Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:44     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told my husband explicitly what I wanted several weeks ago. We also discussed our Father’s Day plans in the same discussion.

I would love for him to intuit that I need to sleep in, want breakfast from this particular bakery, and want it delivered to me in bed before we go to see my sister and her children, then he takes off with our kids to see his mother while I relax with my sister. But it’s really unlikely that he’ll do so and frankly I’m in my 30s and don’t need to settle for some kind of half-assery, so my make my wishes known up front.
This sounds so demanding.


NP and it’s called “clear communication.”


A friend and I got married around the same time and I was always so shocked when she was extremely direct and explicit on what she expected for every holiday. But 20+ years later and after reading these boards, I think she was right. It doesn’t come naturally to everyone and she taught them how she wanted to be loved.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:42     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Was asked to host brunch for extended family. I feel like an afterthought.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:40     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:I don't see what's wrong with that either? All you have to do is make the reservation.

No, no, you give him a list of restaurants and tell him to make the reservation. “If tonight won’t work, then next Thurs Fri Sat etc. Don’t forget to get a babysitter!”
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:16     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong. I rather choose a place myself than go to a “surprise” place that I don’t like.


+1. I remember my friend’s husband took her to Subway to get a $5 foot long for Mother’s Day.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:16     Subject: Re:Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was checking the status of an Amazon order and saw my Mother’s Day gift in there. It’s supposed to arrive by 8pm tomorrow. I’m not mad because my kids are little but it is pretty pathetic of DH!

Why??


I'm also confused what the big deal is.


haha because it's amazon, which is lame, and he ordered something super last minute, clearly. which is the main reason people order gifts from amazon. ask me how I know!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:16     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told my husband explicitly what I wanted several weeks ago. We also discussed our Father’s Day plans in the same discussion.

I would love for him to intuit that I need to sleep in, want breakfast from this particular bakery, and want it delivered to me in bed before we go to see my sister and her children, then he takes off with our kids to see his mother while I relax with my sister. But it’s really unlikely that he’ll do so and frankly I’m in my 30s and don’t need to settle for some kind of half-assery, so my make my wishes known up front.
This sounds so demanding.


NP and it’s called “clear communication.”
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:13     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:How did the human race get by before the greeting card companies invented Mother’s Day?


Horribly.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:10     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told my husband explicitly what I wanted several weeks ago. We also discussed our Father’s Day plans in the same discussion.

I would love for him to intuit that I need to sleep in, want breakfast from this particular bakery, and want it delivered to me in bed before we go to see my sister and her children, then he takes off with our kids to see his mother while I relax with my sister. But it’s really unlikely that he’ll do so and frankly I’m in my 30s and don’t need to settle for some kind of half-assery, so my make my wishes known up front.
This sounds so demanding.


No, I tell my husband what I want too. Did that since the first year we got together. It's not complicated. All he needs to do is be quiet early in the morning so I can sleep in. Today he went shopping for food we need for tomorrow. I buy my own presents for Christmas and birthday. No gifts needed on any other occasion.

Really, it can be VERY EASY. PP's requests are quite simple too. All this is much better than whining because someone forgot or didn't read minds...


Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 20:03     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:I told my husband explicitly what I wanted several weeks ago. We also discussed our Father’s Day plans in the same discussion.

I would love for him to intuit that I need to sleep in, want breakfast from this particular bakery, and want it delivered to me in bed before we go to see my sister and her children, then he takes off with our kids to see his mother while I relax with my sister. But it’s really unlikely that he’ll do so and frankly I’m in my 30s and don’t need to settle for some kind of half-assery, so my make my wishes known up front.
This sounds so demanding.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 19:28     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
How did the human race get by before the greeting card companies invented Mother’s Day?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 18:49     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Avant-premier of Mother’s Day…

I just can tell you that I don’t expect anything from my husband after he forgot my birthday. I will wake up early tomorrow, ready to prepare my breakfast and enjoy it in my garden. Birds will greet me with their “Happy Mother’s Day” song and flowers will smile at me.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 18:37     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I asked my mom if she wanted to go for a nice lunch today as she knew tomorrow I couldn’t do anything because of kids sports (I’m single and kids play club sports so we aren’t even in our home state tomorrow). She brought my Dad and his brother without asking. $230 for lunch.


Why on earth would you pay for them? You should have just sat back and assumed they were treating you….as the mothers in the group.


And yes a single mother of minor kids trumps grandma in deserving to be feted for Mother’s Day. From now on send a card/text and call it a day.


Only by her own husband and kids. The PP invited HER mother out to celebrate her.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 18:32     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:My complaint is that I have a mother figure who is probably expecting something. Every year it’s agony because she doesn’t live close by, she has her own family (who are hopefully taking her out so lunch is not an option), I’ve never sent anyone flowers so I don’t know how to do this and trying to make myself research it is too much. I’ve sent her a card on Thursday. I hope it gets there on time.

Holidays are my curse because I don’t like them, I only remotely like new years but that’s it.



This is me. I don’t give a crap about mother’s day and my mom doesn’t either, but I always feel obligated to send her something (that she’s not going to like anyway).
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 18:22     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:This will be my first mother's day posy divorce. Should I expect something from my ex? I have the kids tomorrow. I am currently dating and he is single still. I just hope he helped the kids plan something for me.


If you have a relationship with your ex you should have had this conversation prior to this weekend and told him it would be important to you for him to help the kids remember. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, but I would have this conversation with my ex and not wait to be disappointed because my kids would know they let me down.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 18:22     Subject: Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!
Anonymous wrote:DH asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day: I know it’s so basic but I want to go to brunch. This was on Thursday. Everyone knows that brunch books out 4-6 weeks before Mother’s Day. He googled and sheepishly said “everyone’s booked.”

Yeah I know.


lol. This made me chuckle. By hey, at least DH asked. He's thinking about you. Same for my husband and I've gotten over it. Mine will never be one who can remember Mother's Day weeks in advance to get reservations. And that's totally fine. I think mother's day is a bit hyped up and over-commercialized. I'm happy spending it at home with the kids and DH cooks dinner.