A grown man does not want a gift from his teenaged sons girlfriend. The end.

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter’s gift is that she be a good guest…. polite, conversational, and participatory at the party. If the mom is doing the serving, etc., she should offer to help.

All of this will make the son and girlfriend look good to dad’s friends which will make him proud and happy, and that would be the best gift of all.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Do not bring a gift. She is just joining to keep boyfriend company. The dad does not want a gift from his son’s 15 yr old girlfriend. Adult birthday parties don’t usually involve gifts at all. They are just parties to socialize and celebrate.

+1!

The proper etiquette is to give nothing. Anything more (card, cookies) is innaproproate and implies over familiarity.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks a card is worse than a plate of cookies (which she shouldn't bring either)?

yes, you are the only one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a card. How bizarre of you to think that bringing a card is a bad idea.

A card is arguably more personal than a food item. This HS girl has no relationship to her BF's dad. So she should go to the store, pick out a card, write "Happy Birthday, Mr. Larloson! From, Hannah", bring it to the party, for which she's being invited solely to keep her bf company, and hand it to the dad?

Why not just walk up to the dad at the party and wish him a happy birthday?

If that works for you, do it. You sound like my tightwad BIL.

Anonymous wrote:Bourbon

Do not give alcohol unless you are absolutely sure that the person or someone in their household does not have an alcohol problem.

Bourbon

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks a card is worse than a plate of cookies (which she shouldn't bring either)?

yes, you are the only one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a card. How bizarre of you to think that bringing a card is a bad idea.

A card is arguably more personal than a food item. This HS girl has no relationship to her BF's dad. So she should go to the store, pick out a card, write "Happy Birthday, Mr. Larloson! From, Hannah", bring it to the party, for which she's being invited solely to keep her bf company, and hand it to the dad?

Why not just walk up to the dad at the party and wish him a happy birthday?

Look, none of this matters. The dad won’t care if she brings something or doesn’t. But don’t act like a card is super personal. I get generic cards that say happy birthday with a signature from the doctor, the dentist and the financial advisor. This is the same category, not at all personal.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks a card is worse than a plate of cookies (which she shouldn't bring either)?

yes, you are the only one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a card. How bizarre of you to think that bringing a card is a bad idea.

A card is arguably more personal than a food item. This HS girl has no relationship to her BF's dad. So she should go to the store, pick out a card, write "Happy Birthday, Mr. Larloson! From, Hannah", bring it to the party, for which she's being invited solely to keep her bf company, and hand it to the dad?

Why not just walk up to the dad at the party and wish him a happy birthday?

Maybe it would be appropriate for her to bring something if she were an adult had been dating your son for years, etc. (For example my son's girlfriend (22) would probably give DH a small, thoughtful, appropriate gift because she is aware of his interests and has had actual conversations with him over the last 2+ years).

There is nothing appropriate your HS sophomore can bring for this 50 year old man.

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks a card is worse than a plate of cookies (which she shouldn't bring either)?

yes, you are the only one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a card. How bizarre of you to think that bringing a card is a bad idea.

Who are you people that are suggesting she bring food? Homemade cookies? Really?? No!!! No gift is necessary and especially not food.

A card would be a nice gesture. I don't understand these people who think a card is weird. It is the most neutral thing you can get someone.

All she needs to take is a nice card.

Anonymous wrote:Do not send candy or plants. Food such as an appetizer tray is fine.

WTF? Never bring food to someone else's party!!!

Am I the only one who thinks a card is worse than a plate of cookies (which she shouldn't bring either)?