Anonymous
05/16/2024 12:35
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.
Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.
I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.
No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.
Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.
It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.
And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?
Mother’s Day - not auntie or big helper day or all the nice people in the world day.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 12:02
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It waters down the occasion - it’s meaningless if every aunt gets included. What are we telling the child? Your aunt is just as much a mother as your mother?
The mom is going through a rough time. Only a guy can think this is a good idea to taker her child and make auntie also a Mother’s Day card. Fool
Ehhh. I think it’s sweet that OP cares enough about her niece or nephew that it was presumed she’d want their handprint. Only a certain level of family cares enough to be gifted that.
I’m an only child and my DH has a mentally ill sister who is estranged and has no relationship with our kids. I would love if they had an Aunt in their life close enough to receive their handprints. Maybe get a little perspective on what is more important than getting some sort of made up recognition on a made up holiday.
Gift it on any day you want but why on Mother’s Day?
Because no one is making toddler handprints on different occasions because of something this petty. I guess brother could have held on them and gifted them a different day (for all we know he gave it to them days later) or maybe they got together at a big family event that day so it made sense to give it to them together.
Acting like this is a sure way to have brother not want to do nice things with the kid going forward. Everyone is going to be walking on egg shells around sister.
I didn't actually get it yet. I took my own kids to see their other grandmother for Mother's Day, so I haven't seen my sister's kids since the holiday. Someone took Great-Aunt her handprints and took pictures, and my sister saw them and became upset.
But they are definitely Mother's Day themed. A little poem that ends in "Happy Mother's Day", with handprints on stems so they look like flowers.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 11:57
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
You need help!!
Anonymous
05/16/2024 10:19
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.
Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.
I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.
No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.
Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.
It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.
And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?
Anonymous
05/16/2024 10:18
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Possibly. DH has a history of being pretty thoughtless when it comes to me, but he still falls all over himself to do things for his mom (like all the time, not just for MD). It would have bothered me early on because I would have been 99% sure that he bothered with a gift at all because he wanted to give his mom one, and the one for me was an after thought or because my child mentioned it.
At this point I just have no expectations for him, though, and my kids are much older, so it wouldn't bother me at all. But I can imagine something like this bothering me in the past solely because I would have known (assumed) that I was not the originally intended recipient. .
This^. My DH was completely obsessed with his birth family. Only reason he took pictures of our family was to send it to his family.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 10:11
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Your sister needs therapy.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 10:07
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
No. I'd be happy someone helped my child do that, think it was sweet that they thought of everyone else, and move on.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 10:06
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:would you be upset?
If someone helped your toddler make you a gift with hand prints, and made extras for other female family members, such as aunts, or grandma, would that bother you? Would it make you feel less special to know that other people got essentially the same gift?
I get it. It hurts but try to see the silver lining. You should allow or even encourage your kid's ties to family (maternal & paternal)and friends so they've more allies in life than just two parents. If something happens to you, they are taken care of. If nothing happens to you but they get extra love, care and support from others, you've done your kids a favor.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:42
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:would you be upset?
If someone helped your toddler make you a gift with hand prints, and made extras for other female family members, such as aunts, or grandma, would that bother you? Would it make you feel less special to know that other people got essentially the same gift?
I opened this prepared to be offended on your behalf, but this is fine. They didn't make a present for some interloper instead of you, it's just extras. A toddler isn't thinking deep thoughts about the importance of motherhood when they make these things, and *you* make it special by how excited you are to recieve it and how effusive you are in your thanks. You're teaching them about giving/receiving at this age.
So they stamped their painted hands three times instead of two. That's just fun and efficient. You got a cute present and your kid gets thank yous from multiple women they love.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:40
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:I am grateful for every adult who is a positive influence in my kids’ lives. Really. And I’m a cynical misanthrope. Any connection my kids have with real or fake aunties,etc., who honestly care about them is a bonus. Throwing a little love back with a handprint would make me happy that we are acknowledging what these bonus adults share with my kids.
I agree but you are the mother who appreciates other females in your child’s life. Not the brother who think this is another nice lady who helps out let’s include her on Mother’s Day.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:38
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Why are you all so invested in taking attention away from mothers on Mother’s Day - so toxic, you do good people.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:36
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
I am grateful for every adult who is a positive influence in my kids’ lives. Really. And I’m a cynical misanthrope. Any connection my kids have with real or fake aunties,etc., who honestly care about them is a bonus. Throwing a little love back with a handprint would make me happy that we are acknowledging what these bonus adults share with my kids.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:35
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
I have a strong feeling that the ppl (maybe just one person?) in this thread insisting that no other females get a toddler handprint on MD are the type of mothers who hog MD for their entire life and make their adult children dread the day.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:35
Subject: Re:If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:I hope your sister is expressing her feelings only to you and not to your brother. That was so nice of him to do that. My brother is great with MD (hosts dinner for my mom and I) and I really appreciate that. But this was really sweet.
The brother is a moron
Anonymous
05/16/2024 09:33
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.
Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.
I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.
No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.
Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.
It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.