattractive to have underarm hair so I shave. But norms change and the kids today see different standards. Heck, women used to find bare, unstockinged legs gross and inappropriate in the 1950s. Standards change.

So when these 15-year olds get office jobs will they care about hairy legs? How would the boardroom look like in 10-15 years?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

DP. I think what you say is reasonable, but I don't think this is about "basic grooming" but about what you find attractive, and what you find attractive is somewhat determined by when you grew up and what you saw around you. I also find it unattractive to have underarm hair so I shave. But norms change and the kids today see different standards. Heck, women used to find bare, unstockinged legs gross and inappropriate in the 1950s. Standards change.

So when these 15-year olds get office jobs will they care about hairy legs? How would the boardroom look like in 10-15 years?

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Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

DP. I think what you say is reasonable, but I don't think this is about "basic grooming" but about what you find attractive, and what you find attractive is somewhat determined by when you grew up and what you saw around you. I also find it unattractive to have underarm hair so I shave. But norms change and the kids today see different standards. Heck, women used to find bare, unstockinged legs gross and inappropriate in the 1950s. Standards change.

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Anonymous wrote:My 15yr old is blonde and only shaved her armpits and bikini area. Never the legs. She said today on the beach “you can really see my leg hair now that I am so tan” and then shrugged and went back to reading her book. She’s had a boyfriend for 7 months and it pretty girly girl.

It just doesn’t seem to be a thing she cares about and I love it

Curious - if she doesn't care about the leg hair, why does she care so much about the bikini line? That's the worst place to shave.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

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Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.

I don’t think it’s about caring what other people think. I think it’s about basic grooming. I think it’s unattractive so I shave. I’m fair with no real hair on my legs but I shave under arms and it’s easy. You can dress fashionably with the best makeup but if you have hair coming out from under your arms it immediately downgrades the look. Same with grown men in tank tops. Nobody wants to see their underarms at a nice restaurant when you’re eating.

Anonymous wrote:My 15yr old is blonde and only shaved her armpits and bikini area. Never the legs. She said today on the beach “you can really see my leg hair now that I am so tan” and then shrugged and went back to reading her book. She’s had a boyfriend for 7 months and it pretty girly girl.

It just doesn’t seem to be a thing she cares about and I love it

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she were embarrassed wouldn’t she shave or whatever? My oldest and only girl just graduated from college. She very rarely shaves legs or underarms and was never into it. She’s very into fashion and sometimes wears elaborate makeup. Like me, she is fair and doesn’t have much hair, but she has said she wouldn’t change habits if she did. The only times she shaves or uses nair are if she’s going somewhere that she feels it would be upsetting to someone important to her. So for example, she will shave legs for a wedding, or if she’s doing something fancier with one set of grandparents. She generally DGAF what anyone thinks and does as she pleases.