Anonymous wrote:Op, how do you typically signal your tradwife interests? Why didn’t he pick up on them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m not looking for a meal ticket.
Age: I’m 29 and he’s 30.
Salary: I make base of $180k but can go up to $230k if I work OT. He makes $80k and his salary will not increase.
Outlook: I’m not sure if I would ever stay home but I want the option to take a couple of years off to raise my kids while they’re young.
I grew up in a large family where we didn’t have a lot of extra money. My dad was the sole provider while my mom took care of us. We couldn’t partake in after programs or extra curricular activities because we didn’t have the expendable income to cover it. I had to work 60 hour weeks and delay college so that I could save up and not take out so many student loans. I didn’t finish my degrees until 23 and 27 because of it.
I want to provide my kids with the opportunities I didn’t have. I want them to be able to partake in any activities they want, go on a family vacation, and pay for their college.
I’ve only ever dated men that have matched my salary or made more. It’s a new territory for me.
This problem will work itself out. You're only six years away from a geriatric pregnancy. It doesn't seem likely that you'll find someone that checks all of your boxes before then.
yep - op posts like she's 21-25
She should think about why she's single at nearly 30.
Anonymous wrote:A guy I’ve been dating is everything I want with the exception of his income. His income will likely never change and grow. I know money doesn’t equal happiness and it’s not super important in the grand scheme of things, but it’s important for the life I envision. I want the ability to stay at home when I have kids, give kids a comfortable life, retire, etc. Should I overlook it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Am I that out of touch for thinking that making $80k at 30 is doing pretty well? I’m 50+ and just cracked $100k this year.
Do you support a meal ticket? If so, 80 is not a lot.
If you’re single or you have a true partner, it’s a great salary
Anonymous wrote:A guy I’ve been dating is everything I want with the exception of his income. His income will likely never change and grow. I know money doesn’t equal happiness and it’s not super important in the grand scheme of things, but it’s important for the life I envision. I want the ability to stay at home when I have kids, give kids a comfortable life, retire, etc. Should I overlook it?
Anonymous wrote:Either you can work for the fancy lifestyle you want or stay home for the traditional lifestyle you want. You can't have both AND have this guy. You need to decide what matters more, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, and women aren't gold diggers...OP will happily marriage a POS man who's rich. But dump a great guy who happens not to be rich.
This is why so many women are unhappy. You're still stupid enough to think money does buy happiness. It doesn't after a few years.